Mukati
Isu tese takanzwa kuti nguva ndiyo yedu yakakosha sosi, kuti haigone kudzoserwa, kwete kudzoserwa kumashure, uye panguva imwechete isu tinoramba tichishandisa akakosha maminetsi, maawa uye kunyange mazuva kurudyi uye kuruboshwe. Nei izvi zviri kuitika? Izvi zvinokonzerwa nekukanganisa kwakawanda kwekuziva.
Izvi zvinoitika kwatiri zuva nezuva. Muvakidzani anouya otanga kutaura pasina chinhu, uye tinogutsurira noruremekedzo, kunyange zvazvo chaizvoizvo tiri mukukurumidza kunotyisa. Kana kuti vatinoshanda navo vanotanga kutaura nezvezvimwe zvisina maturo, uye tinozvibvumira kukweverwa muhurukuro pasina kana kufunga nezvekuti inguva yakawanda sei. Kana kuti tinowana meseji kubva kushamwari: “Hei, ndinoda musoro wako wakajeka pano. Unogona kubatsira?" - uye ipapo tinobvumirana. Chokwadi, haungarambi shamwari yekare, handizvo here?
Muzivi Seneca akambotsinhira kuti upenzi kunyange vanhu vakachenjera zvikurusa sei apo kunouya kukudzivirira nguva yavo vamene: “Hapana nomumwe wedu anopa mari yake kumunhu watinotanga kuonana naye, asi vangani vanopa upenyu hwavo! Hatina udyire panyaya yemidziyo nemari, asi tinofunga zvishoma pamusoro pemashandisiro atinoita nguva yedu, chinhu chega chatinofanira kunyanya kunyima nacho.
Nhasi, makore 2000 gare gare, tichiri kurega pfuma yedu yakakosha zvikuru ichipfuura nemuminwe yedu. Sei? Entrepreneur uye munyori we How Strong People Solve Problems Ryan Holiday anoti pane zvikonzero zvina zveizvi.
Tine chokwadi chekuti tine nguva inopfuura yakakwana
Vanoti tinorarama paavhareji kusvika kumakore makumi manomwe nemasere. Zvinoita sekusingaperi. Chii chatinofanira kupedza maminitsi makumi maviri pane izvi kana izvo? Enda kumusangano mune cafe kune rumwe rutivi rweguta, kupedza awa mumugwagwa, uye kunyange awa shure? Kwete mubvunzo, sei kwete.
Hatizivi kuti nguva yedu ine painogumira uye hapana vimbiso yokuti zvinhu zvose hazvizoperi mangwana. Asi, zvinonyanya kukosha, nekufamba kwenguva, sekunge nemari: isu hatingopedzi maminetsi mashoma atinawo mu "chikwama" chedu, asi zvakare tinoderedza yakaunganidzwa stock.
Tinotya kuti vamwe havazofariri kuramba kwedu.
Hatidi kuti tifungirwe zvakaipa nezvedu, saka tinopindura kuti “hongu” kune zvese – kana, muzviitiko zvakanyanyisa, “pamwe”, kunyangwe patisingade chimwe chinhu kunze kwekuramba.
Ryan Holiday anoyeuka kuti kuonekwa kwevana kwakamubatsira kubvisa kupindwa muropa uku. Achiva baba, akaziva kuti paanoita misengwa isiri madikanwa, mwanakomana wake ane makore maviri okukura ndiye anotanga kutambura. Zvakakosha kuziva kuti nekutaura kuti "hongu" kune mumwe, tinongoerekana tati "kwete" kune mumwe, uye kazhinji kumhuri nevamwe vadiwa.
Usatya kufuratira meseji kubva kune mumwe munhu wausingadi kutaura naye, kana kupindura neakasimba "kwete" kune chipo chisingafadzi kwauri kana chikumbiro chisina kufanira, nekuti, kana zvisina kudaro, mwana wako anogona zvakare kusiiwa. pasina ngano yemanheru.
