Ndivanamai uye vakaremara

Florence, amai vaThéo, ane makore 9 okukura: “Kuva amai kwaiva pachena, asi ndaiziva kuti upenyu hwezuva nezuva hwaizoda mazano ..."

“Zvaida rudo rukuru, kutsungirira kwakanaka kwomuviri nepfungwa kuitira kuti muviri wangu usina kusimba utsigire mimba. Zvaidawo unyanzvi hwakanaka, kukurira kutaura kwokunyomba pane dzimwe nguva kwavasingazivi kana kuti nyanzvi dzoutano. Pakupedzisira, ndakabvuma kuongororwa kwenguva refu kwemajini uye kuongororwa kwakasimba kwechiremba, kuti ndiwane chinhu chakanakisisa munyika: kupa hupenyu. Kwakanga kusingabviri kana kuti kune ngozi. Zvakanga zvakatonyanya kuomera mukadzi akaita seni. Ndine chirwere chebhonzo chegirazi. Ndine kufamba kwangu kwose uye kunzwa, asi makumbo angu aizotyoka kana aifanira kutsigira uremu hwemuviri wangu. Naizvozvo ndinoshandisa wiricheya nemaoko uye ndinotyaira motokari yakachinja. Shungu dzekuda kuva amai uye kutanga mhuri dzaive dzakasimba kupfuura chero dambudziko.

Théo akaberekwa, anoshamisa, pfuma yandaigona kufungisisa kubva mukuchema kwake kwokutanga. Sezvo ndaramba general anesthesia, ndakabatsirwa kubva kune spinal anesthesia iyo, mune yangu uye kunyangwe kugona kwenyanzvi, haishande nemazvo. Ndakangoti rukutu kune rimwe divi. Kutambura uku kwakabhadharwa nekusangana naTheo nemufaro wangu wekuva amai. Mai vanodadawo kuti vagone kuyamwisa muviri wavo wakadaira zvakanaka! Ndakachengeta Theo nekuvandudza huchenjeri hwakawanda uye kuwirirana pakati pedu. Achiri mucheche ndaimupfekedza chipfuramabwe, paakagara pasi, ndakamusunga nebhande semundege! Zvikuru, akadana "kuchinja mota", mota yangu yakashandurwa ine ruoko runofambiswa ...

Théo ava nemakore mapfumbamwe. Anoda, anoda kuziva, akangwara, anokara, anonzwira tsitsi. Ndinofarira kumuona achimhanya nekuseka. Ndinofarira maonero aanondiita. Nhasi, iyewo mukoma mukuru. Zvakare, nomurume anoshamisa, ndakava nomukana wokubereka kasikana. Chiitiko chitsva chinotanga kumhuri yedu yakasanganiswa uye yakabatana. Panguva imwe cheteyo, muna 2010, ndakaumba sangano reHandiparentalité *, ndakabatana nePapillon de Bordeaux centre, kuti tibatsire vamwe vabereki vane urema hwemotokari uye kunzwa. Mukati memimba yangu yokutanga, dzimwe nguva ndainzwa ndisina betsero nokuda kwokushayiwa ruzivo kana kuti kugoverana. Ndaida kuzvigadzirisa pachikero changu.

Sangano redu, maererano neruzivo rwevakaremara, inoshanda uye mishandirapamwe yekuzivisa, inopa mabasa akawanda uye tsigira vabereki vakaremara. MuFrance yese, vanaamai vedu vanotumirana vanozviita vanowanikwa kuti vateerere, kuzivisa, kusimbisa, kusimudza mabhureki pakuremara uye kutungamira vanhu vanodiwa. Isu tiri vanaamai neimwe nzira, asi vanaamai kupfuura zvese! “

* Sangano reHandiparentalité rinozivisa nekutsigira vabereki vakaremara. Inopawo chikwereti chemidziyo yakagadziridzwa.

Jessica, amai vaMelyna, vane mwedzi 10: “Zvishoma nezvishoma, ndakazviona saamai.”

