Vana vakura vanofanira kutevedzera sungano dzevabereki here?

Kutanga, zvinhu zviri pachena. Kana vana vatova vanhu vakuru, asi vasati vazvitsigira ivo pachavo, kuguma kwavo kunosarudzwa nevabereki vavo. Kana vana vakasafarira izvi, vanogona kutenda vabereki vavo nerubatsiro rwavakawana kubva kuvabereki vavo vobva vasiya vavaka hupenyu hwavo, vasisade kubatsirwa nevabereki. Pane rumwe rutivi, kana vana vakura vachirarama nenzira ine chiremera, vakaisa misoro yavo pamapfudzi avo uye noruremekedzo nokuda kwavabereki vavo, vabereki vakachenjera vanogona kugovera chisarudzo chenhau huru dzoupenyu hwavana vavo kwavari.

Zvose zvakafanana nebhizimisi: kana mutungamiriri akachenjera achitarisira zvinhu zvemuridzi, saka nei muridzi wacho achifanira kupindira munyaya dzake. Nenzira, mutungamiriri anozviisa kune muridzi, chaizvoizvo, anosarudza zvose akazvimirira. Ndizvo zvakaita vana: kana vachitonga hupenyu hwavo nekuchenjera, vabereki havakwire muhupenyu hwavo.

Asi havasi vana chete vakasiyana, vabereki vakasiyanawo. Ikoko hakuna mamiriro emutema-ne-chena muhupenyu, asi kuti zvive nyore, ini ndichasarudza nyaya mbiri: vabereki vakachenjera uye kwete.

Kana vabereki vakachenjera, kana vose vari vaviri vana naavo vakavapoteredza vachivarangarira saizvozvo, ipapo vana vachavateerera nguva dzose. Hazvina mhosva kuti vakura sei, nguva dzose. Sei? Nemhaka yokuti vabereki vakachenjera havasati vachizotongoraira kuvana vavo vakura kuti hazvichabviri kurayira kwavari savanhu vakuru, uye ukama hwavabereki vakachenjera uye vatova vana vakura zvikuru ukama hwokuremekedzana. Vana vanobvunza maonero evabereki vavo, vabereki vachipindura izvi vanobvunza maonero evana - uye ropafadzai sarudzo yavo. Zviri nyore: kana vana vachirarama nehungwaru uye neruremekedzo, vabereki havachapindiri muhupenyu hwavo, asi vanongoyemura zvisarudzo zvavo uye vanovabatsira kufunga kuburikidza nezvese zvirinani mumamiriro ezvinhu akaoma. Ndokusaka vana vachiteerera vabereki vavo nguva dzose uye vachibvumirana navo nguva dzose.

Vana vanoremekedza vabereki vavo uye, pakuumba mhuri yavo vamene, vanofanofunga kuti zvavanosarudza zvichakodzerawo vabereki vavo. Ropafadzo yevabereki ndiyo vimbiso yakanakisa yekusimba remhuri remangwana.

Zvisinei, dzimwe nguva uchenjeri hunopandukira vabereki. Pane mamiriro ezvinhu apo vabereki vanenge vasisina kururama, uye ipapo vana vavo, sevanhu vakura zvakakwana uye vane mutoro, vanogona uye vanofanira kuita zvisarudzo zvokuzvimirira zvakakwana.

Heino nyaya kubva kumaitiro angu, tsamba:

“Ndakapinda mumamiriro ezvinhu akaoma: Ndakava nhapwa yaamai vangu vandinoda. Muchidimbu. Ndiri Tatar. Uye amai vangu vanopikisa zvakanyanya mwenga weOrthodox. Inoisa munzvimbo yekutanga kwete mufaro wangu, asi kuti zvichave sei kwaari. Ndinomunzwisisa. Asi iwe haugone kuudza moyo wako zvakare. Mubvunzo uyu unounzwa nguva nenguva, mushure mezvo handifari kuti ndinouunza zvakare. Anotanga kuzvishora pamusoro pechinhu chiri chose, achizvitambudza amene nemisodzi, kushaya hope, achiti haachisina mwanakomana, uye zvichingodaro mumweya iwoyo. Ane makore 82, ndiye Blockade yeLeningrad, uye achiona kuti anozvitambudza sei, achityira hutano hwake, mubvunzo unorembera mumhepo zvakare. Dai aiva mudiki ndaishingirira ndega, pamwe nekurovera gonhi aitobvuma hake aona vazukuru vake. Kune dzakawanda zviitiko zvakadaro, uye munharaunda yedu, iyo zvakare isiri muenzaniso kwaari. Veukama vakaitawo chiito. Tinogara tose muimba ine makamuri matatu. Ndingafara kana ndikasangana neTatar, asi maiwe. Kana, paizova nemvumo kubva parutivi rwake, kana mwanakomana chete aifara, nokuti mufaro wevabereki apo vana vavo vachifara, zvichida kutanga kutanga "kutsvaka" mweya wangu, ndingadai ndakasangana neTatar. Asi kana ndatanga kutsvaga, zvichida maziso angu haazosangana neTatar ... Hongu, uye kune vasikana veOrthodox, ndinoda kuenderera mberi neukama, ndakasarudza mumwe wavo. Hapana mubvunzo wakadaro kubva kudivi ravo. Ndine makore makumi mana nemashanu, ndasvika pakusadzoka, hupenyu hwangu hwazara nekusava nematuro kwakawedzera zuva rega rega ... Ndoita sei?

