Mune umwe neumwe wedu mune mativi atisingaoni, asingagamuchiri. Dzine simba rinogona kusunungurwa. Asi ko kana tikanyara uye tichitya kutarisa zvakadzama matiri, mumumvuri wedu? Takataura pamusoro peizvi nenyanzvi yepfungwa Gleb Lozinsky.
Zita rekuita "Shadow Work" rinomutsa kushamwaridzana neJungian archetype, asiwo nemitambo yehondo inosanganisira "mumvuri webhokisi". Anomiririra chii? Ngatitangei nezvakanyanya kukosha…
Psychology: Chii ichi Shadow?
Gleb Lozinsky: Jung akadana mumvuri kuti archetype, iyo mu psyche inotora zvinhu zvose zvatisingazivi isu pachedu, watisingadi kuva. Hationi, hatinzwi, hatinzwi, hationi zvizere kana kuti zvishoma. Mune mamwe mazwi, Mumvuri ndizvo zviri matiri, asi izvo zvatinofunga kuti hatisi isu pachedu, chitupa chakarambwa. Somuenzaniso: Handizobvumiri utsinye kana, pane kudaro, kushaya simba, nokuti ndinofunga kuti izvi zvakaipa. Kana kuti handizoreveri ndezvangu nekuti ndinofunga kuti pfuma haina kukodzera. Tingasazivawo kuti tine mutsa, rupo, zvichingodaro. Uye uyuwo ndiwo Mvuri wakarambwa.
Uye iwe haugone kuzviona ...
Zvakaoma kune ani zvake wedu kubata mumvuri, kuruma sei gokora, kuona mativi maviri eMwedzi kamwechete neziso. Asi inogona kuzivikanwa nezviratidzo zvisina kunanga. Pano tinoita sarudzo: zvose, handichazotsamwi zvakare! Uye zvakadaro, “Oops! Kuenzana kuri kupi!?”, “Asi zvakamira sei, ndanga ndisingadi!”. Kana kuti mumwe munhu anotaura chimwe chinhu chakadai se "Ndinokuda", uye pane kushora kana kuzvikudza muzwi, mazwi haabvumirani nezwi. Kana kuti mumwe munhu achaudzwa: iwe wakaoma musoro, unokakavara, uye anokwira nehasha kuti aiwa, handina kudaro, hapana humbowo!
Tarisa-tarisa: kune yakawanda mienzaniso. Isu tinoona nyore Mimvuri yemumwe munhu (kashanga muziso), asi isu hatigone kuona zvedu (danda). Uye chimwezve chinhu: kana chimwe chinhu mune vamwe chakawandisa, chakanyanyisa, chinotsamwisa kana kuyemura zvakanyanyisa, uku ndiko kurudziro yeMvuri yedu, yatinogadzira, inokandira vamwe. Uye hazvina basa kuti zvakanaka here kana kuti zvakaipa, zvinogara zviri pamusoro pezvatisingazive matiri isu vanhu. Kutenda nekusazivikanwa, Mumvuri unodya pane simba rehupenyu hwedu.
Asi sei tisingangozivi unhu uhwu, kana tatova nahwo?
Kutanga, zvinonyadzisa. Chechipiri, zvinotyisa. Uye chechitatu, hazvina kujairika. Kana imwe mhando yesimba ichigara mandiri, yakanaka kana yakaipa, zvinoreva kuti ndinoda kubata simba iri neimwe nzira, ita chimwe chinhu naro. Asi zvakaoma, dzimwe nguva hatizivi kuti tozvifambisa sei. Saka zviri nyore kutaura, "Ah, izvi zvakaoma, ini ndoda kusaita nazvo." Zvakafanana, iwe unoziva, hazvisi nyore kwatiri nevanhu vakasviba zvakanyanya, asiwo hazvisi nyore nevanhu vane chiedza. Nokuti ine simba. Uye isu, sekutaura, takaneta mumweya, uye tinoda kutsunga kuti tisvike pakusangana nesimba, simba, uye kunyangwe nezvisingazivikanwi.
