Mirror, selfies, mapikicha, kuzviongorora… Tinozvitsvaga pachedu mukufunga kana mukufunga nezvedu. Asi kutsvaga uku kunowanzotisiya tisina kugutsikana. Chimwe chinhu chinokutadzisa kuzvitarisa zvine chinangwa ...
Tinogona kutaura zvakachengeteka: pakati pedu pane vashoma vanogutsikana zvachose ivo pachavo, kunyanya nechitarisiko chavo. Anenge munhu wese, angave murume kana mukadzi, angave achida kugadzirisa chimwe chinhu: kuva nechivimbo kana kufara zvakanyanya, kuva nebvudzi rakamonana panzvimbo pekutwasuka uye neimwe nzira, kuita makumbo akareba, mapendekete akafara ... , kunyanya muhuduku. “Ndaive munhu anonyara, asi kunyara kwangu kwakawedzera nekutenda kwekushata kwangu. Uye ndine chokwadi chekuti hapana chine simba rakadai pakutungamira kwemunhu sechitarisiko chake, uye kwete chete chitarisiko pachacho, asi kutenda mukukwezva kwayo kana kusakwezva, "Leo Tolstoy anotsanangura mamiriro ake muchikamu chechipiri che autobiographical. trilogy" Hudiki. Kuyaruka. Vechidiki».
Nokufamba kwenguva, kupinza kwekutambudzika uku kunogomara, asi kunotisiya zvachose here? Hazvigoneki: kana zvisina kudaro, mafirita emifananidzo anovandudza chitarisiko angadai asina kufarirwa zvakadaro. Sezvakaita kuvhiyiwa kwepurasitiki.
Hatizvioni sezvatiri, uye naizvozvo tinoda kusimbiswa kwe "Ini" kuburikidza nevamwe.
Isu tinogara tichizviisa pasi
Tinogona sei kuzvinzwisisa timene? Tinogona kuzviona isu tiri parutivi sezvatinoona chinhu chekunze? Zvingaita sekuti tinozviziva pachedu zviri nani kupfuura chero ani zvake. Zvisinei, kuzvitarisa pasina rusaruro ibasa rinenge risingabviri. Maonero edu akakanganiswa nefungidziro, macomplexes, traumas inowanikwa muhuduku. Yedu "Ini" haisi yunifomu.
"Kuzvida kunogara kuri shanduko. Kunyangwe ndikazvimiririra se "ini", ndinoparadzaniswa zvachose kubva kwandiri," anodaro psychoanalyst Jacques Lacan muEssays yake.1. -Kudyidzana nesu pachedu, tinongosangana nekutsemuka. Muenzaniso unoshamisa ndiwo mamiriro ezvinhu apo munhu anorwara nehosha yeAlzheimer anoita nhaurirano naye amene achidavira kuti ari kutarisana nomumwe mutauriri. Pakuvamba kwezana ramakore rechi XNUMX, chiremba wetsinga uye wepfungwa Paul Solier akanyora kuti vamwe vakadzi vechidiki vakamira kuzviona mugirazi panguva yekurwiswa. Iye zvino psychoanalysis inodudzira izvi senzira yekudzivirira - kuramba kubata chokwadi.
Kuzvionera kwedu kwetsika, kudzikama kana kushoma kuvakwa kwepfungwa, kuumbwa kwepfungwa dzedu.
Kumwe kukanganisika kwetsinga kunogona kuchinja kuziva kwedu kusvika kutambanuko yokuti murwere ane panikiro pamusoro pokuvapo kwake amene kana kuti anonzwa somusungwa, akapfigirwa mumuviri wechienzi.
Kukanganiswa kwemaonero akadaro kunokonzerwa nechirwere kana kuvhunduka kukuru. Asi zvakanyanya kana kushoma kudzikama kwekuzviona kwatakajaira kuvakwa kwepfungwa, kuumbwa kwepfungwa dzedu. Kuvakwa kwepfungwa kumwe chete kunoratidza mugirazi. Ichi hachisi chiitiko chemuviri chatinogona kunzwa, asi fungidziro yekuziva ine nhoroondo yayo.
Kuona kwekutanga chaiko
Muviri wedu "chaiye" hausi iwo biological, chinangwa chemuviri uyo mushonga unobata nawo, asi pfungwa yakaumbwa pasi pesimba remashoko uye maonero evakuru vekutanga vakatitarisira.