Mamiriro acho haasi nyore, asi mhinduro ndeyechokwadi: munyaya iyi, unoda kuzvisarudzira, uye usateerera amai vako. Amai vari kukanganisa.

Makore makumi mana nemashanu izera rekuti murume akatarisana nemhuri anofanirwa kunge aine mhuri. Yakwana nguva. Zviri pachena kuti, zvimwe zvinhu zvakaenzana, kana pane sarudzo pakati peTatar (sezviri pachena, izvi zvinoreva musikana akakurira zvakanyanya mutsika dzeIslam) uye musikana weOrthodox, zvakanyanya kururama kusarudza musikana waunofambidzana naye. kuva nehunhu hwepedyo nemaitiro. Ndiko kuti, muTatar.

Ini handina rudo mutsamba iyi - rudo kumusikana uyo munyori wetsamba achazogara naye. Murume anofunga nezvaamai vake, akabatanidzwa naamai vake uye anotarisira hutano hwavo - izvi zvakarurama uye zvakanaka, asi anofunga nezvemusikana angave atova mudzimai wake, kumuberekera vana? Anofunga nezvevana vangave vachitomhanya nekukwira pamakumbo ake here? Unofanira kuda mudzimai wako womunguva yemberi uye vana vako pachine nguva mberi, funga nezvavo kunyange usati wasangana navo uchirarama, gadzirira uyu musangano pachine makore.

Vabereki vanogona kupindira muupenyu hwevana vavo here? Vabereki nevana vane njere, zvakanyanya kuitika, uye zvishoma zvakakosha. Vabereki vakangwara vane ruzivo rwakakwana rwehupenyu kuti vaone zvinhu zvakawanda pachine nguva, pachine nguva mberi, saka vanogona kukuudza kwaunofanira kuenda kunodzidza, kupi kushanda, uye kunyangwe waunofanirwa kubatanidza ramangwana rako uye wausingaite. Vana vakangwara pachavo vanofara kana vabereki vakangwara vachivaudza zvose izvi, maererano, munyaya iyi, vabereki havapindiri muhupenyu hwevana, asi vanotora chikamu muhupenyu hwevana.

Zvinosuwisa kuti vabereki nevana pavanonyanya kunetsa uye mapenzi, vabereki vakadaro havafaniri kupindira muhupenyu hwevana, uye zvakanyanya kukosha ... vanoda kubatsira. ivo! Asi rubatsiro rweupenzi uye rusina mano rwevabereki runongokonzera kupikisa uye kunyanya kupusa (asi kunze kwekuvenga!) Zvisarudzo zvevana.

Kunyanya kana vana pachavo vagara vakura, vanowana mari ivo vogara vakaparadzana ...

Kana mukadzi wechikuru asina pfungwa dzakajeka akauya kuimba yako uye otanga kukudzidzisa kuti fenicha yako inofanira kunge yakaita sei uye kuti ndiani waunofanirwa kusangana naye uye wausingafanire, hauzomuteerere zvakanyanya: iwe unonyemwerera, chinja. nyaya yacho, uye nokukurumidza ingokanganwa nezvehurukuro iyi. Uye zvakakodzera kudaro. ​⁠Asi kana mukadzi akwegura uyu ari amai vako, saka nokuda kwechikonzero chakati kurukurirano idzi dzinova dzakareba, dzinorema, nokuzhambatata nokusvimha misodzi… “Amai, izvi zvinoyera!”? — Chokwadi, zvitsvene: vana vanofanira kutarisira vabereki vavo vatokura. Kana vana vakave vakangwara kupfuura vabereki vavo, uye izvi, nerufaro, zvinowanzoitika, saka vana vanofanira kudzidzisa vabereki vavo, kuvadzivisa kuti vasapinda muhupenzi husina hanya, vabatsire kutenda mavari, vagadzirire mufaro uye vatarisire zvinorehwa nehupenyu hwavo. upenyu. Vabereki vanofanira kuziva kuti vachiri kudiwa, uye vana vakachenjera vanogona kuva nechokwadi chokuti vanoda chaizvo vabereki vavo kwemakore anotevera.