"Hapana anondida, chii chakashata neni?" Mhinduro yePsychologist kune wechidiki

Ngatitange nekubvunza: unoziva sei? Wakanyatsotsvakurudza uye wakabvunzurudza vaunoziva vose, uye vakapindura kuti havakudi zvachose? Kunyange kana iwe uchifungidzira mamiriro ezvinhu akadaro, haugoni kuva nechokwadi chokuti munhu wose akapindura nokutendeseka.

Naizvozvo, sezviri pachena, tiri kutaura nezve yako subjective ongororo. Hameno kuti zvakabva nekupi uye chii chiri kuseri kwayo?

Ndinoyeuka kuti pazera remakore 11-13, mashoko okuti “Hapana anondida” aireva kuti “Handidi mumwe munhu chaiye, anokosha kwandiri.” Iri idambudziko mumiriyoni! Munhu anotora pfungwa dzako dzese, pfungwa dzako dzese, saka unoda kuti akukoshese uye akuzive, asi haana hanya newe zvachose! Anofamba-famba kunge pasina chakaitika, uye haakuone.

Kuita sei? Chokutanga pane zvose, hezvino zvimwe zvokwadi dzakapfava.

1. Hakuna vanhu vakanyanya kukosha kana kushoma - mumwe nemumwe wedu akakosha zvechokwadi

Kunyangwe kana mukirasi yako N ichionekwa sechiremera chikuru, munhu wese anochifarira uye ari budiriro nemunhu wese, haufanirwe kugashira kuzivikanwa kwake zvachose. Mamiriro ako, mukurumbira, chiremera hachisi chimwe chinhu kunze kwemutambo wemagariro.

Uye kana M, kunyange ari kunze ari pachena, achikuona iwe munhu akakodzera, anokurukura newe nemufaro uye anoziva maonero ako seanokosha - fara. Izvi zvinoreva kuti pane munhu mumwe chete pasi pano, kunze kwaamai nababa, vanokufarira.

2. Hatimbozivi kuti vanhu vanotiona sei.

Zvatinofunga uye zvatinonzwa hazvina kufanana nezvatinotaura uye maitiro atinoita. Zvinoita kwauri kuti vanokuvenga, asi muchokwadi unongozviwana wava panguva isiri iyo uye munzvimbo isiri iyo. Iwe unofunga kuti havakuone, asi kutaura zvazviri vanongonyara kutaura, kana chido chako hachigoni kuziva manzwiro avo nenzira ipi zvayo.

3. Zvakaoma zvikuru kunzwa tsitsi kumunhu asingadi iye pachake.

Ngative vakatendeseka: dai wanga uri N, waizokwevera ngwariro kwauri here? Chii chaungafunge nezvako, kana ukatarisa kubva kunze? Simba rako nderei? Inguva dzipi dzinonakidza uye dzinonakidza kuva newe, uye ndedzipi nguva dzaunoda kutiza kubva kwauri kuenda kumagumo enyika? Kana N isingakuone iwe, pamwe unofanirwa kuzvizivisa zvishoma?

4. Unogona kunge usisakwanise kuwana kambani yako parizvino.

Fungidzira: murume wechidiki akanyarara, anorota anozviwana ari mupati yevamwe vanopenga vanofara. Vanokoshesa unhu hwakasiyana zvachose muvanhu.

Uye pakupedzisira, pamwe wakarurama uye une zvikonzero zvese zvekufunga kuti hapana anokuda. Hapana anokukoka kuti utambe. Hapana anogara newe pasi mudining. Hapana anouya kubirthday party. Ngatitaurei kudaro.

Asi, kutanga, pane mukana mukuru wekuti iwe uchiri wakakomberedzwa nevanhu vasina kururama (uye izvi zvinogona kugadziriswa: zvakakwana kuwana imwe kambani, dzimwe nzvimbo kune vanhu vanofarira kwauri). Uye chechipiri, iwe unogona kugara uchifunga kuti ungashandura sei mamiriro acho ezvinhu. Tsvaga paInternet shamwari dzekare dzawakaenda nadzo kukireshi, kudhayi bvudzi rako, kuwana ushingi uye kukumbira kudya nevakomana vaunoda.

