Makafarirana mukabvumirana kusangana kuti muzivane zviri nani. Nzira yekunzwisisa sei mune imwe manheru kana munhu uyu akakodzera iwe? Clinical psychologist Diane Grand anotaura nezvezvinhu zvina zvekutarisa pakusarudza kuti voramba vachifambidzana here.
Chokutanga pane zvose, iva akatendeseka iwe pachako uye sarudza zvaunoda: hukama huri nyore uye huri nyore kana hwakakomba uye kwenguva refu. Kana wakazendamira kune yechipiri sarudzo, tsvaga zviratidzo zvina zvinokuudza kana munhu uyu akakukodzera.
Mutsa netsitsi
Cherekedza mabatiro anoita mumwe munhu mutsva waunozivana nevamwe, akadai somutengesi wemari musupamaketi kana kuti weta. Kana ane ruremekedzo kuvanhu pasinei nemamiriro avo emagariro evanhu, ichi chiratidzo chakanaka chinoratidza kuti une munhu anoteerera uye ane tsika dzakanaka pamberi pako. Hunya uye kuita zvechisimba zvisina kufanira zviratidzo zvine ngozi zvinoratidza kushaikwa kwetsitsi. Ongorora kuti anoita sei paunokanganisa.
Kana wakanonoka kuenda kumusangano nemhaka yemirimo yemotokari kana kuti chinetso chisingafanoonekwi kubasa, munhu wacho akaratidza kunzwisisa here, kana kuti wakagara wakatarira-tarira usina mufaro manheru ose? Kusakwanisa kukanganwira chimwe chiratidzo chomunhu asingateereri.
Zvaunofarira uye Zvinokosha
Edza kuona kana mune chimwe chinhu chamunofanana. Vakaroorana vane zvido zvakafanana havawanzopopotedzana. Mukuwedzera, vanhu vane zvakawanda zvakafanana havangove vadikani chete, asiwo shamwari uye vanopedza nguva yakawanda pamwe chete. Izvi hazvireve kuti zvese zvinofarirwa nevadyidzani zvinofanirwa kuenderana.
Kune hukama hwenguva refu, zvakakoshawo kuti vanhu vagovane hunhu uye maonero akafanana pazvinhu zvakaita sebasa-hupenyu chiyero, kuva nevana, uye mari yemhuri.
Hunhu rudzi
“Vanopikisa vanokwezva, asi pashure penguva yakati vanotanga kuvengana,” inodaro nyanzvi yezvepfungwa Kenneth Kaye. Nekudaro, matambudziko anomuka chete kana vanhu vakapokana. A XNUMX% extrovert, anoda kambani siku nesikati, uye introvert, uyo anosiya imba achinetsa, haakwanise kugara pamwe chete.
kugadzikana mupfungwa
Munhu mukuru akagadzikana mupfungwa haakurumidzi kutsamwa kana kugumbuka. Haatore mwoyo wezvose zvinoitika zvakamupoteredza. Uye kunyange kana chimwe chinhu chichimugumbura, anokurumidza kudzorera manzwiro akajairika.
Munhu mukuru asina kugadzikana mupfungwa anogara achichinja-chinja zvisingatarisirwi. Nokuda kwekunetseka kuduku, zvakadai sekushayikwa kwematafura emahara muresitorendi, anopindura nekuputika kwehasha. Munhu akagadzikana mupfungwa anoodzwa mwoyo, asi anokurumidza kuuya mupfungwa dzake: anofema uye anofunga pamusoro pekuita.
Paunenge uchiongorora waunoda kuroorana naye, yeuka kuti hakuna vanhu vakakwana
Kana mudiwa wako mutsva achiita seanoteerera uye akagadzikana mupfungwa kwauri, une zvaunofarira uye maitiro, uye unhu hwake hahuna kupikisana newe, unogona kuenderera mberi nekuzivana kwako zvakachengeteka.
Pamisangano inotevera, zvakakosha kuongorora kuti munhu akavimbika uye ane mutoro sei, kana achifunga nezvezvinodiwa nevamwe vanhu. Zvirongwa zvake hazvichinje maminitsi mashanu ega ega? Anobva pane rimwe basa achienda kune rimwe nemhaka yokunonoka uye mafungiro okusava nehanya here? Paunenge uchiongorora munhu anogona kusarudzwa, yeuka kuti hakuna vanhu vakakwana. Iwe unofanirwa kutsvaga munhu wauchanzwisisana naye zvese padanho renjere uye manzwiro.
Ukama hunofadza hunodawo mwero wakati wokudzikama kwemirangariro. Asi chinonyanya kukosha ndechekuda kwevakaroorana kugadzirisa pamwe chete matambudziko, kutaura pamusoro pazvo zvinonzwika uye kunyatsoteerera. Wese munhu anokwanisa kuchinja kuti ave nani kana achida.
Nezve munyori: Diane Grand ikiriniki yepfungwa.