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Izvo zvisingagone kuitwa nemukadzi…
Chimwe chezviratidzo zvenguva yedu yakagara iri yevakadzi, ndiko kuti, hukuru hwevakadzi munzvimbo dzose dzinoshingaira kuumba unhu, uye migumisiro inowirirana yeizvi.
Mukadzi, hongu, anogona kudzidzisa kugona, kutwasanuka, kuva nechinangwa, kukudzwa, rupo, kutendeseka, kushinga kune vese vakomana nevasikana, anogona kukudziridza mudiki hunhu hunodiwa kune ramangwana mutungamiri, murongi ...
Mukadzi kazhinji anongotarisana nezvinodiwa zvakadaro - kukwanisa kuita pasina murume, uye naizvozvo iye willy-nilly anofanira kumutsiva! Mukadzi anogona kuita zvakawanda! Inogona kutopfuura murume muhunhu chaihwo hwechirume ("kutsunga kwechirume", "kunanga kwechirume", "rupo rwechirume", nezvimwewo), inogona kushinga kupfuura varume vazhinji ...
Ndinoyeuka kuti mukuru wedhipatimendi rakakura rehunyanzvi reimwe chirimwa "akachera" avo vari pasi pake: "Varume vanopfuura zana mudhipatimendi, uye murume chaiye ndiye ega, uye kunyangwe zvakadaro ..." Uye akatumidza zita remukadzi!
Chinhu chimwe chisingagone kuitwa nemukadzi kuita murume. Ngatirege kuva vakatsunga, vasinganyanyi kushinga, kwete Mwari anoziva kukudzwa uye nehukuru sezvaungada munhu, asi munhu, kunyangwe aine zvikanganiso zvakawanda ...
Zvichakadaro, pasinei nokuti amai vakakodzera sei kuremekedzwa nomwanakomana wavo, pasinei nokuti anofara sei kuti akafanana naye, anogona kungozvizivisa nomurume.
Tarisa uone vana vekukireshi. Hapana anoudza mukomana: unofanirwa kutevedzera varume kana vakomana vakuru. Iye pachake anosarudza zvisingakanganisi majeti uye mafambiro ari muvanhurume. Munguva ichangopfuura, mwana akakanda bhora rake kana matombo asina simba, achizunguza kubva kune imwe nzvimbo kuseri kwenzeve yake, sevana vose. Asi panozopera zhizha rinopedzwa mukutaurirana nezera guru, mukomana mumwe chete iyeyu, asati akanda hurungudo, tsvimbo, anoita kuzununguka kwechirume chaiko, achifambisa ruoko rwake parutivi uye achikotamisa muviri wake kwariri. Uye musikana, zera rake nemusikana wake, achiri kuzungunuka kubva kuseri kwemusoro wake ... Sei?
Sei Oleg mudiki achitevedzera masaini asekuru vake uye kwete ambuya vake? Nei Boris mudiki achigumburwa paanonzwa chikumbiro cheushamwari kubva kune mumwe wezera rake asingade kuita zvekuzivana: "Hei, waendepi?" Mushure meiyi "hutsvina", Boris anoramba zvachose kupfeka jasi rine hood yakavharwa nevelvet, uye anodzikama kana hood yabvarurwa, achiitsiva nenondescript collar uye "murume" beret ...
Ichokwadi, mumakumi emakore achangopfuura, chimiro chezvokupfeka chakapotsa charasikirwa neunhu hwehumwe hutano, huchiwedzera uye "husina hunhu". Zvisinei, varume venguva yemberi vanoda kwete siketi, kwete chipfeko, asi "mabhuruku akasonanidzwa", "jeans ane homwe". . . Uye sekare, vanowanzogumbuka kana vakakanganisa sevasikana. Ndiko kuti, nzira yekuzivikanwa yepabonde imwechete inotangwa.
Mhuka dzeshiri dzinoda kunzwa kuimba kwomumwe wadzo mukuru pane imwe nguva yezera radzo, kana zvisina kudaro hadzizombodzidzi kuimba.
Mukomana anoda kuonana nemurume - panguva dzakasiyana dzezera, uye zviri nani - nguva dzose. Uye kwete yekuzivikanwa chete ... Uye kwete yemukomana chete, asiwo yemusikana - zvakare ...
