Zviri nyore kukanganisa maonero ekutanga paunosangana. Kunyanya kana iwe uri introvert uye wako interlocutor ari extrovert. Tinodzingana sei uye tinogona kuzoshandura pfungwa dzedu pamusoro pekuzivana kutsva?
Iwe unouya kuzoshanyira uye kuona vanhu vazhinji vatsva vausati wasangana navo. Iwe unovatarisa - uye maziso ako anobva abata mumwe munhu wausingazotauri naye nhasi! Wakaziva sei izvi uye nei, pasina kana kutaura nemunhu mutsva waunoziva, iwe uchikurumidza kuramba kutaurirana?
Mhinduro yacho ingangova pamusoro kana uri munhu anozvizivisa, uye uyo wawakurumidza kuziva somunhu asingakodzeri nokuda kwekurukurirano anonyandura, anodaro muongorori wetsika Jack Schafer.
"Maextroverts anoita seanozvivimba, ane hasha, anozvisimbisa uye anozvitutumadza kune introverts. Introverts, kubva pakuona kwevatambi, vanofinha uye vakanyarara, vasina kujairana nenzanga, "anodaro Schafer. Uye zvisinei kuti chii chaunotaura, zvisinei kuti unozvibata sei mune ramangwana, zviito zvako zvose zvichaongororwa kuburikidza neprism yekutanga kufungidzira.
Tinofara kana vatinonamata navo vachiratidza maonero atinoita upenyu. Saka zvinozoitika kuti extroverts uye introverts kazhinji pakutanga havana manzwiro anodziya kune mumwe nemumwe. Kutarisisa kwekutanga kunokwezvwa nekunze kwenyika, vekupedzisira vanochengeta zviitiko zvavo zvemukati mukutarisa. Mukuwedzera, iyo huru inopa simba kune extrovert ndeyekukurukurirana nevamwe, nepo introvert, ichimuka mangwanani ne "bhatiri yakazara", inopedzwa zvachose manheru nekuda kwekusangana nevamwe. Uye kuti awane simba, anoda kunyarara - uye zviri nani kusurukirwa zvishoma.
funga, inzwa, taura
Ndiyo misiyano yemararamiro uye maonero enyika anogona kukonzera kusagadzikana pakati pevanhu vaviri vari pa "mapango" akasiyana, anodaro Jack Schafer.
Kusiyana nevashambadzi, avo vakanyarara uye dzimwe nguva vachifara kuudza vamwe nezvezviitiko zvavo, introverts havawanzogadzirira kugovera manzwiro avo. Uye kutsamwa kunokonzerwa nevanoshamwaridzana vanozivana vanogona kuunganidza mukati mavo kwenguva yakareba kwazvo. Uye chete kana iyo introvert isingachagoni kuzvidzora, iye anopa extrovert nerunyoro rwe "zvivi" zvake. Uye inogona kuva yakakura!
Vazhinji vanoburitsa vanoda kupedzisa mitsara inotaurwa nemutauri.
Ko extroverts inotsamwisa sei introverts kana zvasvika pamusangano wekutanga?
Vanowanzotaura zvavanofunga vasina hanya zvikuru nemanzwiro evamwe. Introverts, kune rumwe rutivi, kazhinji vanotanga kufunga nezvekuti votaura pfungwa dzavo, uye havanyatsonzwisisi kuti ungafuratira sei zviitiko zvevamwe.
Mukuwedzera, vazhinji ve extroverts vanoda kupedzisa mitsara inotaurwa ne interlocutor. Introverts, kune rumwe rutivi, vanosarudza kupindira kutaura kwavo nekumbomira kuitira kuti vagadzirise pfungwa dzavo, kuti vasvike pakukwana. Uye zvirokwazvo havazvibvumiri vamene kurangarira vamwe. Kana iyo extrovert ikangoerekana yavhiringidza mutauri uye apedza chirevo chake, mutauri anonzwa kuodzwa mwoyo.
Ipa mumwezve mukana
Zvinosuruvarisa, maonero ekutanga akaoma zvikuru kuchinja, nyanzvi inosimbisa. Uye kana pakutanga kwekukurukurirana tine maonero asina kunaka kune mumwe, isu hatisi kuda kuenderera mberi nehurukuro kana kusangana naye zvakare. Uye pasina musangano unodzokororwa, unobereka zvibereko zvikuru uye unofadza, hapangagoni kuva nokutaura pamusoro pechinjo dzipi nedzipi.
Pane chimwe chiitiko chinokosha. Kana tangotanga kuona mumwe munhu, zvinova zvakaoma kuti tichinje pfungwa dzedu. Mushure mezvose, kubvuma kuti interlocutor angave asina kunyanya kuipa ndiko kubvuma kuti takakanganisa mukutonga kwedu. Uye, kuramba takatendeka kune yekutanga fungidziro, tinonzwa kushomeka kunetseka pane kana isu takasarudza kubvuma kuti isu takakanganisa, nyanzvi ine chokwadi.
Kunzwisisa kuti marudzi akasiyana evanhu anotaurirana sei kuchatibatsira kuti tibatane nevamwe.
Tingashandisa sei zivo iyi muupenyu chaihwo? Chekutanga, kana tikaramba tichifunga nezvekusiyana kwemaitiro pakati pevatambi nevatambi, hatizonyanyonetsekana nezvezvikonzero nei tisingadi mumwe munhu. Pamwe angori “kubva kune rimwe jecha rakasiyana”.
Chechipiri, kunzwisisa kuti marudzi akasiyana evanhu anokurukurirana sei kuchatibatsira kuti tibatane nevamwe. Zvichida tichava vanongwarira pamusoro pevamwe kana kukwanisa kuwirirana nezvinonaka zvekutaura kwavo.
Nezve Munyori: Jack Schafer muongorori wemaitiro.