10 mazano kune avo vakasurukirwa zvisingaite

Introverts uye extroverts, varume nevakadzi, vapfumi nevarombo, vakadzidza uye vasina kudzidza, vazhinji vedu tinonzwa kusurukirwa nguva nenguva. Uye "ruzhinji" harisi izwi chete: maererano neongororo ichangobva kuitika muUS, 61% yevakuru vanogona kunzi vasina kuroora. Vese vanonzwa vasina kubatana kubva kune vamwe, uye hazvina basa zvachose kana paine mumwe munhu padyo navo kana kwete.

Unogona kusurukirwa kuchikoro uye kubasa, uine shamwari kana mudiwa. Hazvina mhosva kuti vangani vanhu vatinavo muhupenyu hwedu, chakakosha kudzika kwehukama hwepfungwa navo, anotsanangura kudaro nyanzvi yezvepfungwa David Narang. "Tinogona kunge tiri pamwe chete nevemumhuri kana shamwari, asi kana pasina kana mumwe wavo anonzwisisa zvatiri kufunga nezvazvo uye zvatiri kusangana nazvo iye zvino, tingangove takasurukirwa."

Zvisinei, zvakajairika kusurukirwa nguva nenguva. Zvakatoipa, vanhu vakawanda vanonzwa saizvozvo nguva dzose.

Muna 2017, aimbove Chief Medical Officer weUS, Vivek Murphy, akadana kusurukirwa "denda riri kukura," chimwe chezvikonzero ndechekuti tekinoroji yemazuva ano nemasocial network zvinotsiva kudyidzana kwedu nevamwe. Kubatana kunogona kuteverwa pakati pechiitiko ichi uye njodzi inokura yekuora mwoyo, kuzvidya mwoyo, chirwere chemoyo, dementia, uye kuderedzwa kwehupenyu hwehupenyu.

Chero ani zvake anogona kusurukirwa, kusanganisira nyanzvi dzehutano hwepfungwa. “Kusurukirwa uye kunyara kunoita kuti ndinzwe ndisina kukanganisa, ndisingadiwi, ndisingadiwi nomunhu,” anodaro chiremba wepfungwa uye ari murairidzi Megan Bruno. “Zvinoita sekuti nemamiriro ezvinhu aya zviri nani kusaonekwa nemunhu nekuti kana vanhu vachindiona seizvi vanogona kundifuratira zvachose.

Ungazvitsigira sei pamazuva aunenge wakasurukirwa zvikuru? Ndizvo zvinokurudzirwa nenyanzvi dzepfungwa.

1. Usazvitonge nekuda kwekunzwa uku.

Kusurukirwa pachakwo hakufadzi, asi kana tikatanga kuzvituka nekuda kwemamiriro edu ezvinhu, zvinotowedzera. “Patinozvishora, kuva nemhaka kunodzika midzi mukati medu,” anotsanangura kudaro Megan Bruno. "Tinotanga kutenda kuti chimwe chinhu chakaipa nesu, kuti hapana anotida."

Pane kudaro, dzidza kuzvinzwira tsitsi. Zviudze kuti anenge munhu wese anosangana nemanzwiro aya nguva nenguva uye kuti zvakajairika kurota nezvehukama munyika yedu yakakamukana.

2. Zviyeuchidze kuti hausi kuzova wega zvachose.

"Kunzwa uku hakusi chiratidzo chekuti pane chakaipa pauri, uye chinonyanya kukosha, zvichapfuura. Iye zvino munyika, mamiriyoni evanhu anonzwa kufanana newe,” anoyeuchidza kudaro Bruno.

3. Tora danho rakananga kuvanhu

Fonera nhengo yemhuri, tora shamwari kunze kunonwa kapu yekofi, kana kungoisa zvauri kunzwa pasocial media. “Kunyara kuchakuudza kuti hapana anokuda uye hapana anokuda. Usateerera inzwi iri. Zviyeuchidze pachako kuti zvakakodzera kutora danho kunze kwechikumbaridzo chemba, sezvo iwe zvechokwadi uchanzwa zviri nani zvishoma. ”

4. Buda mune zvakasikwa

“Kufamba mupaka kuchakwana kuita kuti unzwe kurerukirwa zvishoma,” anodaro Jeremy Nobel, muvambi wechirongwa chakagadzirirwa kubatsira kurwisa kusurukirwa kuburikidza nokudhirowa. Kukurukurirana nemhuka kunogonawo kuporesa, anodaro.