Pamusoro pekubatana kwe "organic"
Isu tinoziva zvishoma nezve idzo mhando dzekutsamira kwehupenyu hwemunhu mumwe pane mumwe, izvo zvisingagoni kuyerwa nezviridzwa, hazvigone kusarudzwa mumashoko anozivikanwa esainzi. Uye zvakadaro kutsamira kwehupenyu uku kunozviratidza zvisina kunanga mumamiriro echipatara cheurouropsychiatric.
Chokutanga pane zvose, chido chemuviri chemwana chekusangana kwepanyama uye mupfungwa naamai kunozviratidza, kukanganisa kunokonzera maitiro akasiyana-siyana ekutambudzika kwepfungwa. Mwana ndiye "fetus" yemuviri waamai, uye kunyangwe akaparadzana nayo, achiwedzera kuzvimiririra mumuviri, acharamba achida kudziya kwemuviri uyu, kubata kwaamai, kupuruzira kwake kwenguva refu. Uye hupenyu hwake hwose, atova munhu mukuru, achada rudo rwake. Iye, chekutanga, kuenderera kwemuviri kwakananga, uye nekuda kwechikonzero ichi chete kutsamira kwake kwepfungwa pazviri ndeye organic. (Apo amai vanoroora «babamunini vomumwe munhu», ikoku kunowanzorangarirwa sokurwiswa kwomunhu wokunze pakubatana kunokosha zvikurusa muupenyu hwomwana! Kushurikidzirwa kwomufambiro wake, kuzvidzwa kwoudyire, dzvinyiriro yakananga yoku“gamuchira” babamunini vomumwe munhu. sababa - zvose izvi zvinongokonzera maonero asina kunaka kwaari. Uchenjeri hunokosha hunodiwa kuitira kuti mwana asanzwe kunyimwa kweushamwari hunokosha hwaamai nehanya yake.)
Mwana ane hukama hwakafanana nababa vake - kana pane chimwe chikonzero anomanikidzwa kutsiva amai vake.
Asi kazhinji baba vanorangarirwa zvakasiyana. Vatove vanhu vakuru, vakomana nevasikana vekare havagone kuisa mumashoko manzwiro avo ekutanga ehukama hwake. Asi kutanga kwezvose - mutsika - iyi ndiyo manzwiro esimba, anodiwa uye ari pedyo, anoputira iwe, anokudzivirira, uye, sokunge zvakadaro, anopinda mauri, anova wako, anokupa manzwiro ekusagadzikana. Kana amai vari manyuko oupenyu nokudziya kunopa upenyu, ipapo baba ndivo manyuko esimba noutiziro, shamwari yakura yokutanga inogovera iri simba nomwana, simba mupfungwa yakafara zvikurusa yeshoko racho. Kwenguva yakareba vana havagoni kusiyanisa pakati pesimba remuviri uye repfungwa, asi vanonzwa zvakakwana zvekupedzisira uye vanokweverwa kwairi. Uye kana pasina baba, asi pane murume ari pedyo akava utiziro uye shamwari yakwegura, mwana haashayiwi.
Mukuru - murume kumwana, kubva paudiki kusvika pakuyaruka, anodiwa kuti aumbe pfungwa yakajairika yekuchengeteka kubva kune zvese zvine njodzi: kubva murima, kubva kubhanan'ana kusinganzwisisike, imbwa ine hasha, "makororo makumi mana", kubva "makororo emuchadenga", kubva kumuvakidzani Petka, kubva kune "vatorwa" ... "Baba vangu (kana" mukoma wangu ", kana" babamunini vedu Sasha ”) ka-ak ipa! Ndiye ane simba!»
Vaya vevarwere vedu vakakura vasina baba uye vasina mukuru - varume, taurira (mumashoko akasiyana uye nekutaura kwakasiyana) nezvemanzwiro ainzi nevamwe shanje, vamwe - kushuva, vamwe - kunyimwa, uye mumwe munhu haana kuzvidaidza. nenzira ipi zvayo, asi yakataura zvakawanda kana zvishoma seizvi:
— Apo Genka akatangazve kudada pamusangano: “Asi baba vangu vakandiunzira masiwiti uye vachatenga imwe pfuti!” Ndakacheuka ndoenda, kana kuti ndorwa. Ndinoyeuka ndisingafarire kuona Genka pedyo nababa vake. Uye gare gare haana kuda kuenda kumusha kune avo vana baba. Asi taiva nemufudzi sekuru Andrei, aigara ega kumucheto kwemusha. Ndaiwanzoenda kwaari, asi ndiri ndega, ndisina vana ...
