"Ini handifarire zvematongerwo enyika": zvinoita here kugara kure?

Alexander ane makore 53 anoti: “Ndinoziva kubva pane zvakaitika kwandiri kuti mumwe munhu asingafariri zvematongerwo enyika haafariri chero chii zvacho. - Zvinondisvota kana vanhu vasingazive zvinhu izvo munhu wese akatokurukura kazana.

Heino yekutanga yefirimu reStone "Alexander". Scandal. Greece yakapikisa zviri pamutemo. Nhau mumachaneli ese. Mitsetse pamabhaisikopo. Vanondibvunza kuti: “Wapedza sei kupera kwevhiki?” - "Ndakaenda kuna Alexander. - "Alexander ndeipi?"

Alexander pachake anoshingairira kutaura nezvehupenyu hwemagariro uye hurongwa hwezvematongerwo enyika. Uye anobvuma kuti anogona kunge achipisa munhaurirano uye kunyange "kurambidza" vanhu vakati wandei pamasocial network "nekuda kwezvematongerwo enyika."

Tatyana ane makore 49 haagoverani chigaro ichi: “Zvinoita sekuti vaya vanoda chaizvo kutaura nezvezvematongerwo enyika vane matambudziko. Aya ndiwo mamwe marudzi e "scab scratchers" - vaverengi vepepanhau, vataridzi vezvematongerwo enyika.

Kuseri kwechimwe nechimwe chezvinzvimbo kune zvakadzika zvitendero uye maitiro, nyanzvi dzepfungwa dzinodaro.

Rugare rwomukati runonyanya kukosha?

"Hondo inonyanya kukosha inoitika kwete munhandare yezvematongerwo enyika, asi mumweya, mupfungwa dzemunhu, uye mhedzisiro yayo chete inokanganisa kuumbwa kwemunhu, maonero echokwadi," Anton, makumi mana nemashanu, anotsanangura kuzviparadzanisa nevamwe mune zvematongerwo enyika. . "Kutsvaga kwemufaro kunze, semuenzaniso, mune zvemari kana mune zvematongerwo enyika, kunotsausa pfungwa kubva kune zviri mukati, kunokanganisa hupenyu hwese hwemunhu, hwaanoshandisa mukutambura nguva dzose uye kutsvaga mufaro usingasviki."

Elena ane makore 42 okukura anobvuma kuti dai pasina amai vake neshamwari yake yeTV, angadai asina kuona kuchinja kwazvino muhurumende. “Upenyu hwangu hwemukati nehwevadiwa zvinonyanya kukosha kwandiri. Hatirangariri kuti ndiani akakwira chigaro pasi paRousseau kana Dickens, aitonga ari pasi paMohammed kana Confucius. Mukuwedzera, nhoroondo inotaura kuti kune mitemo yekusimudzira nzanga, iyo dzimwe nguva haina maturo kurwisana nayo.

Natalia, makumi mana nemana, zvakare ari kure nezviitiko zvezvematongerwo enyika. “Vanhu vanogona kufarira zvakasiyana, ini ndine zvematongerwo enyika nenhau panzvimbo yekupedzisira. Mukuwedzera, nyanzvi dzepfungwa dzinokurudzira kudzivisa ruzivo rwakashata. Chii chichachinja kwandiri kana ndikaziva nezveimwe hondo, kurwisa kwemagandanga? Ndichangorara worse ndichizvidya moyo."

Chinhu chiri chose chiri “kunze” hachikanganisi upenyu hwomukati munzira ipi neipi, anodaro Karina ane makore 33 okukura. “Chinonyanya kukosha kugadzikana kwepfungwa dzangu, uye zvinoenderana neni chete uye manzwiro angu, utano hwehama dzangu. Uye vamwe vose vanobva kunyika yakasiyana zvachose, inenge kubva kune imwe nyika. Ndichagara ndichiwana mari, uye zvandinazvo panguva ino zvakandikwanira - uhwu hupenyu hwangu.

Iko hakuna nzira yekubuda chete kubva mubhokisi, zvimwe zvese zviri mumaoko angu. Uye zviri paTV, vamwe vanhu vane rusununguko rwekutaura, hupfumi, hurumende, hazvina basa neni - kubva paizwi rekuti "zvakawanda." Ndinogona kuita zvese ini. Pasina ivo".

