Hatichafaniri kukura pa13. Muzana remakore rechimakumi maviri rakapa vanhu pfungwa ye "huduku". Asi zvichiri kutendwa kuti kusvika makumi matatu munhu wese anofanira kusarudza nzira yehupenyu uye kufamba mune imwe nzira. Havasi vose vanobvumirana neizvi.
Meg Rosoff, munyori:
1966, mudunhu reAmerica, ndine makore gumi.
Munhu wose wandinoziva ane basa rakanyatsotsanangurwa: vana vanonyemwerera kubva pamakadhi eKisimusi, vanababa vanoenda kubasa, vanaamai vanogara pamba, kana kuti vanoendawo kubasa—zvisingakoshi kupfuura varume vavo. Shamwari dzinodaidza vabereki vangu kuti "Mr" uye "Mai" uye hapana anopika pamberi pevakuru vavo.
Nyika yevanhu vakuru yaiva nzvimbo inotyisa, isinganzwisisiki, nzvimbo izere nemitambo kure kure neruzivo rwehuduku. Mwana akaona shanduko dzinotyisa mufiziology uye psychology asati atombofunga nezvemunhu mukuru.
Amai vangu pavakandipa bhuku rinonzi “The Path to Womanhood”, ndakatya. Handina kana kumboda kufungidzira nyika iyi yandaisaziva. Amai havana kutanga kutsanangura kuti hudiki inzvimbo isina kwayakarerekera pakati pehudiki nekukura, kana imwe kana imwe.
Nzvimbo izere nenjodzi, kufara, njodzi, kwaunoedza simba rako uye kurarama hupenyu hunoverengeka hwekufungidzira kamwechete, kusvika hupenyu chaihwo hwatora.
Muna 1904, chiremba wepfungwa Granville Stanley Hall akagadzira izwi rokuti "vechidiki".
Kukura kwemaindasitiri uye dzidzo yeruzhinji yakazoita kuti zvikwanise kuti vana vasashande nguva yakazara kubva pazera re12-13, asi kuti vaite chimwe chinhu.
Muhafu yechipiri yezana ramakore rechi XNUMX, makore ekuyaruka akabatana nekupandukira, pamwe nemanzwiro ehuzivi uye ehuzivi ayo aimbove aiitwa nevakuru vemusha nevarume vakachenjera: kuzvitsvaga, zvinoreva uye rudo.
Idzi nzendo nhatu dzepfungwa dzakagara dzakapera nezera re 20 kana 29. Mhedzisiro yeunhu yakajekeswa, pakanga pane basa uye shamwari.
Asi kwete kwandiri. Hudiki hwangu hwakatanga pazera re15 uye hahusati hwapera. Pamakore 19, ndakasiya Harvard kuenda kuchikoro chemifananidzo muLondon. Pazera ramakore 21, ndakatamira kuNew York, ndakaedza mabasa anoverengeka, ndichikarira kuti rimwe rawo raizondikodzera. Ndakadanana nevakomana vakati wandei, ndichitarisira kuti ndaizogara nemumwe wavo.
Itai chinangwa, amai vangu vaizoti, uye enda. Asi handina kukwanisa kuuya nechinangwa. Ndakanzwisisa kuti kutsikisa kwaisava chinhu changu, sekutora nhau, zvematongerwo enyika, kushambadza ... Ndinonyatsoziva, ndakazviedza zvese. Ndairidza bhesi mubhendi, ndaigara mudzimba dzokudyira, kutandara kumapati. Kutsvaga rudo.
Nguva yafamba. Ndakapemberera zuva rangu rekuzvarwa remakumi matatu - ndisina murume, ndisina imba, sevhisi yakanaka yeChinese, mhete yemuchato. Pasina basa rinonyatsotsanangurwa. Hapana zvakakosha zvinangwa. Ingori mukomana akavanzika uye vashoma shamwari dzakanaka. Hupenyu hwangu hwave husina chokwadi, huchivhiringidza, huchikurumidza. Uye yakazadzwa nemibvunzo mitatu yakakosha:
- Ndini ani?
— Chii chandinofanira kuita noupenyu hwangu?
— Ndiani achandida?
Ndava nemakore 32, ndakasiya basa rangu, ndikasiya imba yokurenda, uye ndakadzokera kuLondon. Pasina vhiki, ndakadanana nenyanzvi iyi uye ndakatamira kunogara nayo mune imwe yenzvimbo dzaisanyanya kugarika muguta.
Isu taidanana sekupenga, takatenderera kuEurope nemabhazi - nekuti taisakwanisa kuhaya mota.
Uye akapedza nguva yechando yese achimbundira heater yegasi mukicheni
Takazoroorana ndikatanga kushanda. Ndakawana basa rekushambadzira. Ndakadzingwa basa. Ndakawana basa zvakare. Ndakadzingwa basa. Pamwe chete, ndakadzingwa kashanu, kazhinji nokuda kwokusateerera, uko kwandava kudada nako.
