Mumhuri dzine hukama huri nyore, kurova basa kunoonekwa sechinhu chakajairika uye hazvipokane nenyaya yekuti vana vanoda uye vanoremekedza baba. Kazhinji kazhinji ityisidziro kupfuura chinhu chaichoicho.
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Kurova chinhu chine hutsinye. Uku ndiko chirango chemuviri chemwana, kazhinji netambo pamagaro, nebasa rekuita kuti mwana arwadziwe zvakanyanya uye arwadze kakawanda, kuti asaite zvaari kurohwa. Kupa bhande hakusi kurova, kupa bhandi rinorwadza kamwechete kana kaviri. Munguva yedu, kurova uye bhanhire senzira dzedzidzo hazviwanzo kushandiswa, kunyange zvazvo kutyisidzira kweizvi kubva kuvabereki (kazhinji kubva kumadzibaba) kunonzwika, kuchiguma chete nembama papapa.
Nekudaro, zvese zvinoitika muhupenyu. Mienzaniso yehupenyu chaihwo:
Chiitiko chekurova zvakasimba zvinoenderana nehupenyu hwehupenyu hwemwana: kana hukama huri nyore, kana huripo, mune dzimwe mhuri, vana vose vanorohwa, uye naizvozvo, uye panguva yakatarwa, kurova kunoonekwa sechirango chakajairika. Kana pasina munhu anorangwa mumuviri, asi ini ndakarangwa, uye kunyange-zvakaipisisa-shamwari dzangu dzakaziva nezvazvo uye dzinogona kuzviseka, mwana anogona kuzviona zvakanyanya, sekushungurudzika mupfungwa.
Mumhuri dzine hukama huri nyore, kutyisidzira kwekurohwa kunoonekwa sechinhu chakajairika semumhuri yakakura, kutyisidzira kwekusiiwa pasina TV.
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Kubudirira kwekurohwa kunogoneka. Zvinoratidzika kuti mukurova, vana vanonyanya kutya kwete kurwadziwa pachako, asi kunzwa kwekushaya simba uye kunyadziswa. Vanowanzodada nekugona kwavo kutsungirira kurohwa (“Ini hapana chandinopa! Kana ukama hwemhuri hune dambudziko, vabereki havana chiremera, saka kurova hakuwedzeri chinhu paukama hwakadaro: kutya kwomwana kurwadziwa hakuzotsivi kushayikwa kwechiremera kwevabereki. Iyo yakawanda inogona kuwanikwa dzimwe nguva ndeyekurerutsa vana mumaitiro avo ekusashamwaridzana zvachose.
Ini handityi amai vangu — ndinoenda kunobira amai vangu. Ndinotya baba vangu — handisi kuzoba.
Zvinoita sekuti iwe unofanirwa kusiyanisa: nguva dzose kurova uye kamwe kupihwa bhandi. Kugara kurohwa kune kushaya simba kwekudzidzisa, kana pamafungiro anosiririsa evabereki. Pane imwe nguva kupa bhanhire mumamiriro ezvinhu apo mwana anoedza vabereki vake kuti awane simba, haateereri mazwi uye anoita zvinhu zvose mukuzvidza - kunyanya mumhuri dziri nyore zvinogona kuva zvakakosha uye zvinonzwisiswa nevana pachavo: "Mhanyai. kumusoro? - ndawana».
Mumhuri umo vana vakakwana, nokuti vabereki pachavo vanhu vakachenjera uye vane tsika dzakanaka, kurova uye bhanhire hazvidiwi nenzira ipi zvayo, vanoregererwa nyore nyore uye vanoonekwa sehupenzi.
Zvakaoma zvikuru kupindura vabereki vakatoregeredza vana vavo, uko vana vakaoma, uye vabereki vamene vasingasiyani mutsika: “Saka chii panzvimbo pokurova?” — Mhinduro: kuva vabereki vakakwana.
Tsvagiridzo inoratidza:
Vanaamai navanababa vakawanda vakashandisa chirango chakakomba chomuviri, uyezve, vaitonhora uye vasingakendengi kuvana vavo, pane dzimwe nguva kunyange kuvaitira utsinye pachena, vaisava nehanya navo, uye kazhinji kazhinji vairatidzira kusapindirana kana kuti kuwirirana mudzidzo yavana vavo. Muchidzidzo chekare chakaitwa naR. Sears, E. Maccoby, naG. Levin, zvakaratidzwa kuti vabereki vanoshandisa gu.ee chirango chemuviri havangorove vana vavo nguva zhinji chete, asiwo vaisapindirana uye dzimwe nguva vaitobvumira kuwirirana zvakanyanya ( Sears, Maccoby naLevin, 1957). Muchidzidzo cheOregon masayendisiti, zvakaonekwawo kuti kurangwa kwevabereki kunosanganiswa nehumwe hunhu. Seizvo Patterson akasimbisa asimbisazve, vanaamai navanababa vevana vane chinetso iye navashandi vake vakanzvera vakanga vasiri bedzi kuranga zvakanyanyisa, asi vaibudirirawo mukuroverera chirango muvana vavo. Vakanga vasingasarudze zvakakwana uye vasingachinjike mukusarudza kwavo zviito zvekupa mubairo kana kuranga, uye nguva dzose uye zvisina tsarukano, kutukwa, nekutyisidzira vana vavo (Patterson, 1986a, 1986b; Patterson, Dishion and Bank, 1984; Patterson, DeBaryshe naRamsey, 1989). Ona →
Zvichida zvakanyanya mune izvi, uye kwete mukurova pachayo?
Nyaya dzakaoma hadzikurumidzi kugadziriswa. Vabereki vanoda kushivirira, uye vana vanoda mhoteredzo ine utano. Kana iwe usingakwanisi kurarama nemwana iwe pachako - funga kuti ndiani angakubatsira pane izvi. Kana vanhu vakuru ivo pachavo vachirarama sevanhu, kana mwana akakomberedzwa nezvose zviri zviviri rudo uye kuomarara kunonzwisisika, kunyange vana vakaoma vanova nani mumakore mashoma. Ona, semuenzaniso, chiitiko chenharaunda yeKitezh.