Asi Eka ane makore 28 akanga asingafaririwo zvematongerwe enyika, “kutozosvikira ndafunga kuti nguva yaizosvika munyika ino, sezvakaita mune dzimwe, hurumende yaizochinja nguva dzose. Pandakangoona kuti kana paine vashoma vanhu vane njere, saka mumwe munhu anofanira kuendesa ruzivo rwakavimbika. Ndaifanira kutanga zvangu. Handisati ndoda kufarira zvematongerwo enyika. Izvi hazvifadzi kwandiri pachangu, asi ndoita sei? Ndinofanira kutsanangura, kutaura chikonzero nei usingakwanisi kugara kure, pamberi uye pasocial network.

Pasi pemoto wekutuka uye negativity

Kune vamwe, kugara kure nenyaya dzinopisa kwakaenzana nekuchengetedzeka. Ekaterina ane makore 30 anoti, “Handimbofa ndakanyora nezvezvematongerwo enyika uye handiwanzopinda munhaurirano, nokuti kune vamwe zvinokosha zvokuti zvinogona kutosvika pakurwa.

Anotsigirwa naGalina ane makore 54 okukura kuti: “Hakusi kuti handisi kunyatsofarira. Ini handinyatso nzwisisa chikonzero nemhedzisiro hukama. Handibudise pfungwa dzangu nekutya kuti havazonditsigire, handitaure pfungwa dzemumwe munhu nekutya kusanzwisiswa.”

Elena ane makore 37 akarega kuona TV uye nhau nekuti kune zvakawanda zvisina kunaka, utsinye uye hutsinye: "Zvese izvi zvinoda simba rakawanda, uye zviri nani kuzvitungamira kune zvinangwa zvako uye hupenyu hwako."

"Munharaunda yeRussia, vanhu vashomanana vanogona kukakavara uye kukurukura zvakadzikama - kushayikwa kwemashoko ekutsigira uye mufananidzo wakajeka kunopa kutsanangura kwavo pachavo, izvo zvisingabviri kusarudza yakarurama," anodaro psychotherapist, Gestalt Therapist. Anna Bokova. - Asi, imwe neimwe yadzo inongotadzisa mhedziso.

Asi kubvuma uye kubvuma kusaita kwako nderimwe remabasa akaoma zvikuru mukurapa. Hurukuro dzinoshanduka kuita holivar yepaInternet. Fomu racho haribatsirewo mukuwedzera kufarira musoro wenyaya, asi rinongovhundutsa uye rinodzivirira munhu kuti ataure pfungwa dzake dzagara dziri zinyekenyeke.”

Asi pamwe ichi chingori chimiro cheRussia - kudzivirira ruzivo rwezvematongerwo enyika? Lyubov ane makore makumi mashanu ave achigara kunze kweRussia kwemakore akati wandei, uye kunyangwe achifarira zvematongerwo enyika eSwitzerland, anopfuudzawo nhau kuburikidza nesefa yake.

“Kakawanda ndaiverenga nyaya dzechiRussian. Nhau dzemunharaunda dzine chinhu chekuparadzira uye nehurongwa hwayo hwekutanga. Asi ini handikurukure nyaya dzezvematongerwo enyika - hapana nguva, uye zvinorwadza kunzwa kunyomba mukati mako uye mukero yemumwe munhu.

Asi gakava neshamwari dzepachipfuva pamusoro pezviitiko muCrimea muna 2014 zvakakonzera kuti mhuri nhatu - mushure memakore makumi maviri nemaviri ehushamwari - dzakarega kutaurirana zvachose.

“Handina kana kunzwisisa kuti zvakaitika sei. Sezvinei takaungana nokuda kwepikiniki ndokubva tataura mashoko akawanda akashata. Kunyangwe isu tiri kupi uye kupi Crimea? Hatina kana hama ikoko. Asi zvese zvakabva pacheni. Uye kwegore rechitanhatu ikozvino, chero kuedza kudzoreredza hukama hakuna kupera pasina, "Semyon ane makore makumi mana nematatu anodemba.

