PSYchology

Hupenzi hwakafanana nechirwere chinotapukira, Shakespeare akayambira, saka zvakakosha kuti usarudze nharaunda yako nemazvo. Asi unoziva sei wokudzivisa? Uye zvakakodzera here? Hezvino zvinotaurwa nenyanzvi yepfungwa Maria Eril.

Ini ndiri munhu anoona nezvevanhu, saka ndine chokwadi chekuti upenzi chinhu chenguva pfupi chepfungwa, chimwe chinhu chakafanana nekusakura kwehucheche. Zvisinei, handingambokanganisi kana ndikafunga kuti pamusana poupenzi hwangu, vanhu vakawanda havanakidzi sezvavangada. Uye kunyange vadiwa vavo - uye zvakatonyanya kudaro.

Asi ngationei kuti chii chaizvo upenzi hunozviratidza uye kuti hunogona kudzivirira sei kwete chete avo vanobata nemunhu akadaro, asiwo iye pachake, kubva kunakidzwa nehupenyu.

1. Benzi rinongotaura nezvaro.

Kukurukurirana kupi nokupi kunoreva kurukurirano, uye munhu akura anowanzonzwisisa kuti iyi inzira yokupanana mashoko. Kuchinjana, kwete kudyara. Zvinoitika, hongu, kuti munhu anoda kutaura kana chimwe chinhu chaitika - zvinoitika kumunhu wese. Asi kana isu tichitaura nezve pathological solo, kana interlocutor asina mukana wekuisa kanenge izwi, rega kutaura chimwe chinhu, isu tiri kubata nebenzi.

Uye usataure neni pamusoro pehunhu hwenarcissistic. Chinonyanya kukosha munyaya iyi ndechokuti munhu wacho haana kuziva kuti kuteerera chinhu chinokosha pakuwana ruzivo rwehupenyu. Mukuwedzera, unhu uhwu hunokosha zvikuru mukukurukurirana kweushamwari. Uye kana ndirini ndega ndinoteerera, saka kuregererei mumwe munhu anonakidza? Kune vadzidzisi vakawanda vane njere zvino.

2. Kune vanhu vakawanda, ane ruzha

Ini ndichaita reservation ipapo ipapo, pane zviitiko zvakakosha, zvine ruzha - asi mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro hapana mibvunzo senge "Kana kuti pamwe anongova benzi?". Handisi kutaura pamusoro pavo, asi pamusoro peavo vanhu mapenzi vanowanzotsiva kushayikwa kwekudzika uye chirevo nesimba.

Fungidzira: resitorendi, magetsi akaderedzwa, vanhu vari kutaura, mumwe munhu ari kushanda palaptop, mumwe munhu ane musangano wakanyarara werudo. Pano neapo, ruzha runowedzera zvishoma: vakaseka, vakakwazisa avo vakauya ... Uye kamwe-kamwe, pakati peiyi ruzha rwakapfava, izwi rinogumbura remukadzi anoudza mutauri nezvehupenyu hwake hwega. Uye hapana mumwe kubva kune varipo anogona kusiiwa.

Mitemo yetsika, sebhuku remirayiridzo yeketero, munzira dzakawanda haina upenzi. Kuratidzira kwebenzi mandiri

Hatidi kuteerera, kunyanya sezvo isinganakidze, yakapusa, yakapfava ... Asi aya ndiwo mashandiro anoita uropi hwedu: tinomanikidzwa kuteerera kune ruzha rwakapinza, nekuti hupenyu hunogona kutsamira pairi. Uye ikozvino nzvimbo yekudyira yese yakazvipira kune ruzivo rwekurambana ...

Vakasurukirwa vane rombo rakanaka vane laptop vane rombo rakanaka - vane mahedhifoni uye, vachitarisa kubvunza kune anotyora iyo inzwi modhi, vari kukurumidza kusunungura waya. Vaviri vacho vanobhadhara nekukurumidza uye vanotiza: zvese zviri kutanga kwavari, uye kurambana kwevamwe vanhu inyaya isina kufanira zvakanyanya. Mudzimai anohodha waini yakawanda, inzwi rake richiwedzera kukwidza. Uye kunyangwe avo vanogara munzira yemugwagwa vakatonzwa nezvehupenzi hwake ...

Nokuzvipira, mitemo yetsika inouya mupfungwa. Ivo, segwaro rekuraira reketero, munzira dzakawanda havapusikike. Kuratidzira kwebenzi mandiri.