5. Shandisa smartphone yako zvishoma

Yave nguva yekutsiva kubhurawuza yesocial media feed nekurarama kutaurirana. “Kuona hupenyu hwevamwe “hunopenya” uye “husina kunaka,” tinowedzera kusuruvara, anoyeuka kudaro David Narang. "Asi kupindwa muropa ne Instagram neFacebook kunogona kushandurirwa kune mukana wako kana ukakoka imwe yeshamwari dzako kuti uwane kapu yetii."

6. Ita zvekugadzira

“Verenga nhetembo, ruka sikavha, taura chero zvaunonzwa pajira,” anodaro Nobel. "Idzi inzira dzese dzekushandura marwadzo ako kuita chimwe chinhu chakanaka."

7. Funga kuti ndiani anokuda

Funga nezvemumwe munhu anokuda zvechokwadi uye ane hanya newe. Zvibvunze kuti: Ndinoziva sei kuti anondida? Anoratidza rudo rwake sei? Paakanga (a) (a) aripo, pandaida? "Chokwadi chekuti mumwe munhu anokuda zvakanyanya chinotaura zvakawanda kwete nezvake chete, asiwo nezvako - iwe unofanirwa kudiwa uye kutsigirwa," Narang ane chokwadi.

8. Tsvaga mikana yekuswedera pedyo nevasingazivi.

Kunyemwerera mumwe munhu akagara pakatarisana newe munzira yepasi pevhu, kana kubata gonhi rakavhurika muchitoro chegirosari, kunogona kukuswededza pedyo neavo vakakukomberedza. “Paunorega mumwe munhu ari mumutsetse, edza kufungidzira kuti munhu iyeye anonzwa sei,” anodaro Narang. "Tese tinoda zviito zvidiki zvetsitsi, saka tora danho rekutanga."

9. Nyorera kumakirasi eboka

Dyarai mhodzi dzekubatana kweramangwana nekubatana neboka rinosangana nguva nenguva. Sarudza zvaunofarira iwe: sangano rekuzvipira, sangano renyanzvi, kirabhu yebhuku. "Nekugovera zvaunofunga nevamwe vatori vechikamu chechiitiko, unovapa mukana wekukuziva zvirinani uye vavhure," Narang ane chokwadi.

10. Rondedzera shoko rinounzwa kwauri nokusurukirwa.

Pane kutiza kubva mukunzwa uku, edza kutarisana nayo chiso nechiso. "Cherechedza zvese zvaunonzwa panguva imwe chete: kusagadzikana, pfungwa, manzwiro, kusagadzikana mumuviri," anopa zano Narang. - Zvingangodaro, mumaminetsi mashomanana, kujeka kuchauya mumusoro wako: iwe uchanzwisisa kuti ndeapi matanho aunofanira kutora. Urongwa uhwu, hwakagadzirwa mukudzikama, huchashanda zvakanyanya kupfuura zviito zvakasiyana izvo isu tese tinoita musimba remanzwiro.

Kana yasvika nguva yekukumbira rubatsiro

Sezvatakambotaura, kusurukirwa chinhu chakajairika, uye nekuda kwekuti iwe urikusangana nazvo hazvireve kuti pane chimwe chinhu "chisina kunaka" newe. Zvisinei, kana manzwiro aya akasakusiya kwenguva yakareba uye ukaona kuti wava pedyo nekuora mwoyo, inguva yekutsvaga rubatsiro.

Panzvimbo pekuramba uchizvibvisa kune vamwe, ronga kushanya kune nyanzvi - nyanzvi yezvepfungwa kana psychotherapist. Zvichakubatsira iwe kubatana nevamwe uye kunzwa uchidiwa uye uchidikanwa zvakare.