Kuedza kudzora ndege

“Avo vanofarira zvematongerwe enyika kunze kwebasa vari kuedza kudzora upenyu, chokwadi,” anotsinhira kudaro Anna Bokova. - Kuwedzera kufarira mune zvematongerwo enyika inzira yekutarisana nekutya kuripo kwemhirizhonga yenyika ino. Kusada kubvuma kuti, kazhinji, hapana chinotsamira patiri uye isu hatigone kudzora chero chinhu. MuRussia, zvakare, hapana chatinoziva chokwadi, sezvo vezvenhau vasingabudisi mashoko echokwadi. "

“Ndinofunga kuti mashoko okuti “Handifariri zvematongerwo enyika” ane chokuita nezvematongerwo enyika,” anotsanangura kudaro Alexei Stepanov, chiremba wepfungwa. - Ini ndiri chidzidzo uye chezvematongerwo enyika zvakare. Ndoda kana kusada, ndoda kana kusada, ndinobvuma kana kusabvuma.

Mhedzisiro yenyaya yacho inogona kuratidzwa nerubatsiro rwepfungwa ye "locus of control" - chido chemunhu kuti azvisarudzire iye anokonzera hupenyu hwake zvakanyanya: mamiriro ezvinhu kana zvisarudzo zvake. Kana ndine chokwadi chokuti handigoni kupesvedzera chinhu chipi nechipi, ipapo hapana chikonzero chokufarira.”

Chimiro chemucherechedzi anonzwisisa ganhuriro dzake chakatorwa naNatalya ane makore 47 okukura. "Ini" ndinotarisira" vezvematongerwo enyika: zvakafanana nekubhururuka mundege uye kuteerera kuti injini dzinorira zvakaenzana, kana paine vanhu vanopenga vari munharaunda inoshanda. Kana iwe ukaona chimwe chinhu, iwe unowedzera kunzwa, kunetseka, kana zvisiri, iwe unoedza kukotsira.

Asi ndinoziva vanhu vazhinji avo, kana vangotsika manera, vanobva vangonwa kubva muflask kuti vadzime. Ndizvo zvakaitawo zvematongerwo enyika. Asi handigoni kuziva zviri kuitika muimba yevatyairi uye nemichina yendege.”

Misiyano mukukurudzira kwevanhuwo zvavo uye vezvematongerwo enyika vanongogonesa vekare kuti havagone kufurira chero chinhu. "Gestalt therapy inotsamira pane phenomenological maitiro. Kureva, kuti uwane mhedziso yechinhu, unofanirwa kuziva zvese zvinoitika uye zvinoreva, - anodaro Anna Bokova. - Kana mutengi achifarira kurapwa, anobva ataura nezve chiitiko chekuziva kwake, nyika yake yemukati. Vezvematongerwo enyika, kune rumwe rutivi, vanotsvaga kushandura zviitiko nenzira inovakodzera, kuti vazviratidze mugwara chairo.

Ehe, dzimwe nguva vatengi vanoita izvi zvakare, izvi zvakajairika - hazvibviri kuzvitarisa kubva parutivi, mapofu anozoonekwa, asi murapi anoteerera kwavari, uye mutengi anotanga kuzviona. Ukuwo vezvematongerwo enyika havadi kutariswa nekunze, ivo vanoziva zvavari kuita.

Naizvozvo, kutenda kuti mumwe munhu asiri vatori vechikamu vakananga muzviitiko anogona kuziva chokwadi pamusoro pezvinangwa zvemukati uye pfungwa kunyengera kwakadzika. Hupenzi kufunga kuti vezvematongerwo enyika vanogona kutaura vakasununguka.

Ndokusaka munhu anogona kufarira zvematongerwo enyika chete padanho reamateur, achiziva kuti hatizombofi takaziva chokwadi chose. Saka, hatigoni kuva nemafungiro asina kujeka. "Zvakapesana ndezvechokwadi kune avo vasingakwanise kubvumirana uye kugamuchira kusaita kwavo uye kuramba vachichengeta hunyengeri hwekutonga."

Hapana chinondinetsa?