Vana vazhinji veavo vakanga vasina mukuru wechirume wapedyo, mumakore avo okuyaruka, vakawana minzwa inopinza yekombamiro yakanyanyisa yokuzvidzivirira pasina kudikanwa kwayo. Kukosha kunorwadza kwedziviriro kwakawanikwa kune avo vose vasina kuigamuchira muchiyero chakakodzera pazera duku.
Uye wechiduku anodawo baba seshamwari yakura. Asi haisisiri utiziro, asi utiziro, manyuko ekuzviremekedza.
Kusvika iye zvino, pfungwa dzedu pamusoro pebasa revakuru - varume muhupenyu hwevechiri kuyaruka vane kuora mwoyo kwakashata, kwekare, kusuruvara: "Tinoda yambiro ...", "Ipa bhanhire, asi hapana ...", "Oooh , kushaya baba kunoshushwa, hakuna gomba kwauri, usatya chinhu, vanokura vasina varume ... ”Kusvikira ikozvino, tinotsiva rukudzo nekutya!
Kutya kusvika pamwero wakati kunogona - kwenguva iripo - kudzora mamwe mafungiro. Asi hapana chakanaka chinogona kukura pakutya! Ruremekedzo ndiyo ivhu rakaorera bedzi, mugariro uri madikanwa nokuda kwepesvedzero yakanaka yomukuru papwere, muitisi wesimba rake. Uye ruremekedzo urwu runogona kunzi, rwakakodzera, asi hazvibviri kukumbira, hazvibatsiri kukumbira, kuita basa. Iwe haugone kumanikidza kuremekedzwa zvakare. Mhirizhonga inoparadza rukudzo. Kushanda kwemusasa "vatanhatu" hakuverengeki. Tinoda kuti vana vedu vave nepfungwa yakajairika yechiremera chomunhu. Izvi zvinoreva kuti murume, nechinzvimbo chake somukuru, anosungirwa kutarisa kakawanda mugirazi repfungwa uye retsika: vana vachakwanisa kumuremekedza here? Vachamutorera chii? Mwana wake aizoda kufanana naye here?
Vana vakamirira…
Dzimwe nguva tinoona pascreen maziso evana vakamirira: vakamirira mumwe munhu kuti auye kuzovatora, vakamirira mumwe munhu anovadaidza… Kwete nherera chete dzakamirira. Tarisa zviso zvevana nevechidiki vechidiki - mukutakura, mumitsara, mumugwagwa chete. Kune zviso zvinokurumidza kumira nechisimbiso chekutarisira ichi. Apa yaingozviraramira yega, yakazvimirira pauri, yakanyura mukufunga kwayo. Uye kamwe-kamwe, ichinzwa kutarira kwako, inoita seyamuka, uye kubva pasi pemeso ayo inokura mubvunzo usingazivi "... Iwe? Ndiwe?"
Zvichida mubvunzo uyu wakapenya kamwe mumweya mako. Pamwe hausati wasiya taut tambo zvinotarisirwa neshamwari yechikuru, mudzidzisi... Musangano ngauve mupfupi, asi unokosha. Nyota isina kupera, kudiwa kweshamwari yechikuru - kunge ronda rakavhurika rehupenyu ...
Asi usabvuma kusimba kwekutanga, kusina kuchengetedzwa. Usambofa wakavimbisa vana vako chimwe chinhu chausingakwanise kupa! Zvakaoma kutaura muchidimbu pamusoro pekukuvadzwa uko mweya wemwana asina kusimba unotambura kana ukagumburwa pazvipikirwa zvedu zvisingatarisirwi, shure kusina chinhu!
