Mukati
Kukakavadzana pamusoro pezvematongerwe enyika kunogona kuunza kusawirirana muukama uye kunyange kuparadza mhuri yakabatana. Nei izvi zviri kuitika? Kunzwisisa uku kuchatibatsira here kuchengeta rugare mumhuri yedu pachedu? Isu tinonzwisisa pamwe chete ne psychotherapist pamuenzaniso wevaverengi vedu.
“Kusiyana kwemirangariro kwenhengo dzemhuri kwakauraya ukama hwedu”
Dmitry, ane makore makumi matatu nemasere
“Ini naVasilisa tave tose kwenguva yakareba, anopfuura makore gumi. Vaigara vaine ushamwari. Vakanzwisisana. Vaigona kubvumirana pane zvisina kufanira kana zvichidikanwa. Tine midziyo yakafanana - imba iri kunze kweguta. Takavaka pamwe chete. Takafara kutama. Ndiani aizoziva kuti matambudziko akadai aizotanga naye...
Makore matatu apfuura, amai vangu vakabatwa nechirwere cheshuga. Majekiseni einsulin nezvimwe zvakadaro… Chiremba akati aida kutariswa, uye takamuendesa kwatiri. Imba yacho yakakura, pane nzvimbo inokwana munhu wese. Hukama hwangu nemukadzi wangu hwagara hwakanaka. Taisagara tese, asi taishanyira vabereki vangu nguva dzose. Uye mushure mekufa kwababa vake - atova amai vamwe. Sarudzo yekugara mese muimba imwe yaive yakabatana. Mudzimai haana kuita basa nazvo. Uyezve, amai vangu vanofamba zvishoma, vanozvitarisira hutsanana pachavo - havadi mukoti.
Asi amai vangu matsi uye vanogara vachiona TV.
Tinodya pamwe chete. Uye haakwanisi kufungidzira zvokudya pasina "bhokisi". Nekutanga kwezviitiko zveFebruary, amai vangu vakaomerera kumapurogiramu. Uye ipapo, mukuwedzera kunhau, kushatirwa kwakasimba. Kumuti adzime hazvibatsiri. Ndiko kuti, anoidzima, asi obva akanganwa (sezviri pachena, zera rinoita kuti rinzwe) uye rinoshandura zvakare.
Ini nomudzimai wangu tinoona TV kakawanda uye tinongoona nhau chete. Hatitarise zvirongwa zvepaTV zvinopopotedzana nemunhu wese. Asi dambudziko harisi mumatare chete. Ndinofunga hukama hwedu hwakauraya misiyano yavo yepfungwa - vanaamai naVasilisa. Kudya kwemanheru kwega kwega kunoshanduka kuita mhete. Vese vari vaviri vari kupopotedzana zvine hasha nezvezvematongerwo enyika - imwe yekushanda kwakakosha, imwe ichipokana.
Mumavhiki apfuura, vakaunzana mukupisa kwakachena. Pakupedzisira, mudzimai wacho akanga asingakwanisi. Akarongedza zvinhu zvake ndokuenda kuvabereki vake. Hapana kana chaakandiudza. Chete kuti haachakwanisa kugara munzvimbo yakadai uye anotya kupaza amai vangu.
Handizive zvekuita. Handidzinge amai vangu. Ndakaenda kumudzimai wangu kuti ndimutsigire - pakupedzisira vakanetsana chete. Maoko pasi…”
“Ndakaedza kunyarara, asi hazvina kubatsira”
Vasilisa, ane makore 42
“Amwene vangu vaiita sendiri munhu ane runyararo uye ane mutsa. Ndaisaziva kuti kutama kwaakaita kwaizokonzera matambudziko akawanda kudaro. Pakutanga vakanga vasina. Zvakanaka, kunze kweiyo tsika yake yekugara achibatidza TV. Ini handikwanise kumira nenzira iyi yevaratidziri kune hysteria nekunyomba, ini nemurume wangu takangoona nhau nemamuvhi. Vamwene, sezviri pachena, vakasurukirwa uye vasina chinhu, uye TV yavo inogara yakabatidzwa. Anotoona mitambo yenhabvu! Kazhinji, zvakanga zvisiri nyore, asi takawana dzimwe sarudzo - dzimwe nguva ndaitsungirira, dzimwe nguva aibvuma kuidzima.