Roman ane makore 40 ane maonero echokwadi ezviri kuitika munyika. Anongofarira nhau, asi haaverengi analytics. Uye ane chikonzero chemaonero ake: "Zvakafanana nekufungidzira panhandare yekofi. Zvose zvakafanana, mafungu chaiwo anonzwika pasi pemvura chete uye avo varipo. Uye isu tinonyanya kutarisa munhau pamhepo yemafungu.

Zvematongerwo enyika zvinogara zvichikonzerwa nekurwira masimba, anodaro Natalia ane makore 60. “Uye simba rinogara riri kune avo vane mari nemidziyo zviri mumaoko avo. Saizvozvo, ruzhinji rwevanhu, vasina capital, havagone kuwana masimba, izvo zvinoreva kuti havazobvumidzwa kupinda mukicheni yezvematongerwo enyika. Uye naizvozvo, kunyange avo vanofarira mune zvematongerwe enyika havazoiti mutsauko.

Saka, farira kana kusafarira, iwe wakashama sefalcon, humwe hupenyu hahuna kupenya kwauri. Pika, usatuke, asi unogona kupesvedzera chimwe chinhu chete kana ukave mubatsiri. Asi panguva imwe cheteyo, unogara uine ngozi yokubirwa.”

Zvakaoma kubvuma kuti hapana chinotsamira patiri. Naizvozvo, vazhinji vanotendeukira kunzvimbo dzavanogona kupesvedzera chimwe chinhu. “Uye ivo vanowana zvimwe zvazvinoreva mune izvi. Ndeyemunhu kune wese munhu, asi kutsvaga kunoitika chete mushure mekuziva kusakosha kwekuvapo uye kurarama manzwiro ane chekuita neichi chokwadi.

Iyo isarudzo iripo iyo, nekukurumidza kana gare gare, nekuziva kana kwete, munhu wese anotarisana. Zvematongerwo enyika munyika yedu ndeimwe yenzvimbo, muenzaniso unoratidza kusava nematuro kuedza kunzwisisa chinhu pamusoro munhu. Hapana kubuda pachena, asi vazhinji vanoramba vachiedza,” anodaro Anna Bokova.

Zvisinei, hazvisi zvose zvakajeka. "Matongerwe enyika ari kumusoro haangoratidzike mune zvematongerwo enyika ari pasi," anodaro Aleksey Stepanov. - Munhu anogona kutaura kuti haafariri mune zvematongerwo enyika, asi iye achabatanidzwa mune izvo mirairo iripo, semuenzaniso, kuchikoro uko mwana wake anodzidza.

Ndine chokwadi chokuti mumwe nomumwe wedu ane chokuita nezviri kuitika. Kana zvematongerwo enyika iri "marara", saka tiri kuitei pazviri? Tinogona kuchenesa nzvimbo yakatipoteredza uye kutanga kurima mubhedha wemaruva. Tinogona kurasira, tichiyemura mibhedha yemaruva yevamwe vanhu.

Kana uri musvuti, uchisvuta pachikuva, uri kutsigira kusateerera mutemo uye mipimo miviri. Hazvina basa zvachose kana tichifarira zvematongerwo enyika zvepamusoro. Asi kana panguva imwe chete tikapa mari nzvimbo yekudzivirira mhirizhonga yemudzimba, tinotopindawo mune zvematongerwo enyika.”

"Uye, pakupedzisira, zviitiko zvakawanda zvepfungwa zvinozviita kuti vanzwe vatova padanho remagariro," anoenderera mberi chiremba wepfungwa. - Mwana anofarira here mutemo wemhuri unotevedzwa nevabereki vake vaviri? Anoda kumufurira here? Zvinogona here? Zvichida, mhinduro dzichave dzakasiyana zvichienderana nezera remwana uye kuti vabereki vanoita sei chaizvo.

Mwana achateerera kurongeka kwemhuri, uye wechidiki anogona kukakavara naye. Muchikamu chezvematongerwo enyika, iyo pfungwa yekuchinjisa senzira yepfungwa inonyatso kuratidzwa. Mumwe nemumwe wedu anopesvedzerwa neruzivo rwekutaurirana neakakosha manhamba - baba naamai. Zvinopesvedzera maonero atinoita nyika, Nyika yaamai uye mutongi. "