Kubva pauduku, tinodzidziswa kuti tinofanira kutaura nevakuru vedu “nemi”: shamwari dzevabereki vedu, mukadzi anotengesa muchitoro, mutorwa mubhazi. Sei mutemo uyu uchingoshanda munzira imwe chete? Zvichida vakuru vanofanira kushandisa nzira yokuremekedza zvikuru yokukurukura nevana?
Zvinoratidzika kuti hapana chinhu chinoshamisa mukubvunza mukomana ane makore masere amire mumutsara: "Ndiwe wokupedzisira here?". Kana kuti kurudzira mudiki-anopfuura: "Kapu yako yadonha!". Asi ndizvo here? Chokwadi, kazhinji tinoona vana ava kekutanga uye isu hatigone kudana hukama hwedu hushamwari. Kune vanhu vakuru vari mumamiriro ezvinhu akadai, hatitombofungi kutendeukira kuna “iwe” — izvi hazvina hunhu.
Mukomana Arthur akataurawo nezvenyaya iyi, ane kufunga kwakanyorwa naamai vake pavhidhiyo uye akaburitsa rimwe zuva pa Instagram: (sangano rinotyisa rakarambidzwa muRussia) ”. Ndiri shamwari yako here? Ndiri mwana wenyu here? Ndiri ani kwamuri? Sei kwete "iwe"? Chokwadi, nei vanhu vakuru vachifunga kuti vanhu vakura zvishoma vanogona kunzi “iwe”? Uku kunyadzisa. ”…
Masikati, vhidhiyo yakawana maonero anopfuura zviuru makumi maviri neshanu uye yakakamura vatsinhanisi kuita misasa miviri. Vamwe vakabvumirana nemafungiro aArthur, vachicherechedza kuti zvakakosha kutaura "iwe" kumunhu wose, pasinei nezera remunhu: "Waita zvakanaka, kubva pauduku anozviremekedza!"
Asi vanhu vakuru vakawanda vakashatirwa nemashoko ake. Mumwe munhu akataura nezvemitemo yekutaura etiquette: "Zvinogamuchirwa kuti kusvika kumakore gumi nemaviri vana vanotaurirwa ne"iwe". Mumwe mushandisi akataura kuti hazvigoneke kuti vana va "poop out". Sezviri pachena, nechisimba chetsika netsika. Kana kuti pamwe nekuti ivo, mumaonero ake, havasati vazvikodzera: "Chaizvoizvo," iwe "unokwezva vanhu vakuru uye mutero."
Kwakanga kunewo avo vaiwanzorangarira mirangariro yomwana panhau yakadaro kuva inokuvadza: “Ipapo, muukweguru, amai vanobva kumunhu anoziva kurava nokunyora vachagamuchira mhinduro dzakangwara, dzine mufungo uye, chokwadika, pasina ruremekedzo. Nekuti vanoziva zvakawanda nezvekodzero dzavo.”
Saka vana vanofanira kubatwa sei? Pane mhinduro yakarurama kumubvunzo uyu here?
Maererano naAnna Utkina, mwana uye wechidiki wepfungwa dzepfungwa, tinogona kuzviwana nyore nyore kana tikabvisa kubva kune tsika dzetsika, mitemo yehutsika uye pedagogy uye kungofunga zvine musoro: vana. Wobva wabvunza kuti vakasununguka sei kutaura.”
Mwana anofanira kunzwa mamiriro ezvinhu uye interlocutor
Nei zvichikosha kudaro? Zvakafanana here kumwana matauriro avanoita naye? Zvinoratidza kwete. "Nekudana interlocutor "iwe", tinochengeta imwe nzvimbo, nokudaro tichiratidza ruremekedzo kwaari. Nokudaro, nemwana, tinochengetedza chinhambwe chakachengeteka kwaari mukukurukurirana, - inotsanangura nyanzvi. - Hongu, kukwidza ku "iwe" kunorerutsa kugadzwa kwekusangana neanopindirana. Asi isu tinotonyepedzera kuva shamwari yake, tichitora nzvimbo mudenderedzwa rake remukati. Agadzirira here izvi?"
Nyanzvi yepfungwa inotaura kuti vana vazhinji vanoda kubatwa sevakuru, uye kwete sevana. Naizvozvo, ivo vanonyanya kufadzwa kuti chimiro chavo chiri "kusimudzwa". Uyezve, nenzira iyi tinogadza muenzaniso wakaisvonaka kwavari: mumwe nomumwe anopindira anofanira kubatwa noruremekedzo.
“Zvakanyanya kukosha kusaroverera mumwana mimwe mitemo yetsika, asi kumudzidzisa kuchinjika mukuita kwake nyaya iyi. Semuenzaniso, kuziva mamiriro ezvinhu apo iwe unogona kuchinja kune "iwe", uye izvi hazvizove rudzi rwekutadza kwakaipa. Kazhinji vanhu vakuru vanofarira kurapwa uku, - anodaro Anna Utkina. - Mwana anofanira kunzwa mamiriro uye interlocutor. Uye pazvinenge zvakakodzera, taura uchizvidzora, uri kure, uye kumwewo kuti ugokurukura nenzira yegutsaruzhinji.”