Kupopotedzana kwemhuri, kurwisana, mhirizhonga… Mhuri imwe neimwe ine matambudziko ayo, dzimwe nguva kunyange madhirama. Mwana, achiramba achida vabereki vake, angazvidzivirira sei pakurwisa? Uye chinonyanya kukosha, unovakanganwira sei? Iyi mibvunzo yakaongororwa nemutambi, screenwriter uye director Maiwenn le Besco mufirimu Ndiregerereiwo.
«"- basa rekutanga raMayvenn le Besco. Akabuda muna 2006. Zvisinei, nyaya yaJuliette, uyo ari kuita firimu pamusoro pemhuri yake, inobata nyaya inorwadza zvikuru. Maererano nechirongwa chacho, heroine ane mukana wekubvunza baba vake nezvezvikonzero zvekubatwa kwehasha. Muchokwadi, hatiwanzoshinga kutaura nyaya dzinotinetsa. Asi mutungamiriri ane chokwadi: tinofanira. Kuzviita sei?
MWANA ASINA FOCUS
“Basa guru uye rakaoma zvikuru kuvana kunzwisisa kuti mugariro wacho hausati uri wenguva dzose,” anodaro Maiwenn. Uye apo mumwe wavabereki anokururamisa nguva dzose uye achipfuurira, kunoda kuteerera kumirairo inopfuura chiremera chake choubereki, ikoku hakusati kuri kwomuzvarirwo. Asi vana vanowanzokanganisa izvi nokuratidza rudo.
“Vamwe vacheche vanogona kubata nechisimba nyore nyore kupfuura kusava nehanya,” anowedzera kudaro Dominique Fremy, chiremba wetsinga dzepfungwa dzevana.
Dzichiziva izvi, nhengo dzesangano reFrance Enfance et partage dzakabudisa dhisiki umo vana vanotsanangurirwa kodzero dzavo uye zvavanofanira kuita kana vanhu vakuru vachirwa.
KUSIMUDZA ALARM NDIYO nhanho yekutanga
Kunyange kana mwana achiziva kuti mamiriro ezvinhu haasi emusikirwo, kurwadziwa uye rudo kuvabereki zvinotanga kunetsa maari. Maiwenn ane chokwadi chokuti kazhinji kacho mafungiro anoudza vana kuti vadzivirire hama dzavo: “Mudzidzisi wangu wechikoro ndiye akatanga kuridza mhere, uyo, paakaona chiso changu chakanga chapwanyika, akanyunyuta kuvakuru vehurumende. Baba vangu vakauya kuchikoro vachichema vachindibvunza kuti sei ndataura zvose. Uye panguva iyoyo, ndakavenga mudzidzisi akanga aita kuti acheme.”
Mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro asina kujeka, vana havasi nguva dzose vakagadzirira kukurukura vabereki vavo uye kugeza machira ane tsvina paruzhinji. "Inovhiringidza kudzivirirwa kwemamiriro ezvinhu akadaro," anowedzera Dr. Fremy. Hapana anoda kuvenga vabereki vake.
NZIRA KUREVE KUKANGANWA
Pavanenge vachikura, vana vanoita zvakasiyana pakukuvadzwa kwavo: vamwe vanoedza kudzima ndangariro dzisingafadzi, vamwe vanoparadza ukama nemhuri dzavo, asi zvinetso zvichiripo.
“Kakawanda, ndipo panguva yokutanga mhuri yavo apo vanenge vabatwa chibharo vanofanira kuziva zvakajeka kuti chido chokuva nomwana chakabatana zvikuru nechishuvo chokudzorera kuzivikanwa kwavo,” anodaro Dr. Fremy. Kukura kwevana hakudi matanho anopesana nevabereki vavo vanodzvinyirira, asi kuzivikanwa kwezvikanganiso zvavo.
Izvi ndizvo zviri kuedza kutaurwa naMaiwenn: “Chinonyanya kukosha ndechokuti vanhu vakuru vabvume zvikanganiso zvavo pamberi pedare kana kuti maonero evoruzhinji anozviita.”
PVANYA DENGA
Kakawanda, vabereki vanoita zvehasha kuvana vavo, vakanyimwawo rudo muuduku. Asi hapana nzira yokuputsa nayo iyi denderedzwa rakashata here? “Handisati ndamborova mwana wangu,” anodaro Maiwenn, “asi pane imwe nguva ndakataura naye nehasha zvokuti akati: “Amai, ndinokutyirai.” Ipapo ndakatya kuti ndakanga ndichidzokorora maitiro evabereki vangu, kunyange mune imwe nzira. Usazvinyengere: kana wakasangana nehukasha uchiri mudiki, pane mukana wakakura wekuti uchadzokorora maitiro aya. Naizvozvo, iwe unofanirwa kutendeukira kune nyanzvi kuti uzvisunungure kubva kumatambudziko emukati.
Kunyange ukatadza kukanganwira vabereki vako, unofanira kumbosiya mamiriro acho ezvinhu kuitira kuti uchengetedze ukama hwako nevana vako.
Kunobva: Doctissimo.