Sei isu takasurukirwa nhasi uye sei kutsvaga hukama hwechokwadi

Mashoko ari pamusoro apa kubva mubhuku raJanusz Wisniewski rinonzi "Loneliness on the Web" rinonyatsoratidza mamiriro ezvinhu nhasi. Asi makore 20 chete apfuura, waigona, usingafungi nezvenyaradzo, kuenda kumusasa neshamwari. Rangarirai kudzika kwavaiita matende, kuimba nziyo negitare pamoto, kushambira kwavo vasina kupfeka pasi pemwedzi? Uye kwainyadzisa sei kutanga kurukurirano nomusikana wawaida zvikuru? Uye zvakafadza sei apo nhamba dzinokosheswa dzenhamba dzerunhare dzekumba dzakanyorwa pabepa ...

Unoyeuka here? Kuti izwi rababa vake rine hasha rakamirira sei kune rumwe rutivi rwefoni, uye ipapo avo vanofamba pasi pemwedzi uye, chokwadi, iyo yekutanga kutsvoda yakaoma. Zvaiita sekuti heino mufaro! Mufaro wakakukurira pawakasvetuka kumba, uchirota ramangwana risina makore. Uye hazvina basa kuti kuchine makore mazhinji ekudzidziswa, basa rehusiku, chikwama chisina chinhu uye imba yakamanikana yedorm. Chinhu chikuru chaiva kunzwisisa: “Vakandimirira ikoko. handisi ndega”. 

Asi chii zvino? Zvingaita sekuti munguva yekukurukurirana kwepasirese, hatigone kuva toga, nekuti hama dzedu, shamwari, vanozivana vangori kudzvanya kubva kwatiri. Unogona kuwana nyore shamwari dzekufarira, vanhu vane pfungwa dzakafanana kana kutamba wakasununguka mukufambidzana maapplication. 

Asi nokuda kwechimwe chikonzero, kusurukirwa munyika hakuiti kuderera gore negore. Kusiyana naizvozvo, vanhu vakawanda vari kuzvibvunza mibvunzo iri nyore uye panguva imwe chete inotyisa:

• Sei ndiri ndega kudaro?

• Sei ndisingakwanisi kuvaka hukama hwemazuva ose kwenguva yakareba kudaro?

• Chokwadi hapana varume vakakwana (vakadzi) vasara here?

Chii chiri chikonzero chekukura kwekusurukirwa kwenyika uye kwekutsvaga mhinduro dzemibvunzo iyi iri nyore?

• Pamberi pemeso edu, kurukurirano yakazara iri kutsiviwa netsamba dzepamusoro. Emoticons pachinzvimbo chemazwi, zvipfupiso pachinzvimbo chekuvimbika kwemutauro - kutsiviwa kwezvinoreva zvinokanganisa vatori vechikamu munhaurirano yakadai. MaEmoji anoba manzwiro.

• Mukukurukurirana nevakomana, kuisa pfungwa pamunhu mumwe chete hakugoneki, kunyengera kwechisarudzo chisingagumi chinoumbwa. Mushure mezvose, zvakakwana kudzvanya bhatani rekuti "bvisa kubva pavaviri" uye uenderere mberi nerwendo rwako rusingaperi paWebhu. Munyika yezvakaisirwa stereotypes uye mapatani, inogarwa nevanhu vakafanana vakasurukirwa sezvatiri.

• Mumwe nemumwe wevagari vepasi rino ane yavo yesocial media account ine yakagadziridzwa vhezheni yayo.: pano uye kubudirira, uye runako, uye pfungwa. Iyo kaleidoscope yeakanaka uye inosuruvarisa vashandisi.

Dzidza kuva zvakare, kwete kuita senge

Saka sei zvakaoma kuvaka hukama? Zvingaita sekuti mufananidzo wemuchinda akakwana kana muchindakadzi wakagadzirira. Enda kune imwe yeakawanda emasaiti ekufambidzana - uye enda! Asi kukundikana kwakatimirira chaizvo nekuti yedu yakanakisa vhezheni yedu kazhinji haina chekuita nehupenyu chaihwo. Uye nekufamba kwenguva, isu hatingotanga kutenda mumufananidzo uyu wenhema isu pachedu, asiwo tinovaka tarisiro imwechete isingagoneki kubva kune waangangoita mudiwa.

Dambudziko racho rinowedzerwa nekuti kune rumwe rutivi rwechidzitiro mamiriro acho anoratidzwa: mwana mumwe chete asingadiwi ane kuzviremekedza ari kutarisa kwatiri, ari kuedza kuvanza kusakwana kwake seri kwechiputi chakanaka, uyo anopinda mukati. nyika chaiyo ibasa rakaoma nekuda kwekutya kusina kugadzirwa uye zvakaoma:

• inferiority complex (kuzvifungira),

• yakasiiwa yakaoma (kutya kurambwa),

• hermit yakaoma (kutya mutoro uye kushamwaridzana),

• omnipotence complex (Ndini akanakisisa, uye hazvibviri kuti usandide).

Iko kusanganiswa kwematambudziko aya kunotungamira kune chokwadi chekuti kufambidzana kwakawanda kwepamhepo kunopera munyika chaiyo, kuzadza zuva rega rega iro risingasviki piggy bank yekusurukirwa munyika chaiyo.

Zvokuita uye sei pakupedzisira kubuda mudenderedzwa rino utsinye?

Zvibvumire kuva asina kukwana

Tipi yepamusoro: Zvakakosha kuve nechido chekubuda munzvimbo yako yekunyaradza uye kutarisana nekutya kwako. Panogona kuva nekutya kwakawanda. Uku ndiko kutya kunyadziswa (ndinogona kuita benzi kana ndikataura chimwe chinhu chakaipa), kutya kurambwa (kunyanya kana chiitiko chakaipa chakadaro chaiva munguva yakapfuura), kutya kwehukama hwepedyo, kunyanya hwepedyo (kuti mufananidzo kana mufananidzo kubva iyo social network ichadonha muchokwadi). Zvechokwadi, izvi hazvisi nyore, asi pano iwe uchabatsirwa nekuziva kuti isu hatina kukwana, uye kusakwana uku kwakajairika! 

Mazano mashomanana akareruka asi anoshanda ekukurukurirana mhenyu

Ivo vachakubatsira iwe kukunda kutya kwako uye pakupedzisira kupinda munyika chaiyo.

1. Rongedza zuva rezuva chairo uye nguva. Usatya kutaura zvaunoda.

2. Bata zuva racho semutambo, chiitiko chitsva. Usaise mabheti makuru pairi pakarepo. Izvi zvichabatsira kuderedza kuzvidya mwoyo.

3. Bvuma kushushikana kwako kune mumwe wako. Iri ndiro danho rekutanga rekuve iwe pachako uye kuratidza kuti uri munhu mupenyu.

4. Rega kutsvaga zvikonzero (mamiriro asina kunaka nhasi, mafungiro, zuva, chikamu chemwedzi), tevera chirongwa chakatsanangurwa zvakajeka.

5. Rarama nguva iri pano uye ikozvino. Usafungire mumwe wako zvaanofunga pamusoro pako, mataridzike ako. 

6. Isa pfungwa dzako pamanzwiro, manzwi, kuravira.

Uye, zvinotonyanya kukosha, yeuka kuti hapana mumiriri wepachokwadi, kunyangwe angave akakwana sei, haazotsiva kutaura kwevanhu mhenyu.