Uye avo vakagadzirira kujairana neiri simba vanouya kwauri here?
Hongu, vamwe vakagadzirira kupinda mukati memunhu asingazivikanwe. Asi munhu wose anozvisarudzira pamusoro pehuwandu hwekugadzirira. Ichi chisarudzo chemahara chevatori vechikamu. Mushure mezvose, kushanda neMvuri kune mhedzisiro: kana iwe ukawana chimwe chinhu pamusoro pako chawaisaziva kare, kana kuti pamwe waisada kuziva, hupenyu hunochinja neimwe nzira.
Vadzidzisi vako ndivanaani?
Ini pamwe neni Elena Goryagina takadzidziswa isu pachedu naJohn naNicola Kirk vekuUK uye online neAmerican Cliff Barry, musiki weiyo Shadow Working kudzidziswa. John ane simba uye akananga, Nicola ane hunyoro uye akadzama, Cliff inyanzvi yekusanganisa nzira dzakasiyana. Akaunza psychotherapeutic tsika pfungwa yezvitsvene, tsika. Asi munhu wose anoita rudzi urwu rwebasa anoriita zvakasiyana zvishoma.
Chii chiri musimboti wenzira yacho?
Isu tinogadzira mamiriro akanaka ekuziva Mvuri iyo inonyanya kukanganisa hupenyu hweimwe nhengo yeboka. Uye iye anowana nzira yake yega yekuzivisa simba iro Mumvuri anovanza. Ndiko kuti, vanopinda mudenderedzwa uye vanogadzira chikumbiro, semuenzaniso: "Zvakaoma kwandiri kuti nditaure zvandinoda," uye nerubatsiro rweboka ravanoshanda nechikumbiro ichi. Iyi inzira yekugadzira, chakanyanya kutariswa (mune zvese pfungwa) ndechekuona maitiro echijairira anokanganisa hupenyu, asi asingaonekwe. Uye wozoishandura nerubatsiro rwechiito chaicho: kuratidzwa uye / kana kugamuchira simba, simba.
Chimwe chinhu chakafanana nemumvuri webhokisi?
Ini handisi nyanzvi pakurwa uku. Kana mukufungidzira kwekutanga, mu "mumvuri webhokisi" murwi anouya mukusangana kwakadzama naye. Iko hakuna mukwikwidzi chaiye, uye kuzvidzora kunotanga kushanda mune imwe nzira, kunyatsoziva kuzvidzora. Naizvozvo, «mumvuri bhokisi» rinoshandiswa mukugadzirira kurwa chaiko.
Tinoshanda neMvuri kuti Mvuri usatambe nesu. Tinotamba neMvuri kuti utishandire.
Uye hongu, basa redu rekugona Mumvuri rinotanga kusangana kwakadzama nesu pachedu. Uye sezvo hupenyu nenyika yemukati zvakasiyana, isu, kuwedzera kuMvuri, tinoshandisa mamwe mana archetypes: Monarch, Murwi, Mashiripiti, Iye Anoda - uye isu tinopa kufunga chero nyaya, dambudziko, chinodiwa kubva panguva ino. maonero.
Izvi zvinoitika sei?
Uyu munhu chaiye, asi kurerutsa: semuenzaniso, mumwe murume anogona kuona kuti nevakadzi anoshandisa maitiro eMurwi. Ndiko kuti, rinotsvaka kukunda, kukunda, kubata. Pamwe anotaridzika kutonhora zvakanyanya musimba reMashiripiti, kana kuti anotakurwa nevanofambidzana kwenguva pfupi, anoyerera nehukama musimba reMudiwa. Kana kuita samambo pachinzvimbo chemubatsiri. Uye kunyunyuta kwake: “Handinzwi kuva pedyo! ..”
Ibasa rakareba here?