“Pane imwe nguva, mwana anotarisa-tarisa. Uye chekutanga - pachiso chaamai vake. Anoona kuti akamutarisa. Anoverenga kuti ndiani kwaari. Uye anogumisa kuti paanotarisa, anooneka. Saka huriko,” akanyora kudaro mumwe muongorori wepfungwa dzevana Donald Winnicott.2. Nokudaro, kutarisa kweumwe, kutendeukira kwatiri, kunovakwa muhwaro hwehupenyu hwedu. Zvakanaka, uku kutarisa kwerudo. Asi chaizvoizvo izvi hazvisi nguva dzose.
"Vachinditarisa, amai vangu vaiwanzoti:" iwe wakaenda kuhama dzababa vako ", uye ndakazvivenga nokuda kweizvi, nokuti baba vangu vakasiya mhuri. Mugiredhi rechishanu, akaveura musoro wake kuti asaone bvudzi rake rakamonana, sewake, "anodaro Tatyana ane makore 34.
Uyo ane vabereki vairatidzika nokusemburwa angabva azviona seasina kujairika kwenguva refu. Kana kuti zvichida kutsvaka zvirambidzo
Nei vabereki vasingawanzotiitira mutsa? “Zvinoenderana neunhu hwavo,” anotsanangura kudaro mumwe chiremba wepfungwa anonzi Giorgi Natsvlishvili. — Zvinodiwa zvakanyanyisa zvinogona kucherechedzwa, semuenzaniso, mumubereki anotya anoudza mwana kuti: “Ngwarira, zvine ngozi kwese kwese, munhu wese anoda kukunyengera .... Magiredhi ako ari sei? Asi muzukuru womuvakidzani anounza zvishanu chete!
Saka mwana ane kuzvidya mwoyo, kusava nechokwadi kuti akanaka mupfungwa uye mumuviri. Uye mubereki narcissistic, kazhinji amai, vanoona mwana sekuwedzera kwake, saka chero kukanganisa kwemwana kunokonzera kutsamwa kana kutya, nokuti zvinoratidza kuti iye pachake haana kukwana uye mumwe munhu anogona kuzviona.
Uyo ane vabereki vairatidzika nokusemburwa angabva azviona sechinhu chisina kujairika kwenguva refu. Kana kuti pamwe neshungu kutsvaga kupokana, kusungira nyaya dzerudo dzakawanda kuti uve nechokwadi chekukwezva kwavo, uye kutumira mafoto pasocial network anounganidza zvaanoda. "Ndinowanzosangana nekutsvagirwa kwakadaro kwevatengi vangu, uye ava vakomana nevasikana vaduku vari pasi pemakore makumi matatu," anoenderera mberi Giorgi Natsvlishvili. Asi chikonzero hachisi nguva dzose mumhuri. Pane maonero ekuti kururamisa kwevabereki kunouraya, asi chaizvoizvo, nyaya dzakadaro dzinogona kubuda pasina kutora kwavo. Nzvimbo inoda chaizvo. »
Makondakita ehukuro iyi ese ari maviri etsika tsika - funga nezvemafirimu echiito nemitambo ine magamba nemafashoni emagazini ane mhando dzakatetepa zvakanyanya - uye denderedzwa remukati, vaunodzidza navo uye shamwari.
Mirror Curves
Hapana ratidziro yatinoona mugirazi kana mapikicha inogona kutorwa seyechokwadi chinangwa, nekuda kwekuti tinovatarisa kubva kune imwe nzvimbo yekuona, iyo inopesvedzerwa nemafungiro (kusanganisira asina kutaurwa zvinonzwika) evakuru vakakosha vehudiki hwedu. , uyezve shamwari, vadzidzisi, vadyidzani, pesvedzero nemafungiro edu pachedu. Asi ivo vanoumbwawo pasi pesimba renzanga netsika, vachipa mienzaniso, iyo inochinjawo nokufamba kwenguva. Ndokusaka kuzvimiririra zvachose kuzviremekedza, "Ini", pasina admixtures pesvedzero yevamwe vanhu, ndeye utopia. Hazvisi zvakangoitika kuti maBuddha anoona yavo "Ini" sekunyepedzera.
Isu hatizvizivi zvakanyanya sezvatinofungidzira, tichiunganidza ruzivo pazvinenge zvichidikanwa, tichienzanisa nevamwe, kuteerera kuongororwa. Hazvishamisi kuti dzimwe nguva tinokanganisa kunyange mune izvo zvimiro zvinogona kuyerwa zvine chinangwa. Pedyo nezhizha, zvinova pachena kuti vakadzi vakawanda vanofamba vakapfeka zvipfeko zvisingakodzeri, vakapfeka shangu kubva kune zvigunwe zvinonamatira kunze ... Sezviri pachena, mugirazi vanoona slimmer kana kuti duku yavo pachavo. Ichi chidziviriro kubva kune chokwadi: uropi hunogadzirisa nguva dzisingafadzi, hunodzivirira psyche kubva pakusagadzikana.