"Ndakabata pamuviri mumwedzi ... Kuve amai raive basa rehupenyu hwangu kunyangwe hurema hwangu! Nokukurumidza zvikuru, ndaifanira kuzorora ndokuganhurira kufamba kwangu. Ndakaita miscarriage first. Ndakakahadzika zvakanyanya. Zvino pashure pemwedzi 18, ndakabata pamuviri zvakare. Pasinei nekunetseka, ndakanzwa ndagadzirira mumusoro mangu uye mumuviri wangu.

Mavhiki ekutanga asununguka akanga akaoma. Nokuda kwekushaya chivimbo. I delegated a lot, ndaiva muoni. Nekuvhiyiwa uye kuremara kweruoko rwangu, handina kukwanisa kuendesa mwanasikana wangu kuwadhi yemadzimai apo aichema. Ndakaona achichema hapana zvandaikwanisa kuita kunze kwekungomutarisa chete.

Zvishoma nezvishoma, ndakazviita saamai. Chokwadi, ndine miganhu. Handiite zvinhu nekukasira. Ndinotora "dikita" rakawanda zuva rega rega pakuchinja Melyna. Paanenge achikwenya zvinogona kutora maminitsi makumi matatu, uye kana maminitsi makumi maviri gare gare ndinofanira kutanga patsva, ndarasikirwa ne30g! Kumudyisa kana afunga kurova nechipunu zvakare mutambo wakanyanya: ini handikwanise kuita mutsimba neruoko rumwe! Ndinofanira kugadzirisa uye kutsvaga dzimwe nzira dzekuita zvinhu. Asi ndakawana hunyanzvi hwangu: Ini ndinotokwanisa kuigeza ndakazvimirira! Ichokwadi, handigoni kuita zvose, asi ndine simba rangu: Ndinoteerera, ndinoseka zvikuru naye, tine zvakawanda zvekunakidzwa. “

Antinea, amai vaAlban naTitouan, ane makore 7, uye Heloïse, ane mwedzi 18: “Inyaya youpenyu hwangu, kwete hwomunhu akaremara.”

“Pandaitarisira mapatya angu, ndakazvibvunza mibvunzo yakawanda. Nzira yekutakura sei mwana achangoberekwa, sei kupa kugeza? Vanaamai vese vanotsvanzvadzira, asi vanaamai vakaremara zvakatonyanya kudaro, nekuti midziyo haina kukodzera nguva dzose. Dzimwe hama dzaka“shora” nhumbu yangu. Kutaura idi, vaipesana nepfungwa yokuti ndive amai, vachiti, “Iwe uri mwana, uchaita sei nomwana? »Kuva amai kazhinji kunoisa kuremara pamberi, zvichiteverwa nezvinonetsa, mhosva kana kusava nechokwadi.

Pandaiva nepamuviri hapana kana aitaura nezvangu. Hongu, nemapatya mhuri yangu yainetsekana nezvangu, asi vakasvika pakuziva kuti ndiri mutano neniwo ndakanga ndapora.

Baba vamapatya vakafa nechirwere imwe nguva gare gare. Ndakaenderera mberi nehupenyu hwangu. Ndakabva ndasangana nemurume wangu iyezvino, akatambira mapatya angu sewake uye taida mumwe mwana. Vana baba vevana vangu vagara vari vanhu vakanaka. Héloïse akaberekwa asina hanya, iye pakarepo akayamwa nenzira yomuzvarirwo, iri pachena zvikuru. Kuyamwisa kazhinji kunonyanya kunetsa kugamuchira kubva kunze, neavo vakakupoteredza.

Pakupedzisira, chiitiko changu ndechekuti handina kusiya zvishuwo zvangu zvehuamai zvakadzika. Nhasi, hapana anokahadzika kuti sarudzo dzangu dzaive dzakarurama. “

Valérie, amai vaLola, ane makore 3 okukura: “Pakuberekwa, ndakasimbirira kuchengeta yamuro yangu yokunzwa, ndaida kunzwa kuchema kwokutanga kwaLola.”

