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Dzimwe nguva zvinhu zviri nyore zvinoita sezvisingabviri. Semuenzaniso, vamwe vanhu vanonzwa kutya kana kutya kurwiswa pavanenge vachida kubvunza mumwe munhu kuti abatsirwe. Nyanzvi yepfungwa Jonis Webb anotenda kuti pane zvikonzero zviviri zvekuita uku, uye anozviona achishandisa mienzaniso miviri kubva mukuita kwake.
Sophie akafara paakachinjirwa pachinzvimbo chitsva. Aive nemukana wekushandisa ruzivo rwekushambadzira rwakawanikwa panguva yezvidzidzo zvake zveMBA. Asi muvhiki yekutanga yebasa, akaziva kuti aisakwanisa kurarama nezvose pachake. Chimwe chinhu chaigara chichidiwa kwaari, uye akaziva kuti aida chaizvo betsero netsigiro zvomukuru wake mutsva wapakarepo. Asi pane kuti atsanangure mamiriro acho ezvinhu kwaari, akaramba achinetseka ari oga nezvinetso zvakaramba zvichiwanda.
James ainge ogadzirira kufamba. Kwevhiki, mazuva ose abva kubasa, aironga zvinhu zvake mumabhokisi. Pakazopera vhiki akanga aneta. Zuva rekufamba rakanga rava kuswedera, asi akatadza kukumbira chero shamwari dzake rubatsiro.
Munhu wese anoda rubatsiro dzimwe nguva. Kune vakawanda, kukumbira kuri nyore, asi kune vamwe idambudziko guru. Vanhu vakadai vanoedza kusapinda mumamiriro ezvinhu aunofanira kubvunza vamwe. Chikonzero chekutya uku chido chinorwadza chekuzvimirira, nekuda kwekuti chero chido chekuvimba nemumwe munhu chinokonzera kusagadzikana.
Kazhinji tiri kutaura nezve kutya chaiko, kusvika kune phobia. Inomanikidza munhu kuti arambe ari mukoko, kwaanonzwa akazvimiririra, asi haagoni kukura nekukura.
Chishuvo chinorwadza chokuzvimirira chinokudzivisa sei kuzviona umene?
1. Zvinotitadzisa kushandisa rubatsiro runopiwa nevamwe. Saka tinongoerekana tazviwana tave pakurasikirwa.
2. Inotiparadzanisa nevamwe, tinonzwa tiri toga.
3. Zvinotitadzisa kukudziridza hukama nevamwe, nokuti yakazara-yakazara, hukama hwakadzama pakati pevanhu hunovakwa pakutsigirana uye kuvimbana.
Ndokupi kwavakaita chido chokuzvimirira chero zvodini, nei vachitya kuvimba nevamwe?
Sophie ane makore gumi nematatu. Anonongedza amai vake vakarara achitya kuti vachashatirwa kana vakamutswa. Asi haana imwe sarudzo kunze kwekumumutsa kuti asaine mvumo yekuti Sophie aende kunodzika musasa nekirasi zuva raitevera. Sophie anotarisa chinyararire kwemaminetsi akati wandei amai vake vakarara, uye, asingatyi kuvavhiringidza, anotarisawo kure.
James ane makore gumi nematatu. Anokurira mumhuri inofara, inoshanda uye ine rudo. Kubva mangwanani kusvika manheru pane kutaura kusingagumi pamusoro pezvirongwa zvemhuri, mitambo yenhabvu iri kuuya uye basa rechikoro. Vabereki vaJames nevanin'ina vake havana nguva yekukurukura kwenguva refu, zvichibva pamwoyo, saka havazivi kuti voita sei. Nokudaro, havazivi zvakanyanya nezvemanzwiro avo pachavo uye manzwiro echokwadi uye pfungwa dzevadiwa vavo.
Sei Sophie achitya kumutsa amai vake? Zvichida amai vake chidhakwa chakadhakwa ndokurara, uye paanomuka, zvaanoita zvinogona kunge zvisingatarisirwi. Kana kuti zvimwe anoshanda mabasa maviri kuti atsigire mhuri yake, uye kana Sophie akamumutsa, haazombokwanisi kuzorora zvakanaka. Kana kuti zvimwe ari kurwara kana kuti akaora mwoyo, uye Sophie anotambudzwa nokuzvipa mhosva nokuda kwokumukumbira chimwe chinhu.
Mharidzo dzatinogamuchira sevana dzine zvadzinoita patiri, kunyangwe dzisina kutaurwa nemunhu chero upi zvake.
Zvikuru, iwo chaiwo mamiriro emhuri yaSophie haana kukosha kudaro. Chero zvazvingava, anotora chidzidzo chimwe chete kubva mumamiriro ezvinhu aya: usanetsa vamwe kuti vawane zvavanoda uye zvavanoda.
Vazhinji vaizochiva mhuri yekwaJames. Kunyange zvakadaro, hama dzake dzinoudza mwana shoko rinoenda seizvi: manzwiro ako uye zvaunoda zvakaipa. Vanofanira kuvanzwa uye kudziviswa.
Mharidzo dzatinogamuchira sevana dzine zvadzinoita patiri, kunyangwe dzisina kutaurwa nemunhu chero upi zvake. Sophie naJames havazivi kuti hupenyu hwavo hunodzorwa nekutya kuti chikamu chakajairika, chine hutano chehunhu hwavo (zvido zvavo zvepfungwa) zvichangoerekana zvafumurwa. Vanotya kubvunza vanhu vanokosha kwavari chimwe chinhu, vachifunga kuti chingavatyisa. Kutya kunzwa kupera simba kana kupindira, kana kuita sekudaro kune vamwe.
4 matanho ekukunda kutya kukudzivirira kuti usawana rubatsiro
1. Bvuma kutya kwako uye unzwe kuti zvinokutadzisa sei kubvumira vamwe kukubatsira nekukutsigira.
2. Edza kubvuma kuti zvaunoda nezvido zvako zvakajairika. Iwe uri munhu uye munhu wese ane zvaanoda. Usakanganwa nezvavo, usazviona sevasina kukosha.
3. Rangarira kuti avo vane hanya newe vanoda kuti ugone kuvimba navo. Vanoda kuvapo uye kukubatsira, asi vangangoshatirwa nokuramba kwako kunokonzerwa nokutya.
4. Edza kunyatsokumbira rubatsiro. Jaira kuvimba nevamwe.
Nezve Munyori: Jonis Webb ikiriniki yepfungwa uye psychotherapist.