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Munguva ichangopfuura, vatsvakurudzi vanobva kuCanada vakaongorora ruzivo kubva kune vatori vechikamu muchidzidzo chemhuri cheGermany kwenguva refu umo vakadzi nevarume kubva 2008 vanogara vachipa ruzivo pamusoro pavo uye hukama hwavo uye vanozadza bvunzo dzekuti vakavhurika sei, vane hana, vanogarisana, vanoshivirira, vane kuzvidya mwoyo. Vatori vechikamu 332 vakachinja vadyidzani panguva iyi, izvo zvakabvumira vaongorori kuti vabatanidze vese vekare uye vemazuva ano vehukama muongororo.

Vatsvagiri vakawana kupindirana kwakakura mumaprofiles evaimbove nevashamwari vatsva. Pakazara, mharadzano dzakanyorwa kune 21 zviratidzo. "Zvigumisiro zvedu zvinoratidza kuti kusarudzwa kwevakaroorana kunofanotaurwa kupfuura zvinotarisirwa," vanyori vezvidzidzo vanogovera.

Zvisinei, pane zvisizvo. Avo vanogona kutariswa zvakanyanya kuvhurika (extroverts) vanosarudza vadikani vatsva kwete seanogara sema introverts. Zvichida, vatsvakurudzi vanotenda, nokuti nharaunda yavo yemagariro yakakura uye, maererano naizvozvo, yakapfuma mukusarudza. Asi pamwe pfungwa yese ndeyekuti extroverts vari kutsvaga zviitiko zvitsva munzvimbo dzese dzehupenyu. Ivo vanofarira mune zvese zvitsva, zvisati zvaedzwa.

Uye zvakadaro nei vazhinji vedu tichitsvaga mhando imwechete yevadyidzani, zvisinei nevavariro dzese dzekusadzokorora zvikanganiso? Pano, masayendisiti anogona kungofungidzira uye kuisa mberi kufungidzira. Zvichida tiri kutaura pamusoro pezviitiko zviri nyore, nokuti tinowanzosarudza mumwe munhu kubva munharaunda yemagariro yatakajaira. Zvichida isu tinokwezvwa kune chimwe chinhu chinozivikanwa uye chatinoziva. Kana kuti pamwe isu, sevasinga gadzirise kudzokorora, tinogara tichidzokera munzira yakarohwa.

Kutarisa kumwe chete kwakakwana uye sarudzo inoitwa

Relationship consultant uye munyori we Who's Right For Me? Iye + Iye = Mwoyo ”Christian Thiel ane mhinduro yake: chirongwa chedu chekutsvaga mudiwa chinomuka muhudiki. Kune vanhu vazhinji, izvi, nhamo, zvinogona kuva dambudziko.

Ngatitorei nyaya yaAlexander semuenzaniso wemufananidzo. Ane makore 56, uye kwemwedzi mitatu zvino ane chido chechidiki. Zita rake ndiAnna, mutete, uye Alexander aifarira bvudzi rake refu blond zvekuti haana kuona kuti shamwari yake "yakasiyana" inonyatso rangarira iye akamutangira, Maria ane makore makumi mana. Ukavaisa padivi nepadivi unogona kuti ihanzvadzi.

Kuwanda kwatinoramba takatendeka kwatiri pakusarudza shamwari kunosimbiswa nemabhaisikopo uye nyeredzi dzebhizinesi. Leonardo DiCaprio anokwezvwa kune imwechete mhando yemhando dzeblonde. Kate Moss - kune vakomana vane dambudziko rakaputsika vanoda rubatsiro, dzimwe nguva - kupindira kwenarcologist. Ndaza yacho inogona kuenderera mberi nekusingaperi. Asi nei vachiwira nyore nyore nokuda kwechirauro chimwe chete? Zvirongwa zvavo zvekusarudza shamwari zvinoumbwa sei? Uye rini rinova dambudziko chairo?

Christian Thiel ane chokwadi chekuti sarudzo yedu inoganhurirwa nehurongwa hwakaoma hwechirongwa chimwe chete. Tora, semuenzaniso, Christina ane makore makumi matatu nemaviri, ane nzvimbo yakapfava yemotokari dzemhando yepamusoro. Christina ava nemakore mashanu ari oga. Rimwe zuva, achimirira kutiza, akabata ziso remurume - akasimba, ane vhudzi rakanaka. Mukadzi wacho akapotsa afuratira, achitumira murume wacho “kudengu.” Aigara achifarira slim uye dema-bvudzi, saka kunyangwe kana "mucherechedzi" aine garaji rose remota dzekare, aisazoedzwa.