"Ndakanga ndisingakwanisi kunzwa kubva pakuberekwa, kurwara neWaardenburg syndrome mhando 2, yakaonekwa mushure mekutsvaga kweDNA. Pandakabata pamuviri, pakava nemanzwiro emufaro nekugutsikana pamwe chete nekushushikana uye kutya pamusoro penjodzi huru yekupfuudza kusanzwa kumwana wangu. Kutanga kwenhumbu yangu kwakaonekwa nekuparadzana nababa. Mangwanani-ngwanani, ndakaziva kuti ndaizova nemwanasikana. Nhumbu yangu yaifamba zvakanaka. Painyanya kusvika zuva rekufarisa rekusvika, ndipo pakawedzera kusashivirira kwangu uye kutya kwangu kusangana nechinhu chidiki ichi. Ndainetseka pamusoro pepfungwa yokuti angave ari matsi, asiwo kuti ini pachangu ndakanga ndisingakwanisi kunzwa boka rezvokurapa panguva yekusununguka, izvo ndaida pasi pechirwere chechirwere. Vananyamukuta vepawadhi vainditsigira, uye mhuri yangu yaibatanidzwa zvikuru.

Basa racho rakanga rakareba zvekuti ndakagara muchipatara kwemazuva maviri ndisina kusununguka. Pazuva rechitatu, kuvhiya kwechimbichimbi kwakasarudzwa. Ndakatya nokuti boka racho, rakapiwa mutemo wacho, rakanditsanangurira kuti ndaisakwanisa kuchengeta yamuro yangu yokunzwa. Zvakanga zvisingafungidzike kuti handina kunzwa kuchema kwekutanga kwemwanasikana wangu. Ndakatsanangura kushushikana kwangu uye ndakazokwanisa kuchengeta prosthesis yangu mushure mekuuraya hutachiona. Ndazorodzwa, ndichiri kuburitsa mamiriro airatidza kushushikana. Murapi wekunditindidzira, kuti andisunungure, akandiratidza ma tatoo ake, ayo akaita kuti ndinyemwerere; team yese yemublock yakafara chose, vanhu vaviri vachitamba nekuimba kuti mhepo ifare. Uye ipapo, anesthetist, achipuruzira huma yangu, akati kwandiri: "Zvino iwe unogona kuseka kana kuchema, iwe uri amai vakanaka". Uye zvandakanga ndakamirira kwemwedzi mirefu inoshamisa yemimba inogutsa zvakaitika: ndakanzwa mwanasikana wangu. Ndizvozvo, ndaiva amai. Hupenyu hwangu hwakava nerevo itsva pamberi pechishamiso chidiki ichi chinorema 4,121 kg. Kupfuura zvose, akanga akanaka uye ainyatsonzwa. Ndaigona kungofara...

Nhasi, Lola musikana muduku anofara. Chakava chikonzero changu chokurarama uye chikonzero chokurwisana kwangu nokusanzwa kwangu, uko kuri kuderera zvishoma nezvishoma. Zvakare kuzvipira zvakanyanya, ndiri kutungamirira musangano wekuzivisa nezve kutangwa kwemutauro wemasaini, mutauro wandinoda kugovera zvakanyanya. Mutauro uyu unopfumisa kutaurirana zvakanyanya! Inogona kuva semuenzaniso imwe nzira yekutsigira mutsara wakaoma kutaura. Muvana vadiki, chishandiso chinonakidza chinovabvumira kutaura nevamwe vakamirira mutauro wemuromo. Pakupedzisira, anobatsira kunzwisisa mamwe manzwiro ari mumwana wake, nokudzidza kumucherechedza zvakasiyana. Ini ndinoda iyi pfungwa yekukurudzira kusikwa kwechisungo chakasiyana pakati pevabereki nevana. ”