Sei dzimwe nguva zvakatiomera kuti titi “kwete” kana “mira”, kuramba kukokwa kana kupihwa, uye kuratidza kusatya zvachose? Nyanzvi yezvepfungwa Tarra Bates-Dufort ane chokwadi chokuti kana tichida kuti "kwete" uye kuti "hongu", tinotevera script yakadzidza yemagariro evanhu. Nekumwe kuedza, unogona kuibvisa zvachose.
Chimwe chezvikonzero zvikuru nei tichitya kutaura “kwete” kutya kugumbura kana kurwadzisa mumwe munhu. Zvisinei, kana tikateerera uye tikaita chimwe chinhu kuti tisarwadzise vamwe, tingazvikuvadza nokudzvinyirira zvatinoda uye kuzvivanza isu pachedu.
Varwere vangu, vanoomerwa nekuramba, vanowanzondiudza kuti vanonzwa "chisungo chekuzviisa mumamiriro emumwe munhu." Kazhinji vanoramba vachisimbirira kuti "dai ndaiva munzvimbo yemunhu iyeye, ndinoda kusangana pakati penzira imwechete yandinoita nayo."
Zvisinei, kana toreva nezvezvinonyanya kukosha, zvavanofarira ivo pachavo uye zvinodikanwa kana kuti zvinofarirwa nevamwe, vakawanda vanozvifunga ivo pachavo pakutanga. Tinorarama munyika ine udyire inotimanikidza kuti tisundire mberi chero zvodini, pasinei nekuvadziko inobvira kune vamwe. Naizvozvo, fungidziro yekuti vamwe vanofunga nenzira imwechete sewe uye vakagadzirira kukushandira iwe zvinokuvadza zvavanoda haina kururama.
Nokudzidza kuti kwete, unogona kushandisa unyanzvi uhwu munzvimbo dzakawanda dzehupenyu hwako.
Zvakakosha kukudziridza kugona kutaura "kwete" uye kusaenda pamwe nezvikumbiro zvevamwe vanhu zvisingakufadzi kana zvisingakudiwe iwe. Iyi hunyanzvi hwakakosha pakuvaka hushamwari hwenguva refu uye hunobudirira, hukama hwehunyanzvi uye hwerudo.
Kana wangodzidza, unozogona kushandisa hunyanzvi uhu munzvimbo dzakawanda dzakasiyana dzehupenyu hwako.
8 zvikonzero nei zvichitiomera kuti titi "kwete"
• Hatidi kurwadzisa kana kurwadzisa vamwe.
• Tinotya kuti vamwe havazotifariri.
• Hatidi kuonekwa sevanhu vane udyire kana kuti vanhu vasingafadzi.
• Tine chido chekumanikidzira kugara tichizviisa mutsoka dzemumwe munhu.
• Takadzidziswa kuva “vakanaka” nguva dzose.
• Tinotya kuita seane hasha
• Hatidi kutsamwisa mumwe munhu
• Tine matambudziko nemiganhu yedu pachedu
Kupfurikidza nokuita zvatisingadi kufadza vamwe, kazhinji kazhinji tinopinza utera hwavo noushati, nokudaro tichikudziridza mavari kutsamira pavamwe kana kuti kudavira kuti munhu ari wose ane ngava navo. Kana ukacherechedza kuti zvizhinji zvezvikonzero izvi zvinoshanda kwauri, saka zvichida une zvinetso zvakakomba nemiganhu yako pachako.
Vanhu vanoomerwa nekutaura kuti “kwete” vanowanzonzwa vari pakona uye vane hundingoveni. Kana kuedza kuratidza chivimbo uye kudzivirira zvido zvemunhu zvichikonzera manzwiro asina kunaka, munhu kana boka repfungwa rinogona kubatsira neizvi.
Rasa maitiro echigarire ehunhu, uchanzwa kusununguka
Kana uchiri kuomerwa nokuramba, zviyeuchidze kuti haufaniri kumboti hungu zvachose. Nekubvisa maitiro echinyakare ehunhu uye nekurega kuita zvausingadi uye zvichikonzera kusagadzikana, iwe unozonzwa rusununguko.
Nokudzidza kuita izvi, uchawedzera kuva nechivimbo, kuderedza kushamwaridzana kwako nevanhu vanonyengera uye vasina kutendeseka, uye uchakwanisa kuvaka ukama huri nani nevaya vanokosha chaizvo kwauri.
Uye zvinoshamisa, sezvaunodzidza kuti kwete, iwe unenge usingakwanisi kuzvitaura, nokuti vamwe vachanzwisisa kuti mazwi ako anofanira kutorwa zvakanyanya.
NezveMunyori: Tarra Bates-Dufort inyanzvi yepfungwa uye psychotherapist anonyanya kugadzirisa nyaya dzemhuri uye manejimendi ekushungurudzika.