Mukati
Chakakosha kuvavarira kutsvaga rudo kusangana nemunhu achatigamuchira sezvatiri. Kana iwe ukagadzirisa chero chinhu chidiki, gadzirira kumwe kuodzwa mwoyo kwakakomba. Nyanzvi dzedu dzakadoma mamiriro matanhatu ehupenyu uye hunhu hunhu hungava kukanganisa kusiya nekuda kwehukama.
1. Kushamwaridzana kwako nemhuri uye neshamwari
“Kana mumwe wako achikuda, achaedza kubata shamwari dzako nevadiwa vako nomutsa noruremekedzo,” anodaro Christina Wilke, murapi wemhuri muPennsylvania. Izvi zvinoreva kuti haazogumburwi uye kuita chiso chakasuruvara mukupindura kune chipo chekuenda kuzororo remhuri rinokosha nevabereki vako. Haazotauri zvekunyomba kana achikurukura matambudziko muhupenyu hwemunhu wepedyo musikana wako.
“Haugoni kungobvisa ushamwari hwamakore akawanda kana kuti kuonana kwepedyo nehama nokurayira kwomudiwa,” nyanzvi inotsanangura kudaro. Uye kashoma kuti utange kuvimba nemunhu anokumanikidza kuti usarudze pakati pake nevaya vaunoda nenzira yako.
2. Kukanganisa kwako
Isu tose tinouya muhukama nehumwe huwandu hwemukwende. Wese munhu ane yake yakasarudzika seti yezvikanganiso zvakaumba nekutsanangura hupenyu.
Kana imwe hafu ikaramba kubvuma utera hwako, nokukurumidza kana kuti gare gare iwe uchava nemakakatanwa.
“Munhu akakodzera nguva yako nesimba achawana nzira yokuda nayo chinhu chiri chose pamusoro pako, kubatanidza kusakwana kwako,” anodaro Betsy Ross, chiremba wepfungwa wokuMassachusetts. - Kuona chete zvakanakisisa mumumwe wako, kufuratira unhu hwake husina kunaka, kune ngozi: hapana munhu mumwe chete muupenyu hwezuva nezuva anogona kuramba asina kunaka mune zvose kwenguva yakareba. Pane imwe nguva, zvinozoita zvisingagoneke kusaona shangu dzakakandwa pakati pemukoto, ndiro dzakasviba mudhishi, kana kutaura zvisina musoro pane chero chiitiko. Uye kana imwe hafu ikaramba kuziva utera hwako, nokukurumidza kana kuti gare gare iwe uchava nemakakatanwa.
3. Tsika
“Kana uchida ukama hwakasimba, usatongochinja tsika dzako,” anonyevera kudaro mudzidzisi wokurambana Kira Gould. — Rudo rwechokwadi rwunobva panhaurirano yevanhu vari vechokwadi kwavari. Kubva pakuedza kusave zvauri kuti ufadze mumwe wako, unokurumidza kuneta.
Chido chekudiwa uye kugamuchirwa hachifanirwe kuenda kune kukuvadza kwechokwadi "Ini"
Kurarama nekunyepa kunopedza simba. Kunyanya, kushandura pfungwa yako yemhuri, yekuzvibata uye kuzviremekedza, ye (un) yekunamata, kana nyaya dzekuchengetedza hupfumi nekuda kwezvinotendwa nemudiwa inzira yakafa iyo inowanzo tungamira mukuparara kwehukama. Vakawanda vedu tiri pedyo uye tinonzwisisa chido chepasi rose chekuda uye kugamuchirwa, asi chido ichi hachifaniri kuenda kune kukanganisa kwechokwadi chedu "Ini".
4. Zvinangwa zvehupenyu
Zvinangwa zvawaive nazvo usati wasangana neimwe hafu yako hazvifanirwe kushanduka zvakanyanya nekuti iwe zvino wave mumwe wehafu yevaviri.
“Chokwadi, munogona kufungidzira muri mose moronga pamwe chete zvirongwa zvenguva yemberi, asi hazvifaniri kukanganisa zvinangwa zvoupenyu hwepasi pose,” anodaro Amy Kipp, chiremba wemhuri wokuTexas. “Zvinangwa zvenyu zvinofanira kubatana, kwete kukwikwidzana. Kana iwe wagara wakanangana nebasa, mumwe wako anofanira kutsigira mhinduro dzinokubatsira mubasa rako.
Kana kuberekwa kwevana ndizvo zvawagara uchirota, haufaniri kuparadzana nehope iyi kuitira kuti mumwe wako afare. Nhau dzinokosha dzakadaro dzinofanira kukurukurwa pamavambo chaipo poukama, kuitira kuti munhu ari wose agogona kuzvijekesera amene kana nharidzano dzenyu dzakafanana.”
5. Hunhu hunokuita kuti uve wakakosha
Shamwari dzako dzinoti kudii pamusoro pako padzinokusuma kune mumwe munhu mudenderedzwa radzo? Kuti une mutsa uye une hanya nevamwe here? Zvinoshamisa uye zvinosetsa?
“Upi kana upi noupi hupi nounhu hwako hwakajeka, hwakasiyana, usahurega huchiparara ndokufa muupenyu hwenyu pamwe chete,” anopa zano kudaro Marni Feuerman, murapi wemhuri wokuFlorida. — Kana vanhu vazhinji vakaona humwe hunhu hwako sehunoshamisa, usachinje nekuti munhu mumwe chete, mudiwa wako, anoshoropodza.
Zvekuzvivaraidza zvakanakira hukama: mufaro watinowana mukuita zvatinoda unopisa shungu
Zvichida ane godo newe, ane ushamwari uye ari nyore kuenda, kushamwari dzako. Kana kuti anofarira kuverenga uye kuronga zvese, uye kuzvipira kwako uye rudo rwerusununguko zvinomutsamwisa. Imwe nzira kana imwe, asi kana mumwe wako achitenda kuti chimwe chinhu chinoda "kururamiswa" mauri, tora ichi sechiratidzo chekunyevera: zvakakosha here kuenderera mberi nehukama hwakadaro zvachose.
6. Zvido zvako
Uri munhabvu kana kupa kune vanopa rubatsiro pakupera kwesvondo, asi nguva pfupi yadarika wanga uchirasa zviitiko izvi zvakanyanya, uchisarudza kupedza nguva nemumwe wako. Pakutanga kwehukama, panguva yemazuva erudo uye kuzivana, shanduko yakadaro yezvakakosha ndeyechokwadi.
“Zvakaoma kuti vanodanana vasiyane, kunyange kwenguva pfupi. Nekudaro, usakanda mapfumo pasi pazvishuwo nekudzikisira hupenyu kuhukama huchangobva kuitika, anoyambira Debra Campbell, chiremba wepfungwa dzemhuri wekuMelbourne. - Mudiwa anogona kunge ari mumwe weanonyanya kukosha vanhu muhupenyu hwako, asi kuramba uchibatana nezvimwe zvinhu zverudo, zvekuzvivaraidza, mitambo, mapurojekiti ekugadzira ndizvo zvinofanirwa.
Zvekuzvivaraidza zvinongonakira hukama hwepauzima: mufaro uye kugutsikana kwatinowana mukuita zvatinoda kunopisa shungu. Panguva dzakadai, isu tiri muchimiro chakanakisa uye saka tinonyanya kukwezva kune watinoda uye tinonakidza kwatiri. Usambokanda mapfumo pasi pane izvo zvinokufadza."