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Zvingaita sekuti chii chingave chakasikwa kupfuura zvepabonde? Asi muzivi Alain de Botton ane chokwadi chokuti munzanga yemazuva ano "bonde rinofananidzwa mukuoma kunzwisisa nepamusoro masvomhu."
Kuva nesimba remusikirwo rine simba, zvepabonde zvinogadzira matambudziko mazhinji kwatiri. Tinoshuva muchivande kuva nevatisingazivi kana kuti vasingadi. Vamwe vanodisa kupinda mukuedza kwounzenza kana kuti kunonyadzisa nokuda kwegutsikano yevatano. Uye basa racho harisi nyore - pakupedzisira kuudza avo vanonyanya kudiwa kwatiri nezve izvo zvatinoda chaizvo pamubhedha.
“Tinotambura pachivande, tichinzwa kushamisa kunorwadza kwevatano kwatinorota nezvako kana kuti kuedza kudzivisa,” anodaro Alain de Botton uye anopindura mibvunzo inopisa zvikuru panhau inonyandura.
Nei vanhu vachinyepa nezvezvido zvavo zvechokwadi?
Kunyange zvazvo zvepabonde chiri chimwe chezviito zvepedyo zvikuru, zvakakomberedzwa nemafungiro akawanda anotenderwa nevanhu. Vanotsanangura kuti tsika dzepabonde chii. Kutaura zvazviri, vashoma vedu vanowira pasi pepfungwa iyi, anonyora Alain de Botton mubhuku "Sei kufunga zvakawanda nezvepabonde."
Anenge tose zvedu tinotambura nokunzwa kwokuva nemhaka kana kuti neuroses, kubva kufibias nezvishuvo zvinoparadza, kubva mukusava nehanya uye kusemburwa. Uye isu hatina kugadzirira kutaura nezvehupenyu hwedu hwepabonde, nokuti isu tose tinoda kufungidzirwa zvakanaka.
Vanoda nenzira yomuzvarirwo vanorega kureurura kwakadaro, nokuti vanotya kukonzera kunyangadza kusingadzivisiki muvatano vavo.
Asi kana panguva ino, apo kusemburwa kwaigona kusvika pakakwirira, tinonzwa kugamuchirwa uye kutenderwa, tinonzwa manzwiro akasimba ehuhu.
Fungidzira mitauro miviri ichiongorora nzvimbo yepedyo yemuromo - iro rakasviba, rakanyorova bako rinotarisa chiremba wemazino chete. Hunhu hwakasarudzika hwekubatana kwevanhu vaviri hunonamwa nechiito chinovatyisa vese kana zvikaitika kune mumwe munhu.
Chii chinoitika kune vakaroorana muimba yekurara chiri kure nekutemerwa tsika nemitemo. Ichi chiito chekubvumirana pakati pevaviri vepabonde zvakavanzika izvo zvinopedzisira zvavhurirana kune mumwe nemumwe.
Kuroorana kunoparadza bonde here?
"Kuderera zvishoma nezvishoma kwesimba uye kuwanda kwepabonde mune vakaroorana ichokwadi chisingadzivisiki chebiology uye umboo hwekugara kwedu kwakazara," Alain de Botton anovimbisa. “Kunyangwe indasitiri yekurapa bonde iri kuedza kutiudza kuti muchato unofanirwa kumutsiridzwa nekumhanyisa kwechishuwo nguva dzose.
Kushaikwa kwepabonde muhukama hwakasimba kunobatanidza nekusakwanisa kukurumidza kushandura kubva kune tsika kuenda kune erotica. Hunhu hunodiwa nebonde kwatiri hunopesana nekuchengeta mabhuku mashoma ehupenyu hwezuva nezuva.
Bonde rinoda fungidziro, kutamba, uye kurasikirwa kwekudzora, uye naizvozvo, nehunhu hwayo chaihwo, hunovhiringidza. Isu tinodzivisa bonde kwete nekuti haritifadze, asi nekuti mafaro aro anokanganisa kugona kwedu kuita mabasa epamba zvakayerwa.
Zvakaoma kushandura kubva pakukurukura nezveramangwana rekugadzira chikafu uye kukurudzira wawakaroorana naye kuti aedze basa remukoti kana kudhonza pamusoro pemabvi bhutsu. Tingaona zviri nyore kukumbira mumwe munhu kuti azviite—mumwe munhu watisingazofaniri kudya naye kudya kwemangwanani kwemakore makumi matatu anotevera akatevedzana.
Sei tichikoshesa kusavimbika?
Pasinei nekutongerwa kwevanhu kusavimbika, kushayikwa kwechido chipi nechipi chepabonde kune rumwe rutivi hakuna musoro uye kunopesana nemasikirwo. Kurambwa kwesimba rinotonga hunhu hwedu uye hunokanganisa "zvinokonzeresa": "zvitsitsinho zvakakwirira uye masiketi akapfava, mahudyu akatsetseka uye mhasuru dzemakumbo"...
Tinonzwa hasha patinotarisana nechokwadi chokuti hapana mumwe wedu anogona kuva chinhu chose kune mumwe munhu. Asi chokwadi ichi chinorambwa nemafungiro ewanano yemazuva ano, ine vavariro nekutenda kwayo kuti zvese zvatinoda zvinogona kugutswa nemunhu mumwe chete.
Isu tinotsvaga muwanano kuzadzikiswa kwezviroto zvedu zverudo nebonde uye tinoodzwa mwoyo.
“Asi kupusa kufunga kuti kusavimbika kunogona kuva mushonga unoshanda mukuora mwoyo uku. Hazvibviri kurara nemumwe munhu uye panguva imwechete kwete kukuvadza zviri mukati memhuri, "anodaro Alain de Botton.
Kana mumwe munhu watinoda kutamba naye paIndaneti akatikoka kuti tisangane muhotera, tinoedzwa. Nokuda kwemaawa mashomanene omufaro, tave kutoda kuisa upenyu hwedu hweroorano pamutsetse.
Vatsigiri vewanano yerudo vanotenda kuti manzwiro ndizvo zvese. Asi panguva imwe cheteyo, vanofuratira marara anoyangarara pamusoro pepfungwa dzedu dzekareidoscope. Ivo vanofuratira zvese izvi zvinopokana, zvemanzwiro uye mahomoni masimba ari kuedza kutiparadzanisa mumazana emativi akasiyana.
Taisagona kuvapo kudai takanga tisina kuzvinyengera nechomukati, nechishuvo chechinguvana chokudzipa vana vedu pachedu, muchetura watakaroorana naye, kana kuti kurambana nemhaka yenharo dzokuti ndiani achachinja girobhu. Imwe mwero wakati wokuzvidzora unodiwa pautano hwepfungwa hwemarudzi edu uye kuvapo kwakakwana kwenzanga yakajairika.
"Isu tiri muunganidzwa wechaotic chemical reactions. Uye zvakanaka kuti tinoziva kuti migariro yokunze kazhinji kazhinji inorwisana nemirangariro yedu. Ichi chiratidzo chekuti tiri mugwara chairo, ”anopfupisa Alain de Botton.
Nezve munyori: Alain de Botton munyori weBritish uye muzivi.