Uropi hunoita zvimwe chete nemativi asina kunaka eunhu: hunoagadzirisa mukuona kwedu, uye haticherechedzi, semuenzaniso, hutsinye hwedu, hutsinye, kushamiswa nekuita kweavo vakatikomberedza, vatinoona sevanotibata kana vasingashiviriri.
Leo Tolstoy munyaya ino akadana diary sezvizvi: "kukurukurirana pachako, nechechokwadi, humwari hunogara mumunhu wese."
Chimiro chedu pachedu chinoshatiswawo nechishuvo chedu chokuwana tendero yenzanga. Carl Jung akadana masiki akadaro emagariro "Persona": tinofuratira izvo zvatinoda zvedu "Ini", kuzvisarudzira kuburikidza nechimiro, nhanho yemuhoro, madhipuroma, muchato kana vana. Muchiitiko chekuti facade yekubudirira ikadonha uye zvikazoitika kuti pane kusava nechinhu kumashure kwayo, kuvhunduka kwakanyanya kunogona kutimirira.
Kazhinji pakugamuchira, chiremba wepfungwa anobvunza mubvunzo iwoyo: "Uri chii?" Kakawanda, anoda kuti tizvitsanangure nemhando dzakasiyana-siyana, tichiramba kubvuma mabasa emagariro evanhu munzvimbo iyi: anoda kuti tisagara tichizviti "vashandi vakanaka vehofisi" uye "vabereki vane hanya", asi edza kuparadzanisa pfungwa dzedu pamusoro. isu pachedu, semuenzaniso: "irascible", "rudzi", "inoda".
Diaries yega yega inogona kushanda chinangwa chimwe chete. Leo Tolstoy mubhuku rinonzi "Rumuko" anodana diary sezvinotevera: "kukurukurirana pachako, neyochokwadi, yehumwari hunogara mumunhu wese."
Kudiwa kwevaoni
Kuziva kwatinoita kushoma pachedu, ndiko kuwedzera kwatinoda vaoni kuti vatipe mhinduro. Zvichida ndicho chikonzero nei rudzi rwemazuva ano rwekuzvitora, iyo selfie, yakawana mukurumbira wakadaro. Muchiitiko ichi, munhu ari kutorwa mifananidzo uye munhu ari kutora mifananidzo munhu mumwe chete, saka tiri kuyedza kutora chokwadi chezvatiri ... kana kuti titaure maonero edu pachedu.
Asi zvakare mubvunzo kune vamwe: "Unobvuma here kuti ndiri seizvi?"
Tichiedza kuzviratidza mumaonero akanaka, tinoita setiri kukumbira mvumo yekubvumidza mufananidzo wakakodzera. Kunyangwe tikazvibata pachedu mumamiriro ezvinhu anosetsa, chishuwo chichiri chimwe chete: kutsvaga zvatiri.
Nyika yetekinoroji inobvumidza iwe kuti urarame pane tsono yemvumo yevateereri kwemakore. Zvisinei, kwakaipa here kuzvifungira umene?
Kunyange zvazvo kuongorora kwekunze kusina chinangwa zvachose, shure kwezvose, vamwe vanowana maitiro akasiyana. Muzvinyorwa zvechiJapan kubva panguva yeEdo, vakanaka vanoisa pendi nhema pameno avo. Uye kana Danae waRembrandt akapfeka zvipfeko zvemazuva ano, ndiani achayemura runako rwake? Zvinoita sezvakanaka kune mumwe munhu zvingasatombofadza mumwe.
Asi nekuunganidza akawanda ekuda, tinogona kuzvisimbisa isu kuti vangangoita vazhinji venguva yedu vanotida. Renata ane makore 23 anobvuma kuti, “Ndinoisa mapikicha zuva nezuva, dzimwe nguva kakawanda, uye ndinotarisira kuzonzwa mashoko acho. "Ndinoda izvi kuti ndinzwe kuti ndiri mupenyu uye kuti pane chiri kuitika kwandiri."
Nyika yetekinoroji inobvumidza iwe kuti urarame pane tsono yemvumo yevateereri kwemakore. Zvisinei, kwakaipa here kuzvifungira umene? Ongororo dzakawanda dzinoratidza kuti vanoita izvi vanofara kupfuura vaya vanoedza kuzvishora.
1 Jacques-Marie-Émile Lacan Essay mapoinzi (Le Seuil, 1975).
2 "Basa reMirror raamai neMhuri," muMutambo uye Chokwadi naDonald W. Winnicott (Institute for General Humanities Studies, 2017).