Uri mushishi pamusoro pebhizinesi rako, pakati penzvimbo yakawandisa inogarwa nebhuku, musangano wehushamwari, nhabvu, hove, madoro akati wandei… Unopfuura nemukomana anokutevera nemaziso ake ... Mutorwa? Ko zvine basa rei kuti mwanakomana waani! Hakuna vamwe vana. Kana akatendeukira kwauri - mupindure nenzira ine ushamwari, mupe zvishoma zvishoma zvaunogona, kuti hazvina mari kwauri: hello yeushamwari, kubata zvinyoro! Boka revanhu rakamanikidza mwana kwauri mukutakura - mudzivirire, uye rega simba rakanaka ripinde maari kubva muchanza chako!
"Ini pachangu", chido chekuzvimiririra chimwe chinhu. “Ndinokuda, shamwari yechikuru” zvakasiyana. Kashoma kuwana kutaura kweshoko mudiki, asi ndizvo! Uye hapana kupesana pakati pekutanga neyechipiri. Shamwari haipindire, asi inobatsira izvi "ini pachangu" ...
Uye apo vaduku vanotendeuka ndokutisiya, vachidzivirira kuzvitonga kwavo, vachipikisa nenzwi guru pamusoro pezvinhu zvose zvinobva kwatiri, izvi zvinoreva kuti tiri kukohwa zvibereko zvemafungiro edu asina kufunga kwavari uye, zvichida, kutengesa kwedu. Kana mukuru ari padyo asingadi kudzidza kuita shamwari kune mudiki, asingadi kunzwisisa zvaanoda zvekukasika zvepfungwa, ari kutomutengesa ...
Zvinondinetsa kuti handisisiri mudiki, ndingori mukadzi, ndakakurirwa nenhamo dzevamwe nokusingaperi. Uye zvakadaro dzimwe nguva ndinomisa vechidiki. Kubva kune vasingazivi mukupindura "mhoro" yangu, unogonawo kunzwa izvi: "Uye tinokwazisa chete vanozivana!" Uye ipapo, nokuzvikudza kufuratira kana kuti kuenda: “Asi hatikwazisi vaenzi!” Asi vechidiki vamwechete ivava, vanzwa “mhoroi” yangu kechipiri, vanoratidza kuda kuziva uye havasi kukurumidza kubuda… vane mifungo yavo pazvizhinji zvehupenyu hwedu! Dzimwe nguva majaya aya anodzungaira pasuo nesuo anofanana nemidziyo isina chinhu yakamirira kuzadzwa. Vamwe havachatendi kuti mumwe munhu achavafonera. Hongu, kana vakadana - kupi?
Varume, endai kuvana—kune venyu nokuna vamwe, kuvana vamazera ose! Vanokuda chaizvo!
Ndaiziva mumwe mudzidzisi-masvomhu - Kapiton Mikhailovich Balashov, uyo akashanda kusvikira akwegura. Pane imwe nzvimbo pakupera kwemakore gumi mapfumbamwe, akasiya zvidzidzo zvechikoro. Asi akatora basa rasekuru mukireshi yaiva pedyo. Aigadzirira musangano wega wega, akadzokorora, achida "kutaura ngano", akasarudzwa mifananidzo kwaari. Zvingaita sekuti sekuru mukuru - ndiani anoda izvi? Inodiwa!! Vana vaimuda zvikuru uye vakamirira: "Uye sekuru vedu vachauya rini?"
Vana - vadiki nevakuru - vakakumirira iwe usingazvizivi. Avo vana baba vekubereka vakamirirawo. Zvakaoma kutaura kuti ndiani ari murombo: avo vasina kumboziva baba vavo, kana vana vakapfuura nekusemburwa, kuzvidza uye kuvenga baba vavo chaivo ...
Zvinoda sei kuti mumwe wenyu abatsire murume akadai. Saka… Pamwe chimwe chazvo chiri pedyo. Gara naye kwechinguva. Rega iwe urambe uri ndangariro, asi pinda mairi nesimba rechiedza, zvikasadaro zvingasaitika semunhu ...
Vhidhiyo kubva kuna Yana Shchastya: kubvunzurudzwa napurofesa wepfungwa NI Kozlov
Misoro yekurukurirano: Iwe unofanirwa kuva mukadzi akaita sei kuti ubudirire kuroora? Varume vanoroora kangani? Nei kune varume vashoma zvakadaro? Childfree. Kurera vana. Chii chinonzi rudo? Nyaya yaisagona kuva nani. Kubhadhara mukana wekuve pedyo nemukadzi akanaka.