Nzira nhatu dzekutenga mufaro - nemari uye pasina

Chirevo chokuti “haungatengi mufaro” munzira yakati chinowanikwa mutsika dzakasiyana. Zvingaita sekuti huchenjeri hwevanhu hahugone kupokana. Asi zvakadini kana chirevo ichi chikabvunzwa?

“Paunoda kuzvifadza, unopedza mari kutenga here? Uye unonzwa kufara nazvo here? anobvunza chiremba wepfungwa Ian Bowen. "Kana kuti unonzwa uine mhosva nekuti kutenga "kwakaipa" uye kupambadza, nekuti havasi vese vari pedyo vane mukana wakadaro ..."

Saka zvinoita here kuti uwedzere kufara nekushandisa mari? Ian Bowen anofunga kudaro. Uye zvidzidzo zvinoratidza kuti chinhu chikuru ndechokuzviita neimwe nzira.

Pane mitemo inofanirwa kutevedzwa kuti kuparadzana nemari kunounza mufaro. Inogona:

• kutenga ruzivo;
• kushandisa mari kuvandudza varaidzo;
• pamper yourself;
• kubhadhara mberi;
• ivai nerupo.

Uye pane chimwe chinhu: iwe unogona uye unofanirwa kuwana mufaro wakachena kubva kunotenga! Zvakanaka kutenga chinhu chaunoda uye kukubatsira kuti utaure, wobva wapfeka, uchiratidzira kupasi rose. Zvakanaka, kana waita kukunda pane inotevera nhanho yehupenyu, kuzvitengera iwe yekufananidzira «mubairo» iyo ichakuyeuchidza iwe zvakawanda zvatingaite uye kutikurudzira kune zvitsva kubudirira. Maererano naIan Bowen, izvi zvinobatsira kutora matanho akasimba uye oushingi.

Uye isu tinogona zvakare kuwana nzira dzekuziva, kukurudzira, nekupemberera zviitiko zvehupenyu izvo zvisingade kuti isu tiite mari. “Zvisinei, kana uchiri kusarudza kushandisa zvishoma, fara uye usanzwa uine mhaka,” anopa zano Ian Bowen.

Asi «kutenga pamushini», iyo inobatsira kuvanza kubva kuhupenyu, haisi iyo inonyanya kukosha sarudzo. Zvichida kwaiva kuvonga kwaari kuti "mbiri" yakaipa yemari yakaumbwa. Kuunganidza zvikwereti zvekadhi rechikwereti, kupfekedza wadhiropu nezvinhu kubva muunganidzwa mutsva unotevera watisingade chaizvo, usingape mafaro uye usingapfeki, hazvina maturo. Hunhu uhwu hunotungamirira kwete kumufaro, asi mukuora mwoyo.

Maitiro akakodzera emari anogona kukubatsira kuti unzwe uchifara, anodaro Ian Bowen. Anopa nzira nhatu dzeku "tenga mufaro."

1. Shandisa mari kufadza vamwe

Kana iwe uine mari yemahara, iwe unogona kuita chimwe chinhu chisingatarisirwi uye chinonakidza: semuenzaniso, tumira maruva makuru kune tete vako vanodikanwa kana kukorokotedza shamwari yekare pane imwe budiriro.

Kana pasina mari yezvinhu zvakadaro, shandisa simba rako kune chinangwa chayo. Haukwanisi kuodha maruva here? Rekodha meseji yevhidhiyo kuna tete vako, uye fadza shamwari yako nesarudzo yemifananidzo yako yakajairika.

2. Isa mari mukukura kwako

Kufara kunoreva kuisa mari mukati mako. Iwe unogona kunge uine kosi inonakidza kana chirongwa mupfungwa - kwete hazvo zvine chekuita nebasa rako guru, asi, sezvavanotaura, "yemweya". Nyanzvi yezvepfungwa inokurudzira kusazvibvunza kana kuchenjera kushandisa mari pakudzidziswa kwakadaro, asi kungozviita nekuti unoda.

Kana mikana yemari ishoma, haufanirwe kuzvinyima ruzivo rutsva - iyo Internet inovhura yakawanda mikana yekuitora mahara. "Ona mavhidhiyo anokurudzira, tora emahara online makosi," Bowen anokurudzira.

3. Isa mari muzvinhu zvinoita kuti unzwe zviri nani.

Ian Bowen anokurudzira kutarisa pane kutenga kunoita kuti unzwe kusimba, kufara, kungwara, kana zviri nani. Tenga kwete nekuti chinhu chaunofanira-kuva nefashoni, asi nekuti inoratidza chimwe chinhu chakakosha pamusoro pako.

Uye nokuda kweizvi, zvakare, hazvidikanwi kuva nemari. Iwe unogona kuzvifadza iwe, kukurudzira kana kupemberera chiitiko chakakosha pasina kushandisa mari. "Tsvaga nzira dzekugadzira dzekurangarira nguva iripo, kupemberera zuva rakakosha kwauri. Semuyenzaniso, tsvaga mufananidzo unoenderana nemanzwiro ako woumisa senge sikirini yako."

Zviripachena kuti haisi mari pachayo inoita kuti tifare — mashandisiro atinoita mari anogona kuunza nyemwerero pazviso zvedu. Asi kuunganidza kwokunyanyisa uye kusada kushandisa mari pamufaro woupenyu hwedu hupfupi zvinongokuvadza sokurasa kusina mufungo.

Munhu wose anogona kuzvisarudzira zvichamufadza. Rubatsiro? Spontaneity? Adventures? Kusika? Sarudzo iyi ndiyo inosarudza kuti ndeipi nzira yekushandisa mari inoita kuti ufare.

Nezvemunyori: Ian Bowen inyanzvi yepfungwa uye murairidzi.