Asi kubva pakatanga kuvhiyiwa kwakakosha, anoiona isina kumira. Sokuti ari kutya kupotsa chimwe chinhu kana akachidzima chero kweminiti. Anotarisa nhau - uye anosimudza misoro yezvematongerwo enyika nguva dzese. Handibvumirani nemafungiro ake, uye anotanga kupopotedzana, semuzviratidziro zvepaTV, achidenha uye anogara achiedza kundinyengetedza.
Pakutanga, ndakataura naye, ndakazvipira kusamanikidza chero munhu kuti achinje pfungwa dzake, ndakakumbira kusasimudza misoro iyi patafura.
Anoita seanobvuma, asi anoteerera kunhau - uye haakwanise kumira nazvo, anotiudza zvakare. Nemashoko ako! Uye kubva pamashoko ake aya, ndakatotanga kutsamwa. Murume akamunyengetedza kuti adzikame, ipapo ini, ipapo vaviri - akaedza kusatora rutivi. Asi zvinhu zvakatowedzera kuipa.
Ndakaedza kunyarara asi zvakashaya basa. Akabva atanga kudya ari ega — asi akandibata ndiri mukicheni. Pese paanotanga kugovana pfungwa dzake neni, uye zvese zvinopera nemanzwiro.
Mamwe mangwanani, ndakaona kuti ndakanga ndisati ndagadzirira kuteerera TV isingaperi, kana kukakavadzana naamai vangu, kana kuti kunyarara ndichivateerera. Handichakwanisi. Chakazoipa ndechekuti panguva iyi ndaivengawo murume wangu. Ikozvino ndiri kufunga zvakanyanya nezve kurambana — iyo "aftertaste" kubva munyaya iyi yese ndeyekuti mamiriro ekudziya ekare muukama hwedu naye haachagone kudzoreredzwa.
"Zvese zvinopisa mumoto wekutya kwedu"
Gurgen Khachaturian, chiremba wepfungwa
“Zvinogara zvichirwadza kuona kuti mhuri inova sei nzvimbo yekukakavadzana kusingaperi. Vanozopedzisira vatungamira kune chokwadi chekuti mamiriro acho haagoneke, mhuri dzinoparadzwa.
Asi pano, pamwe, haufanirwe kupa mhosva zvese pane yazvino mamiriro ezvematongerwo enyika. Pasina mwedzi mitanhatu yapfuura, nenzira imwecheteyo, mhuri dzakapopotedzana uye dzakatomborambana nekuda kwemaitiro akasiyana kune coronavirus, nekuda kwekupokana pamusoro pekudzivirira. Chiitiko chipi nechipi chinosanganisira nzvimbo dzakasiyana-siyana, manzwiro anogona kutungamirira kumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro.
Chokutanga pane zvose, zvakakosha kunzwisisa: rudo semanzwiro uye hukama pakati pevanhu vane rudo hazvirevi kuwirirana kwakakwana mumaonero. Zvinonyanya kufadza, mumaonero angu, apo hukama hunovakwa pakati peavo vane maonero akasiyana, asi panguva imwechete chiyero cherudo nekuremekedza kune mumwe nemumwe ndechekuti ivo varipo pamwe chete.
Munyaya yaVasilisa naDmitry, zvakakosha kuti munhu wechitatu aite sechikonzero chezviitiko, vamwene vane mukurumbira, vakadurura kusazvibata kune muroora wavo - manzwiro ake uye maonero.
Kana zviitiko zvakaita sekuvhiya kwakakosha kwazvino zvikaitika, uye pakutanga denda, tese tinotya. Pane kutya. Uye uku kunzwa kunorema kwazvo. Uye zvikuru "makaro" maererano nemashoko. Kana isu tichitya, tinoitora muhuwandu hukuru uye panguva imwechete tinokanganwa kuti hapana huwandu hwayo huchave hwakakwana. Zvose zvinotsva mumoto wekutya kwedu.
Zviri pachena kuti vamwene nomurume nomudzimai vaitya—nokuti izvi zvinongoitika pazviitiko zvakakomba zvakadaro. Pano, zvichida, zvakanga zvisiri zvematongerwo enyika zvakaparadza ukama. Kungoti panguva iyo vese pavakatanga kutya uye munhu wese akabvuma kutya uku nenzira yake, vanhu vakatadza kuwana vabatsiri kune mumwe nemumwe kuti vapinde nemuyedzo uyu pamwe chete.