Kazhinji tinoita kudzidziswa kwemumunda kwemazuva 2-3. Basa reboka rine simba guru, saka rinogona kuva renguva pfupi. Asi kune zvakare imwe chete mutengi fomati, uye matekiniki anogona kushandiswa akazvimirira.
Pane zvipi nezvipi zvinorambidzwa kutora chikamu?
Isu tinongwarira kutora avo vanoda rubatsiro rwerutsigiro, vane basa risiri kuti vawedzere kuipa. Kudzidziswa kwedu kwakawanda kune avo vanoda kukudziridza: kushanda neShadow kwakakodzera kukura kwega.
Chii chinobuda pakusangana neMvuri?
Chinangwa chedu ndechekubatanidza Mumvuri mumunhu. Kutarisisa kwemutori wechikamu, zvinoenderana, kunonangidzirwa kunzvimbo yaaine nzvimbo yakafa, kuitira kumutsiridza nzvimbo iyi, kuibatanidza pamwe nemuviri wese. Fungidzira, isu tinorarama uye hatinzwi imwe nhengo yemuviri, iripo, asi isu hatiinzwe, isu hatiishandise. Chimwe chikamu chiri nyore kuteerera, uye chimwe chacho chakaoma. Pano muchigunwe chikuru chiri nyore. Uye pakati pechigunwe chakatonyanya kuoma. Uye saka ndauya ikoko nehanya yangu, ndakazvinzwa, asi kufamba? Uye zvishoma nezvishoma chikamu ichi chinova changu chaicho.
Uye kana isiri chigunwe chepakati, asi ruoko kana mwoyo? Vamwe vanhu vanofunga kuti izvi hazvidikanwi, nokuti vasati vagara neimwe nzira pasina iyo, zvakanaka, unogona kuramba uchirarama. Vamwe vanhu vanobvunza kuti: Ndakazvinzwa, uye zvino ndoita sei nazvo? Uye basa redu sevaratidziri nderekuita kuti vatori vechikamu vanzwisise kuti vane basa rakasiyana rekuita kubatanidza mikana mitsva neruzivo muhupenyu.
Kana tikabatanidza Mvuri, ichatipei?
Kunzwa kwekukwana. Kukwana nguva dzose kunoreva kufananidzwa kwangu. Ini muhurongwa hwehukama hwemhuri, ini nemuviri wangu, nezvandinokoshesa, ini nebhizinesi rangu. Ndiri pano. «Ini» anomuka uye anorara. Kuziva Mvuri kunotipa pfungwa huru yekuvapo muhupenyu hwedu pachedu. Zvinokupa ushingi hwokutanga chimwe chinhu, ndiko kuti, kusarudza kuita chimwe chinhu chako woga. Inondibvumira kuwana zvandinoda. Kana kusiya zvausingadi. Ziva zvaunoda.
Uye kune mumwe munhu kuchava kusikwa kweumambo hwavo, nyika. Kusika. Rudo. Nekuti kana isu tikasaona Mvuri, zvinoita sekunge haticherechedze ruoko rwerudyi kana rweruboshwe. Asi ichi chinhu chakakosha: ruoko, rwunofamba sei? Oo, tarisai, akasvikapo, akapuruzira mumwe munhu, akagadzira chimwe chinhu, akanongedza kumwe.
Kana tikacherechedza izvi, humwe hupenyu hunotanga ne "Ini" itsva. Asi kushanda neMumvuri, nekusaziva matiri, inguva isingaperi, nekuti Mwari chete ndiye mumwe uye ari kwese kwese, uye munhu anogara akaganhurirwa mukuzviona, kuona kwenyika. Chero isu tisiri zuva, isu tichava neMvuri, hatizopukunyuke pane izvi. Uye isu tinogara tine chimwe chinhu chekuwana nekushandura matiri. Tinoshanda neMvuri kuti Mvuri usatambe nesu. Tinotamba neMvuri kuti Mvuri ugotishandira.