Isu tinokanda nyore "kupfuura" kutarisa kwedu kune avo vasingakwane muforoma yedu. Izvi, sezvakawanikwa nevatsvakurudzi, zvinotora chikamu chiduku chesekondi. Saka kutarisisa kumwe kupfupi kwakakwana kuita sarudzo yekupedzisira.

Cupid museve kubva paudiki

Chokwadi, hatisi kutaura nezverudo rwechirevo pakutanga kuona icho vanhu vazhinji vanotenda machiri. Manzwiro akadzama achiri kutora nguva, Thiel anogutsikana. Asi, munguva pfupi ino, tiri kuedza kana tichiwana imwe inodikanwa. Mukutaura, izvi zvinofanira kunzi erotica. Mungano dzechiGiriki, izwi iri, hongu, rakanga risipo, asi pakanga paine kunyatsonzwisisa nzira yacho pachayo. Kana uchirangarira, Eros akapfura museve wegoridhe uyo wakabva watungidza vaviri ava.

Ichokwadi chokuti museve dzimwe nguva unorova "pamwoyo chaipo" muzviitiko zvakawanda zvinogona kutsanangurwa nenzira isina rudo zvachose - nemafungiro kumubereki wepabonde rakasiyana. Baba vaChristina kubva kumuenzaniso wekupedzisira vaiva brunette mutete. Iye zvino, pazera remakore makumi matanhatu, afuta uye ane bvudzi-chena, asi mundangariro yemwanasikana wake anoramba ari mukomana mumwe chete akaenda naye kunhandare yeMugovera uye akamuverengera ngano manheru. Rudo rwake rukuru rwekutanga.

Iyi nzira yekutsvaga akasarudzwa inoshanda kana hukama pakati pemukadzi nababa vake hwakanga hwakanaka. Zvino, pamusangano, iye - kazhinji asingazivi - ari kutsvaga varume vanoita saiye. Asi mhirizhonga ndeyokuti baba uye vakasarudzwa vose vakafanana uye vakasiyana panguva imwe chete. Kunyanya kufanana hakubvumiri eroticism: kutya makunakuna kunogara zvakadzika matiri. Izvi, zvechokwadi, zvinoshandawo kune varume vari kutsvaga vakadzi mumufananidzo waamai vavo.

Kusarudza wawakaroorana naye akafanana nemubereki wepabonde rakasiyana, isu kazhinji tisingazivi kutarisisa ruvara rwebvudzi, kureba, zviyero, zviso zvechiso. Makore mashoma apfuura, vatsvakurudzi veHungary vakaverenga chiyero chezvidzidzo zve300. Vakaongorora, pakati pezvimwe zvinhu, daro riri pakati pemaziso, pamwe chete nokureba kwemhino uye kufara kwechirebvu. Uye vakawana hukama hwakajeka pakati pezviso zvemadzibaba uye shamwari dzevanasikana. Iwo mufananidzo wakafanana wevarume: vanaamai vavo vakashanda se "prototypes" yevadyidzani.

Kwete kuna baba uye kwete kuna amai

Asi zvakadini kana chiitiko naamai kana baba chakanga chisina kunaka? Muchiitiko ichi, "tinovhota mune vanopikisa." "Muchiitiko changu, vanenge 20% yevanhu vari kutsvaga shamwari inovimbiswa kuti irege kuvayeuchidza amai kana baba," nyanzvi inotsanangura kudaro. Izvi ndizvo chaizvo zvinoitika kuna Max ane makore makumi maviri nemanomwe: amai vake vaive nebvudzi refu dema. Nguva dzose paanosangana nemukadzi werudzi urwu, anoyeuka mapikicha kubva paudiki uye saka anosarudza shamwari dzisina kufanana naamai vake.

Asi hazvitevedzeri kubva muchidzidzo ichi kuti kudanana nemhando imwe chete kukanganisa. Asi, ino inguva yekufungisisa: tingadzidze sei kubata hunhu hwemudiwa mutsva neimwe nzira kuti tisatsike pane imwechete reki.