3. Benzi rinofuratira zvinodiwa neanopindira

Anofarira here? Haana kuneta here? Zvichida anofanira kutama, asi ari kutadza kuwana kumbomira kwakakodzera? Mukufema kumwe chete, munhu akadaro anozadza nzvimbo yose. Izvo zvakanyanya kuoma kune vanhu vakapfava vanotya kugumbura, kuve vasina kufanira.

Kusadiwa kwemhinduro kunotaura nezvekuzviruramisa kwevacheche. Vanopindirana vakadaro vakaita semwana asati apiwa tsitsi, asingagoni kunzwisisa kuti amai vake vaneta nekumukwevera pachireyi kwemakiromita gumi nemasere. Saka ivo, kune rumwe rutivi, vanoita sevanojekesa: "Kana iwe usingade chimwe chinhu, ingotaura." Uye pane imwe - hongu, edza, ndiudze. Kubhadhara panhoroondo yezvichemo zvako - ndinokutendai, kwete nhasi.

4. Benzi rinotya zvose.

Ini handingaendi ikoko - hezvo. Handidi kuenda kuno, ndiko ikoko. Zvisinei, kutsvaga nguva dzose kwenzvimbo yekuchengeteka uye kunyaradza kunodzivisa shanduko. Chero pfungwa mhenyu dzemhindumupindu iyi dzine nzara uye dzinowana nzira dzekutarisana nekutya kwavo vega kana kukumbira rubatsiro. Upenzi kubvumira kutya kuronge upenyu.

Kune rimwe divi remari - kana munhu akamhanyira kuhondo asina kuyera njodzi uye asingazvienzanisi nesimba rake. Zvinhu zvakawanda zvoupenzi zvakaitwa paushingi uhwu! Asi rudzi urwu rwechipiri rwe "vatasvi vemabhiza vasina misoro" vachiri pedyo neni kupfuura vakamirira, vanotya zvose.

Nokuita chimwe chiito, munhu anowana ruzivo, kunyange kana rwusina kunaka, rudzi rwakati rwouchenjeri. Uye chii chiri ruzivo nouchenjeri zvomunhu anoramba ari mukati memadziro mana uye, mukufinhwa, anoedza bedzi nokuwana chiteshi cheTV chakanakisisa? ..

5. Benzi harikahadzika maitiro aro.

Mukuona kwangu, uku ndiko kukwirira kwehupenzi. Tarisa pane chero chikamu chesainzi, kuti pfungwa dzakachinja sei nekufamba kwenguva. Chimwe chinhu chaionekwa sechechokwadi, chisingarambiki, uyezve kuwanikwa kumwe kwakashandura hurongwa hwese hweruzivo uye zvitendero zvekare zvakashanduka kuita manyepo muzuva rimwe.

Mukuwedzera, kufunga kwakaoma, kana munhu asingazivi nzira yekushanduka-shanduka uye kufunga nezvezivo itsva, inzira yakananga kuAlzheimer's. Ndizvo zvinotaurwa netsvakurudzo yemazuva ano. Asi ndiani anoziva, pamwe vachachinja pfungwa…

6. Benzi rinopatsanura zvinhu kuita dema nechena.

Mafungiro emhando, kunyanya kuwanzwa nekusindimara, chimwe chiratidzo chehupenzi. Wapotsa kutendeuka - une topographical cretinism. Uye ndizvozvo, ucharamba wakadaro kwehupenyu hwako hwose. Kusazivikanwa kwehalftones, maficha emamiriro ezvinhu uye mamiriro - izvi zvirokwazvo hazvisi hunhu hwevanhu vakangwara.

…Chinyorwa ichi muenzaniso wekupatsanura kwakadai. Kuparadzanisa vanhu kuita mapenzi uye vakangwara ibenzi. Mushure mezvose, munhu mumwe nomumwe ane nyaya yake uye ruzivo rwake, izvo zvakatungamirira kukuti panguva ino yehupenyu munhu anotaura chete pamusoro pake, haataridzi neanopindirana naye, kana kuti anobatwa nekutya.

Mumwe nemumwe wedu dzimwe nguva anogona kuita zvehupenzi, saka chinhu chakanakisa chatinogona kuita kutungamira kutarisisa kuhupenyu hwedu hwemukati uye kupa kufarirwa kwakanyanya kune nyika yakatitenderedza.

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