Mukati
Kutaura pamuchato chinhu chinofadza, asi zvinoda basa rakawanda. Uye hazvisi nyore kupa hurukuro kuitira kuti vachangobva kuchata nevaenzi vanakidzwe nehungwaru hwako uye kutendeseka, uye kwete kutsvuka nekuda kwemajee asina kunaka kana chishuwo chisina kukodzera "kubereka vana gumi."
Sezvo asiri munhu wese ane hunyanzvi hwekutaura paruzhinji, uye isu tinogona kutya pazviitiko zvakakomba, tinokupa zano kuti ugadzirire toast, uchifunga nezvemimwe mitemo.
Zvechokwadi, munhu wose anoziva chimwe chinhu: somuenzaniso, haugoni kuuya nekutaura panguva yekupedzisira, kunwa doro zvisina kunaka pamberi pekutaura, uye kushandisa mutauro unonyadzisa mukukorokotedza. Asi isu tichataura nezve mamwe nuances.
Usakwevera kunze toast
Chekutanga, hausiwe wega muenzi pamuchato uyu, uye kumashure kwako kune mutsara weavo vanodawo kukorokotedza vachangobva kuchata. Chechipiri, kutaura kwako kunofanirwa kuve nezano, zano rakakosha, uye risingasanganisire kudzokororwa kwese rondedzero yezvikamu zvehupenyu, kufunga kwehuzivi uye mazwi ekuparadzanisa.
Saka, maererano naDiane Gottsman, muvambi weTexas School of etiquette, toast yakanaka haitore nguva yakareba kupfuura maminitsi manomwe. Dzimwe nyanzvi dzinofunga kuti inofanira kutora kubva pa7 kusvika ku2-5 maminetsi. Chinhu chikuru ndechokuti kutaura kunofanira kuva nechirevo uye capacious.
Usazeza kutaura
Zvinoitika kuti nguva yekucheka pamuchato ishoma nekuda kwenhamba yevaenzi kana nekuda kwemamiriro ekupemberera, kana varongi vakagadzira imwe hurongwa hwekuita. Chengeta izvi mupfungwa uye edza kusamanikidza kutaura kunze kwekunge wakumbirwa kudaro. Kana iwe ukatora imwe yekunetsa kuronga zororo, iwe unopa vachangobva kuchata rutsigiro rwakawanda kupfuura kana iwe ukapfuura nepamakrofoni uchivashuvira mufaro uye hutano.
Usaise majee asinganzwisisi vanhu vakawanda.
Kazhinji kazhinji, nhamba huru yevanhu vanoungana pamuchato: pakati pavo pane vose shamwari dzevakaroorana vausingazivi, uye hama dzavo. Uye ivo vachanyadziswa nemajee anonzwisiswa chete kwauri uye vachangobva kuchata uye kune denderedzwa rakamanikana revanhu. Zvakakosha here kuseka mukupindura mutsara uyu? Kwakataurwa mujee here kana kuti kwete? Hazvina kujeka.
Ukuwo, kana «vekunze» kuwana kuseka kwako, zvinogona chete kuita kuti zvinhu zvitonyanya kuipa. Iwe pamwe haungade kuti mbuya vane makore makumi masere echikomba vazive nezve adventures yehudiki hwake hune mhirizhonga pakati pemuchato?
Usataure nezve ex
Kunyange kana mwenga nechikomba vakaramba vachiwirirana nevaimbova vavakaroorana navo, vakaita basa rinokosha munzira yavo pachavo muupenyu hwavo, ichi hachisi chikonzero chokududza mazita avo, zvichiita kuti vachangobva kuchata vatye. Iye zvino uri kupemberera kuberekwa kwemhuri itsva, uchifara kuti vachangobva kuchata vakawanana uye vakasarudza kutora zvakakosha, zvishoma kubva pakuona kwemutemo, danho. Zviri nani kuisa pfungwa pazviri.
Usaedza kusetsa
Pamuchato wega wega pane muenzi anofadza vanhu nenhau dzinosetsa nemacomments zuva rese. Hazvishamisi kuti basa rake «mukubwinya» rinoita serinokwezva. Zvisinei, mukuedza kuisvika, kukanganisa kwako kunouraya kunganyepa.
“Unoziva zvaunogona uye utera kupfuura chero ani zvake. Usaedze kusetsa kana usingakwanise kuzviita wega, inodaro nyanzvi yetsika Nick Layton. "Kana usina chokwadi, gara uchisarudza kutendeseka pane kuseka."
Usataure nezvevana vachauya
Mutemo uyu unoratidzika sewakasikwa, handizvo here? Kunyange zvakadaro, vachangobva kuchata vanowanzomanikidzwa kuteerera mazano uye kufanotaura nezvevana vavo vasati varonga. Uye kwete chete kubva kuhama.
Maererano nenyanzvi yetsika Thomas Farley, haisi nyaya yekusava nehanya chete: "Mashoko akadai sekuti 'Handigoni kumirira kusvikira wawana mwanasikana akanaka kudaro' achaita kuti vaviri vasuwa kana vachiona mavhidhiyo emuchato, kana akazopedzisira arwisana nekushaya mbereko.
Usaverenge pafoni yako
Ehe, hazvibviri kuti iwe utarise pabepa kana parunhare uko kutaura kunonyorwa mukati mese toast. Iwe unofanirwa kunyatso kurangarira zvauchazotaura nezvazvo kuitira kuti urambe wakatarisana nevateereri uye usatarise kusachengeteka.
Panguva imwecheteyo, kana ukasarudza pakati pefoni uye kudhindwa, zviri nani kusarudza iyo yekupedzisira, kunyange kana ichiita sekuti iwe haina kukudzwa. “Usaverenge mashoko pafoni yako,” anodaro munyori wekutaura Caitlin Peterson. -Zvakakwirira zvinogona kukanganisa chiso chako mumifananidzo nemavhidhiyo. Zvakare, haudi kuti pfungwa dzako dzirasikirwe pakati pekutaura nekuda kwekuzivisa meseji ye Instagram ”(sangano rinotyisa rakarambidzwa muRussia).
Usapa toast kune mumwe wevakaroorana
Zvichida iwe uri shamwari kana hama yeumwe chete wevakaroorana: iwe unoziva zvakawanda pamusoro pake, asi chero chinhu pamusoro pemumwe wake. Uye zvakadaro, uku kupemberera kwevanhu vaviri, saka toast inofanira kutsaurirwa kune vese vari vaviri.
Iwe uchafanira kuita nhamburiko, zvichida kutsvaka mamwe mashoko pamusoro pomudiwa weshamwari yako, asi basa rako richabhadhara: vachangobva kuchata vachaonga kuti hauna kufuratira upi noupi wavo.
Usakwevera pfungwa
"Mukuedza kunzwika kusetsa kana kungwara, vakurukuri vanokanganwa kuti maminetsi avo mashanu munzvimbo inotariswa haasi nezvavo, asi nezvevachangochata," anodaro Victoria Wellman, muvambi pamwe nemukuru wekugadzira wePublic Talk Lab. “Muhurukuro dzemuchato, chinhu chiri chose chinotaurwa kana kuitwa chinofanira kuva chebetsero yomuroori.”
Hapana chikonzero chekuongorora nyaya dzemunhu pakati pako kana kuvayeuchidza kakawanda kuti unovada zvakadini. Yako "Ini" uye "ini" inofanira kuva shoma, nokuti iyi haisi muchato wako.