Pandakazosvitsa makore 39, ndakanga ndava munhu mukuru, ndakaroorwa nomumwe munhu mukuru. Pandakaudza muimbi kuti ndaida mwana, akatya: "Hatisi vadiki here nekuda kweizvi?" Aiva nemakore 43.
Iye zvino pfungwa ye "gara pasi" inoita seichinyakare-chinyakare. Irwo rudzi rwechimiro chakamira icho nzanga haichakwanisi kupa. Vezera rangu havazivi zvekuita: vanga vari magweta, vashambadziri kana akaunzi kwemakore makumi maviri nemashanu uye havachadi kuzviita. Kana kuti vakabva vashaya basa. Kana kuti achangobva kurambana.
Vanodzidzisazve sevananyamukuta, vanamukoti, vadzidzisi, vanotanga kuita dhizaini yewebhu, kuita vatambi kana kuwana mari nembwa dzinofamba.
Chiitiko ichi chakabatana nezvikonzero zvemagariro nehupfumi: mabhiri ekuyunivhesiti ane mazakwatira emari, kutarisira vabereki vakwegura, vana vasingagoni kusiya imba yababa vavo.
Mhedzisiro isingadzivisiki yezvinhu zviviri: kuwedzera tarisiro yehupenyu uye hupfumi husingagoni kukura nekusingaperi. Zvisinei, migumisiro yeizvi inonakidza zvikuru.
Nguva yehuduku, nekutsvaga kwayo nguva dzose chinangwa chehupenyu, inosanganiswa nenguva yepakati uye kunyange kukwegura.
Kufambidzana paInternet pa50, 60 kana 70 hazvichashamisi. Kufanana naamai vatsva ve45, kana zvizvarwa zvitatu zvevatengi kuZara, kana vakadzi vepakati-kati vari mumutsara we iPhone itsva, vechidiki vaiwanzotora nzvimbo yavo usiku shure kweBeatles albums.
Pane zvinhu zvandisingade kudzokorora kubva kumakore angu ekuyaruka - kusava nechokwadi, kushanduka kwemafungiro, kuvhiringidzika. Asi mweya wezvitsva zvakawanikwa unoramba uneni, izvo zvinoita kuti hupenyu hujeke muhudiki.
Hupenyu hurefu hunobvumira uye hunotoda kutsvaga nzira nyowani dzerutsigiro rwezvinhu uye maonerwo matsva. Baba veimwe yeshamwari dzako vari kupemberera «mudyandigere wakakodzera» mushure memakore makumi matatu ebasa inhengo yerudzi rwuri mungozi.
Ndakangoita mwana ndine makore 40. Pamakore makumi mana nematanhatu, ndakanyora bhuku rangu rekutanga, ndikapedzisira ndawana zvandaida kuita. Uye zvinofadza sei kuziva kuti mabasa angu ese anopenga, akarasika mabasa, hukama hwakakundikana, magumo ese akafa uye nzwisiso yakawana zvakaoma ndiyo nyaya dzenyaya dzangu.
Handisisina tariro kana kuda kuva munhu mukuru "akafanira". Hupenyu hwese hudiki - kuchinjika, kushanya, kuvhurika kune zvitsva zviitiko. Pamwe pane chokwadi chishoma mukuvapo kwakadaro, asi hakuzombofi kwakafinha.
Pamakore makumi mashanu, mushure mekuzorora kwemakore makumi matatu nemashanu, ndakadzokera pabhiza uye ndakawana nyika yose yakafanana yevakadzi vanogara nekushanda muLondon, asiwo vanotasva mabhiza. Ndichiri kuda mabhiza sezvandaiita pandaiva nemakore 50.
“Usambofa wakaita basa kana rikasakutyisa,” akadaro muperekedzi wangu wokutanga.
Uye ndinogara ndichitevedzera zano iri. Ndine makore 54, ndine murume, mwanasikana ari kuyaruka, imbwa mbiri, uye imba yangu. Iye zvino hupenyu hwakagadzikana, asi mune ramangwana ini handirambidze kunze kabhini muHimalayas kana skyscraper muJapan. Ndinoda kudzidza nhoroondo.
Shamwari yangu nguva pfupi yadarika yakabva kune imwe imba yakanaka ichienda kufurati diki nekuda kwematambudziko emari. Uye kunyangwe paive nekuzvidemba uye kufara, anobvuma kuti anonzwa chimwe chinhu chinonakidza - kuzvipira kushoma uye kutanga kutsva.
“Chinhu chipi nechipi chinogona kuitika iye zvino,” akandiudza kudaro. Kupinda muisingazivikanwe kunogona kudhakisa sezvakunotyisa. Mushure mezvose, pane, mune zvisingazivikanwi, kuti zvinhu zvakawanda zvinonakidza zvinoitika. Njodzi, inofadza, inoshandura hupenyu.
Batisisa mweya wemhirizhonga uchikura. Izvi zvichabatsira zvikuru kwauri.