Nzira yekurera sei mwana ane tariro

Hakuna chidzidzo chakadaro mudzidzo yechikoro. Sezvo, kunyanguvezvo, hapana anodzidzisa kuva netariro pamusha. “Ndinowanzobvunza vabereki kuti ndeupi unhu hwavanoda kukudziridza muvana vavo, uye havana kumbobvira vataura nezvetariro,” anodaro Marina Melia, chiremba wepfungwa uye ari mudzidzisi. - Sei? Zvichida, izwi iri rinoreva naivety, kusava nekufunga kwakadzama, tsika yekutarisa nyika kuburikidza nemagirazi ane ruvara rwerose. Muchokwadi, maitiro ekusimbisa hupenyu haabvise maonero akapusa echokwadi, asi anobatsira kutsungirira kumatambudziko uye kuda kuzadzisa zvinangwa.

“Kufunga kwokuva netariro kwakavakirwa pakuzvivimba, kukwanisa kuwana chigadzikiso chechinetso chiri chose, uye kutsungirira,” inoyeuchidza kudaro nyanzvi yendangariro yakanaka Oleg Sychev. Asi vabereki vane maonero akasiyana, asina tariro muupenyu vangadzidzisa mwana uyu here?

Kune rumwe rutivi, vana vanodzidza nekuzvidira maitiro edu kune nyika, kutora maitiro, maitiro, manzwiro. Asi kune rumwe rutivi, "asina tariro uyo akagona misimboti yekufunga kwakanaka angangove "akadzidza tarisiro", munhu akadzikama, anoramba kuoma uye anovaka," Oleg Sychev anodavira. Saka mikana yekugadzira mumwana mafungiro akanaka kune ivo pachavo uye nyika mumubereki ane ruzivo rwepfungwa yakakura.

1. Pindura kune zvaanoda

Mwana mudiki anoona nyika. Noushingi anobuda munzvimbo yaajaira, anoedza, anofembedza, anobata, anotora matanho ekutanga. Kumurega aedze kwakakosha, asi hazvina kukwana. "Kuti mwana afarire zviito zvakasununguka uye arege kurasikirwa nechido mukutsvaga, anoda rubatsiro rwevakuru, mhinduro yakakodzera pane zvaanoda," Oleg Sychev anoti. "Zvikasadaro, anojaira kutarisira zvakaipisisa, kutanga kubva kuvanhu vepedyo, uyezve kubva pasirese."

Tsigira zvirongwa zvake, teerera, pindura mibvunzo uye usakanganwa kugovera izvo zvinokufadza - muzivise kumimhanzi, zvisikwa, kuverenga, rega aite zvinomufadza. Ngaakure aine chivimbo chekuti hupenyu huri kugadzirira mufaro wakawanda. Izvi zvakakwana kushingairira ramangwana.

2. Ramba uchitenda mukubudirira

Mwana anowanzotarisana nezvinetso zvisingagadzirisiki anounganidza chiitiko chekuvhiringidzika uye kusava nehanya, pfungwa dzisina tariro dzinooneka: "Handigoni kubudirira", "Hapana chikonzero kunyange kuedza", "Handikwanisi", nezvimwewo. Vabereki vanofanira kuitei? ? Dzokorora kasingaperi "Wapedza, wagona"? "Zvinonzwisisika kurumbidza uye kukurudzira mwana kana basa riri mukati mesimba rake, paanenge atova pedyo nemugumisiro uye anongoshaya kutsungirira," anotsanangura kudaro Oleg Sychev. "Asi kana matambudziko ane chekuita nekushaikwa kweruzivo uye hunyanzvi kana kusanzwisisa kwekuchinja muzviito zvavo, zvichave zvakanyanya kubatsira kuti usapuruzira kumusana, asi zvinyoro-nyoro kuratidza kuti chii uye sei kuita, vabatsire kugona hunyanzvi/ruzivo rwavanoshaya.”

Kurudzira mwana wako kuti anzwe kuti dambudziko ripi neripi rinogona kugadziriswa ari oga (kana iwe ukaisa simba rakawanda, tsvaga mamwe mashoko, dzidza nzira iri nani yekuita) kana nerubatsiro rweumwe munhu. Muyeuchidze kuti zvakajairika kutsvaga rutsigiro, mabasa mazhinji anogona kugadziriswa pamwe chete uye vamwe vanozofara kumubatsira uye kazhinji kuita chimwe chinhu pamwe chete - zvakanaka!