Hatizvikoshesi zvakakwana
Chimwe chikonzero chinoita kuti tisava nechivimbo chokuti kwete kune mumwe munhu tichitya kurwadzisa manzwiro ake ndechokuti hatinzwi tiine kodzero yokuisa zvatinoda pamberi pevamwe. Paakabvunzwa kuti sei achiri kuenderera mberi nekushanda, Joan Rivers, mumwe wevanyanyi vakabudirira kwazvo pasi rose, akambopindura kuti aitya: “Kana pasina zvanyorwa pakarenda yangu, zvinoreva kuti hapana anondida kuti zvese zvandaiita muhupenyu hwangu zvaive pasina. Saka, munhu wese andikanganwa kana kuti ava kuda kukanganwa. Asi zvino akanga atopfuura makore 70 uye akanga ari ngano mhenyu!
Hazvisi zvinosuwisa here? Uye izvi zvinoda kudiwa zviri mune mumwe nemumwe wedu.
Hatina kuvaka mhasuru dzekurwira miganhu
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Hatina kudzivirirwa nemunhu kana chero chinhu: hapana munyori agere muimba yekugamuchira vanhu, uye hapasisina madziro kana kunyange zvikamu munzvimbo dzehofisi. Chero ani zvake anogona kutisvikira chero nguva. Hatigoni, kufanana nevakuru vemafirimu ekare, kuudza munyori kuti: “Usandibatanidza nemunhu chero upi zvake nhasi. Kana pane chimwe chinhu, ndaenda. "
Ryan Holiday anoti: “Ndakafunga zvakawanda nezvokuti ndaizoda kuona sei upenyu hwangu. — Ndakafunga nezvazvo, ndichiita nhaurirano refu parunhare, pane kuti ndingonyora tsamba pfupi. Kana kuti kugara mumusangano, ungadai wakatsiviwa nekurukurirano yorunhare. Iyi nguva yakapambadzwa yandaigona kushandisa pane chimwe chinhu chakakosha chaizvo: mhuri, kuverenga. Kusiyana naJoan Rivers, ndinofara chete kana karenda yangu isina chinhu. Ndinonyatsoziva zvandinoda kupedza nguva ndiri pazviri, uye handidi kuti zvibirwe kwandiri. ”
Hakusi kuti nguva yako inokosha kudarika nguva yevamwe vanhu. Nguva yakakosha pachayo, uye inguva yekutanga kunzwisisa izvi.
Mukuwedzera, Zororo rine chokwadi chokuti iwe unogona kuti "kwete" uye uchiri kuramba uchibatsira vamwe. “Kunyangwe ndisingakwanise kupindura email yese, ndinoedza kusarudza mibvunzo inonyanyo bvunzwa nevanhu ndoivhara muzvinyorwa. Ndinovabatsira nepandinogona napo uye panguva imwe chete ndinochengeta nguva yangu.
Akachenjera philanthropist anopa mari yakawanda, kwete zvinhu zvinomubatsira kuwana mari, zvinoreva kuti anoramba achibatsira vamwe. Nheyo imwe cheteyo inogona kushandiswa kunguva yako umene.
Saka hapana chakaipa nekunzvenga mafoni chaiwo, kuramba kutora chikamu mumisangano isingafadzi kana isina purofiti, uchifuratira maemail mazhinji. Munhu wese anekodzero yekudzora nguva yake uye kusanzwa aine mhosva kana kunyara nazvo.
Hakusi kuti nguva yako inokosha kudarika nguva yevamwe vanhu. Nguva yakakosha pachayo, uye inguva yekutanga kuzviona izvozvi.
Nezve Munyori: Ryan Holiday muzvinabhizimusi uye munyori weHow Strong People Solve Problems uye Bestseller. Maitiro ekugadzira nekusimudzira mapurojekiti ekugadzira ”uye akati wandei evamwe.