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Muvakaroorana vane unhu hwakasiyana, zvinogona kuva zvakaoma kuwana kunzwisisana. Apo vadiwa vanotanga kugara pamwe chete, misiyano mune mutinhimira wehupenyu uye kuravira zvinogona kukanganisa hukama. Nzira yekuzvidzivirira sei? Zano kubva kuna Sophia Dembling, munyori webhuku rine mukurumbira The Introvert Way.
1. Kurukurai miganhu
Introverts vanoda miganhu (kunyange kana vasingazvibvumi). Vanonzwa vakasununguka chete munzvimbo yakanyatsozivikanwa, inozivikanwa. Izvi zvinoshanda kune zvose zvinhu uye tsika. “Wave kutora maearphones angu futi? Sei wagadzirisazve chigaro changu? Wakachenesa imba yako, asi ikozvino hapana chandichawana." Zviito zvinoita semasikirwo kwauri zvinogona kuonekwa nemudiwa wako sekupinda.
“Zvakanaka kana mudiwa akasununguka achiremekedza nzvimbo yemumwe,” anodaro Sophia Dembling. Asi hazvirevi kuti unofanira kukanganwa nezvako. Sezvimwe mune mamwe mamiriro ezvinhu, kubvumirana kwakakosha pano. Tora nguva yekutaura nezvemhando yenzvimbo iyo mumwe nemumwe wenyu anowana yakasununguka. Nyora pasi nguva dzaunenge uine kusanzwisisana - kwete kuratidza mumwe wako "bhiri", asi kuti uzviongorore uye unzwisise kuti ungadzivisa sei kukakavara.
2. Usatora maitiro emumwe wako sewako
Oleg anotaura nechido nezvemazano ake ekuti angapedza sei kupera kwevhiki. Asi Katya anoita seasingamunzwe: anopindura mumamonosyllables, anotaura nenzwi risina hanya. Oleg anotanga kufunga kuti: “Chii chakaipa naye? Imhaka yangu here? Zvakare haana kufara nechimwe chinhu. Pamwe anofunga kuti ndinongofunga nezvevaraidzo.
“Matauriro angangoita seakasuwa kana kushatirwa. Asi hazvireve kuti vakatsamwa kana kusuwa. "
Sophia Dembling anotsanangura kuti: “Vadzidzi vanogona kupinda mavari kuti vanyatsoisa pfungwa dzavo, vofunga nezvepfungwa inokosha kana kuti maonerwo anoitwa zvinhu. - Panguva dzakadai vanogona kuratidzika kusuruvara, kusagutsikana kana kutsamwa. Asi izvi hazvirevi kuti vakatsamwa kana kuti vakasuruvara. Manzwiro e-introverts haasi nguva dzose ari pachena, uye iwe uchada kunzwisisika kwakanyanya kuti uvazive.
3. Zvidzidzise kubvunza mibvunzo
Imwe yeanowanzo fungidziro yekusarudzika yevatambi ndeyekutenda kuti vamwe vanoona nekunzwisisa zvavanoona nekunzwisisa. Semuyenzaniso, munhu anozvizivisa anogona kunonoka kubasa uye asingambofungi nezve nyevero yemumwe wake nezveizvi. Kana kuenda kune rimwe guta usina chawataura. Zviito zvakadaro zvinogona kushatirisa uye kuparira kunzwa kwokushatirwa: “Haasi kunzwisisa kuti ndiri kunetseka here?”
"Zano rinobatsira pano kubvunza nekuteerera," anodaro Sofia Dembling. Mudiwa wako arikunetseka nei izvozvi? Chii chaangada kukurukura? Chii chaangada kugovera? Taurira mumwe wako kuti kutaurirana kwako inzvimbo yakachengeteka kwaasingade kuzvidzivirira uye kunyatsosarudza mazwi ake.
4. Sarudza nguva dzakakodzera dzekutaura
Introverts vane mukurumbira wekunonoka-njere. Zvinogona kuvaomera kuti vagadzire pfungwa yavo nekukurumidza, nekukasira kupindura mubvunzo wako kana zano idzva. Kana uchida kutaura pamusoro pechimwe chinhu chinokosha, bvunza mumwe wako kuti ndepapi pazvinenge zvakakodzera kuti aite izvi. Rongai nguva yenguva dzose yekukurukura zvirongwa, matambudziko, uye pfungwa pamusoro pehupenyu hwenyu pamwe chete.
"Kune introvert, mudiwa anoshanda anogona kubatsira zvakanyanya."
Sophia Dembling anoti: “Kumunhu anoshingaira anogona kubatsira chaizvo pakuita chisarudzo chakaoma kana kuti kuchinja chimwe chinhu nezvako. - Imwe yemuenzaniso wangu wandinoda kubva mubhuku ndeye nyaya yaKristen, uyo anoshandiswa "kutsvaira pasi pekapeti" matambudziko ose ane chokuita nehukama. Asi akaroorwa nomurume anoshingaira zvikuru uyo nguva dzose aimukurudzira kuita chiito, uye aimuonga.
5. Yeuka: introvert hazvirevi mutorwa
Anton akaziva kuti Olga akaenda kumakirasi ekutamba asina chaamuudza. Mukupindura kusagutsikana kwake, akaedza kuzviruramisa: “Zvakanaka, kune vanhu vakawanda ikoko, mimhanzi ine ruzha. Hauzvide izvi. " Mamiriro ezvinhu aya akajairika kune vakaroorana vane maitiro akasiyana. Pakutanga, vanobatana vanoedza kuchinjana. Asi vanobva vaneta vowira mune imwe yakanyanyisa - "munhu wese ari ega."
“Mudiwa wako anganakidzwa nokupedza nguva neshamwari kana kuenda kumakonzati newe,” anodaro Sofia Dembling. "Asi kwaari, mubvunzo we" sei" ungave wakakosha kupfuura "chii". Semuenzaniso, haafariri madhanzi echiLatin anopisa, asi anopindura nechido kune iyo yekudzidzira kutamba waltz, uko mafambiro anonatswa uye ane nyasha. Iwe unogona nguva dzose kuwana sarudzo yechitatu iyo inokodzera zvose. Asi nekuda kweizvi iwe unofanirwa kuve uchisangana kune mumwe nemumwe uye kwete kutarisa hukama semukoridho usingaperi nemagonhi akavharwa.