3. Ongorora zvaunoita

Unoona here zvaunowanzotaura kuvana kana vakakanganisa kana kukanganisa? Marina Melia anotsanangura kuti, “Maonero avo anonyanya kutsamira pane zvatinoita. Mwana akagumburwa ndokuwa. Achanzwa chii? Sarudzo yekutanga: "Uri kupenga chii! Vese vana vakaita sevana, uye uyu anozounganidza mabumps ese. Uye yechipiri: "Zvakanaka, zvinoitika! Mugwagwa hauna kunaka, chenjera."

Kana mumwe muenzaniso: mwana wechikoro akauya nedeuce. Musiyano wekutanga wekuita: “Zvagara zvakadaro kwauri. Unoita kunge hauna kana chaunoziva." Uye yechipiri: “Pamwe hauna kugadzirira zvakanaka. Nguva inotevera iwe unofanirwa kubhadhara zvakanyanya kugadzirisa mienzaniso.

"Muchiitiko chekutanga, tinoisa kutenda kuti zvinhu zvose zvinogara zvichiita zvakaipa kumwana uye" chero zvaunoita hazvina maturo," nyanzvi inotsanangura kudaro. - Uye mune yechipiri, tinomuzivisa kuti chiitiko chakaipa chichamubatsira kutsungirira matambudziko mune ramangwana. Mharidzo yevabereki yakanaka: "Tinoziva kugadzirisa izvi, hatisi kudzokera shure, tiri kutsvaga sarudzo uye tichawana mubairo wakanaka."

4. Iva Netsika Yokutsungirira

Nyaya yakajairika: mwana, asina kumbosangana nekukundikana, anosiya zvaakatanga. Nzira yekumudzidzisa sei kusaita zvikanganiso? "Mubvunze kuti chii, mukuona kwake, chikonzero chematambudziko," anodaro Oleg Sychev. “Mubatsire kuona kuti hazvinyanyi kukoshesa kugona, asi nezvenyaya yekuti basa rakadaro rinoda kushanda nesimba, ruzivo rwakawanda uye hunyanzvi hunogona kuwanikwa kana ukasakanda mapfumo pasi uye uchivavarira chinangwa.

Kusimbisa basa rekuedza uye kutsungirira kunonyanya kukosha. “Chinhu chikuru kusakanda mapfumo pasi! Kana zvikasashanda izvozvi, zvichabuda gare gare, kana wazvifunga / kudzidza chimwe chinhu chaunoda / tsvaga mumwe munhu anogona kukubatsira. Hazvisi zvakanyanya kubudirira kwechigumisiro kunofanirwa kurumbidzwa, asi kuedza: "Muri mukuru! Akashanda nesimba, akadzidza zvakawanda achigadzirisa dambudziko iri! Uye ndawana mhedzisiro yakafanira! ” Kurumbidza seizvi kunosimbisa pfungwa yokuti kutsungirira kuchagadzirisa chero dambudziko.

“Pakukurukura zvisakiso zvezvinetso, dzivisa kuenzanisa kwakashata navamwe vanhu,” nyanzvi yendangariro inoyeuchidza kudaro. Kana ukanzwa kubva kumwanasikana wako kuti “haadhirowe zvakanaka saMasha,” taura kuti tose takasiyana pakugona uye unyanzvi, saka hapana chikonzero chokuzvienzanisa nevamwe. Musiyano wakakosha chaiwo unozotungamira kune mhedzisiro ndeyekuedza kukuru uye kutsungirira kunoita munhu mukuzadzisa zvinangwa.

5. Gadzirisa kutaurirana kwake munzvimbo yakachengeteka

Vana vasina tariro vanogona kunge vasina kushamwaridzana uye vanonyanya kunyarara muhukama nevamwe nekuda kwetarisiro yavo yakaipa uye kunzwa kwekuramba. Dzimwe nguva zvinoita sekunyara. “Mwana anonyara anosangana nezvinetso zvokukurukura anogona kubatsirwa nechiitiko chipi nechipi chinosimbisa tarisiro dzake dzakanaka,” anodaro Oleg Sychev.

Chokutanga pane zvose, vabereki pachavo vanofanira kudzivisa kuongorora kwakashata uye kakawanda vanoyeuka naye kubudirira kwake, kunyange zvinyoro. Uye kunze kweizvi, zvinodikanwa kuronga mamiriro ekukurukurirana munzvimbo yakachengeteka apo mwana anogamuchirwa uye anoremekedzwa, kwaanonzwa achikwanisa. Izvi zvinogona kunge zviri kutaurirana nevana vadiki kana makirasi mudenderedzwa raanofarira, kwaanobudirira zvakanyanya. Munzvimbo yakasununguka yakadaro, mwana haatyi kushoropodzwa uye kushorwa kubva kune vamwe, anogamuchira mamwe manzwiro akanaka uye anojaira kutarisa nyika nechido netariro.