Mumwe wako akareurura rudo rwake kwauri. Iwe une chokwadi chekuti uri pedyo uye wakakodzera kune mumwe nemumwe. Nekudaro, hukama hwakanamira padanho rekupfimbana nemisangano. Murume wacho haakurumidzi kutora danho rinotevera uye haapi kugara pamwe chete. "Sei asina kufunga kudaro?" unozvibvunza iwe. Tinogovera mhinduro dzinobvira kumubvunzo uyu.
Anotya kushamwaridzana
“Tava nemakore maviri tiri tose, tinodanana uye tinovimbana. Uye zvakadaro shamwari yangu haidi kugara pamwe chete, - anodaro Arina. — Pandinofunga, anoti tichine zvese zviri mberi uye zvakakodzera kuti tiwedzere nguva yerudo. Ndinonzwa kuti nguva nenguva zvakakosha kuti ave oga uye anoita seanotya kurasikirwa nerusununguko rwake.
"Vamwe vanotya kuwirirana zvekuti vanovimba - kutya kutsamira kune munhu wavanonamatira," anotsanangura kudaro nyanzvi yezvepfungwa Marina Myaus. "Uku kutya kushamwaridzana kunobva paudiki: mwana anosiiwa ari oga uye anonyimwa kutaura nemunhu wepedyo - amai." Mumwe munhu mukuru haaoneki pedyo naye, uyo mwana angave achivimba naye. Kana iyo nhanho yekuumbwa kwekunamatira isati yapera, zvakaoma kuti munhu avake hukama.
Haana kuparadzana namai vake
“Tine ukama hwapedyo, uye ndinoda chaizvoizvo kuti titange mhuri uye tive pamwe chete zvapachokwadi,” anobvuma kudaro Olga. “Dzimwe nguva ndinofunga kuti imhaka yokuti amai vake havandidi, izvo zvinovakurudzira zvikuru.”
Muongorori wepfungwa Jacques Lacan, uyo akanzvera chinetso chokuparadzana kusina kukwana kwaamai nomwana, nenzira yokuseka akaenzanisa amai vacho negarwe hadzi rinotsvaka kukwevera mwana waro akura kudzokera mudumbu.
“Tiri kutaura nezvekudzora vanaamai, vane kudzivirirwa zvakanyanya. Panguva imwe cheteyo, murume angasagara naamai vake uye asingatombochengetedzi kuonana navo, nyanzvi inotsanangura kudaro. "Zvisinei, padanho rekusaziva, haana kumbosiya mubereki wake anodzvinyirira uye mukati memoyo anotya kuti uchatevera tsoka dzake uye wotanga kudzora nhanho dzake dzese."
Kunyangwe iwe ukasamupa chikonzero chekufungira iwe nezveizvi, anogadzira mufananidzo waamai vake kune wese wepedyo mukadzi. Uye tarisiro iyi inomutyisa zvikuru.
Chii chakazoitika?
Nguva yerudo yemisangano nemunhu akadaro inogona kunge yakazara mupfungwa, izvo zvinoita kuti zviite senge kumukadzi kuti hupenyu hunotevera pamwe chete huchange hwakafanana. Zvisinei, mudiwa asingakwanisi kuwirirana, asi zvisinei achida kudziya uye kutarisirwa, anoratidza kusimba kwakadaro kwemanzwiro chete kwenguva pfupi. Uye zvino, sekutonga, ane kuderera kwepfungwa. Nokudaro, misangano chete inokodzera kwaari, asi kwete hupenyu pamwe chete.
"Kana murume asingapi chero chinhu uye" nzvimbo yakafa" inotanga muukama, mukadzi anowanzo ane iyo inonzi "casino effect". Anoda kuhwina mamiriro ezvinhu kuitira kuti murume aone kukosha kwayo uye aite chikumbiro chakamirirwa kwenguva refu, nyanzvi yezvepfungwa inodaro. - Anoisa mhedziso: zvimwe tichange tiri pamwe chete, kana kuti ndave kuenda. Mudiwa wacho anogona, pasi pedzvinyiriro yake, kubvuma. Zvisinei, zvino unofanira kusundidzira murume kusvika padanho rinotevera, kuberekwa kwevana, uye kuva nemhosva yehukama hwaasina kusarudza.
Mumubatanidzwa wakavakirwa pakunyengera, kusagutsikana uye kuodzwa mwoyo zvichakura zvisingadzivisiki.
Zvakakosha kubvumirana pachine nguva pamusoro pezvaunotarisira kubva kuhukama uye izvo mudiwa ari kuedza. "Kana zvinhu zvakawanda zvisingakuitiri kubva pakutanga, asi iwe uchida kupa mubatanidzwa wako mukana, zvisarudzire wega imwe nguva mushure mezvo zvipindure nekutendeseka mubvunzo wekuti zvirongwa zvako nezvaunotarisira zvinopindirana," akadaro nyanzvi yezvepfungwa.
Kana hukama husina kwazvinoenda, zvakakosha here kuti ugare mahuri? Iwe uchawana zvaunoda chete pamutengo wekugadzirisa, uye mune ramangwana, kugara pamwe chete hakuzounzi mufaro kune rimwe divi. Mudiwa asingakwanisi kugovera zviroto zvako uye zvishuwo zvichatora nzvimbo yeumwe munhu akagadzirira nemwoyo wose kuita izvi muupenyu hwako.