Zvakanaka, kana iwe uchingowana kusafarira kubva pane zvese zvaunoedza, kana munhu wese akakuramba, udza amai vako kana mumwe munhu mukuru waunovimba naye pamusoro peizvi. Kana kufonera imwe yerubatsiro (semuenzaniso, iyo yemahara dambudziko runhare: +7 (495) 988-44-34 (yemahara muMoscow) +7 (800) 333-44-34 (yemahara muRussia).

Zvichida matambudziko ako ane chikonzero chakakomba chekuti nyanzvi yepfungwa yakanaka ichakubatsira iwe kuziva.

Zvinobatsira kurovedza muviri

1. "Kurumbidza"

Kwemazuva gumi, zvipire kuzvipa rumbidzo mbiri kana nhatu pese pauno:

• zvitarise mugirazi;

• kuenda kubuda mumba;

• kudzokera kumba.

Chete, chur, kutendeseka uye zvakananga, semuenzaniso:

“Nhasi unotaridzika zvakanaka! Bvudzi rako rinotaridzika zvakanaka uye juzi rinofamba zvakanaka nebhachi. "

“Zvinofadza kutaura newe! Wawana mazwi akakodzera kune iyo mamiriro. "

“Wakanaka. Une majee anosetsa — anosetsa uye asingagumburi.

2. "Resume"

Zviri pachena kuti hausi kuzoshanda nekukurumidza, asi ngatidzidzisei. Ita mharidzo yako: sarudza mafoto, ita runyoro rwehunyanzvi hwako uye matarenda, taura zvakadzama kuti nei vanhu vachizoda kuita bhizinesi newe. Woverengazve mharidzo yacho: zvakanaka, munhu akaita sewe angasadiwa sei nemunhu?

3. "Kuongorora kwehukama hwevanhu"

Fungidzira kuti hausi iwe uri kutambura, asi mumwe mukomana Vasya. Vasya ane dambudziko guru: hapana anomuona, anobatwa zvakaipa, haakosheswi. Uye iwe munyaya iyi ndiwe muongorori mukuru wehukama hwevanhu. Uye ipapo Vasya anouya kwauri ndokubvunza kuti: "Chii chakaipa neni? Sei munhu asingandidi?"

Haafariri majee akaipa, akaipa here? Anoziva here kutora rutivi rwemumwe munhu, kudzivirira, kuratidza hanya?

Uye zvakadaro - kuti zvese zvakatanga sei. Zvichida pane chimwe chiitiko, chiito, shoko rakashata, mushure mokunge vakatanga kutarisa Vasya zvakasiyana? Kana kuti paiva nokuodzwa mwoyo kukuru muupenyu hwaVasya here? Unogona kushamisika kuti sei zvakaitika uye kuti zvingagadziriswa sei.

Kana kuti zvimwe Vasya anongochema kuti akafuta. Zvakanaka, izvi hazvina maturo! Nyika yakazara nevanhu vane uremu hwakasiyana zvachose, vanodiwa, vanocherechedzwa, vavanovaka hukama navo uye vanotanga mhuri. Dambudziko raVasya, zvichida, nderokuti kunyange asingadi zvizere iye pachake. Unofanira kumuziva zviri nani, kumufunga zvakanaka uye kunzwisisa kuti simba rake chii.

Victoria Shimanskaya anotaura nezvekuti vechidiki vanogona sei kuzviziva ivo zviri nani, kudzidza kutaura nevamwe, kukunda kunyara, kufinhikana kana kukakavara neshamwari mubhuku rinonzi 33 Important Whys (MIF, 2022), rakanyorwa pamwe naAlexandra Chkanikova. Verengawo nyaya inoti “Nei ndisingadi mumwe munhu?”: Zvinodiwa nevechiri kuyaruka kuziva nezverudo.