Shamwari yekufungidzira inowanzoonekwa yakapoteredza makore 3/4 emwana uye inova pose pose muupenyu hwake hwezuva nezuva. Iyo yaizonyangarika sezvayakazvarwa uye nyanzvi dzepfungwa dzinobvumirana kuti idanho "rakajairika" mukukura kwepfungwa kwemwana.
Kuziva Kusimba uye nguva yehukama neshamwari yekufungidzira inosiyana zvakanyanya kubva kumwana kuenda kumwana. Maererano nenhamba, mumwe muvana vatatu haazosangana nerudzi urwu rwehukama hwekufungidzira. Muzviitiko zvakawanda, shamwari yekufungidzira inonyangarika zvishoma nezvishoma, kuita nzira yeshamwari chaidzo, apo mwana anotanga kuenda kukireshi. |
Iye ndiani chaizvo?
Kufungidzira, delirium, kuvapo kusinganzwisisike, vanhu vakuru vanoomerwa nekuramba vaine njere mukutarisana nechiitiko ichi chinokatyamadza. Vakuru havasi ivo vane ruzivo rwakananga kune iyi "shamwari yekufungidzira", saka kunetseka kwavo pamberi pehukama uhwu hunoshamisa uye hunowanzovhiringidza. Uye mwana haatauri chinhu, kana zvishoma.
Kutenda kwazviri, mwana wako anogona panguva yekuzorora kutsiva nguva dzekuvhiringidzika neyakagadzirwa nguva, girazi nenzira, iyo iyo kuzivikanwa kwavo, zvavanotarisira uye kutya zvicharatidzwa. Anotaura naye zvinonzwika kana kuti nekazevezeve, anozvivimbisa kuti anogona kumuudza manzwiro ake.
Testimonials
Amai vari mumaforamu e dejagrand.com saiti:
“… Mwanakomana wangu aive neshamwari yekufungidzira paakanga aine makore mana, akataura naye, aifamba naye kwese kwese, akange atove nhengo itsva yemhuri !! Panguva iyoyo mukomana wangu akanga ari ega, uye achigara kumaruwa akanga asina, kunze kwokuchikoro, akanga asina mukomana wekutamba. Ndofunga ainge ambomushaya nekuti kubva zuva ratakaenda kuzororo remusasa, kwaakazoona ava nevamwe vana, mukomana wake akabva ashaika uye patakasvika kumba akabva azivana naye. muvakidzani mudiki uye ikoko hatina kuzombonzwa kubva kushamwari yake yekufungidzira zvakare…. “
Vamwe amai vanopupura nenzira imwe cheteyo:
“… Shamwari yekufungidzira hachisi chinhu chekunetseka nacho pachacho, vana vazhinji vanazvo, asi zvinoratidza fungidziro yakasimukira. Icho chokwadi chekuti iye kamwe kamwe haachadi kutamba nevamwe vana chinoita sechinyanya kunetseka, iyi yekufungidzira shamwari haifanire kutora nzvimbo yese. Kuedza kutaura naye, shamwari iyoyo hauzvioni kuti unodawo kutamba nevamwe vana here? Teerera kumhinduro dzake. ”…
Normal kune nyanzvi
Sekureva kwavo, i "double self", kubvumira vana vadiki kuti varatidze zvavanoda uye zvinovanetsa. Nyanzvi dzepfungwa dzinotaura nezve "basa mukukura kwepfungwa kwemwana".
Saka usavhunduka, mwana wako anoda shamwari yake, uye kuti akwanise kumushandisa sezvaanoona zvakakodzera.
Muchokwadi, iyi shamwari yekufungidzira inoonekwa padanho rekukura kana mwana aine hupenyu hwekufungidzira hwakapfuma uye huri kubudirira. Zviitiko uye nyaya dzakagadzirwa dzakawanda.
Kusikwa kwenyika ino yemukati kune basa rinosimbisa hongu, asi rinogonawo kuva mhinduro kune kuzvidya mwoyo kana chokwadi chisingasekese saizvozvo.
Under surveillance zvakadaro
Mwana ari kurwadziwa, akanyanya kugarisana ari ega kana kuti anonzwa kusabatanidzwa, angafanira kutanga shamwari imwe chete kana dzakawanda dzekufungidzira. Ane hutongi hwakakwana pamusoro peidzi shamwari dzemanyepo, achivaita kuti vanyangarike kana kuti vadzoke pakuda.
Achaita pavari zvinomunetsa, kutya kwake nezvakavanzika zvake. Hapana chinotyisa, asi ramba wakasvinura zvakafanana!
Kana mwana akanyura mukusarudzika kwehukama uhwu, zvinogona kuve pathological kana ikatora nekufamba kwenguva uye ichimutadzisa mune mamwe mikana yake yekushamwaridzana. Izvo zvinozove zvakafanira kubvunza nyanzvi yevadiki kuti iburitse zviri kutamba kuseri kweiyi nhanho yekunetsekana pamusoro pechokwadi.
Gamuchira kuita kwakanaka
Zviudze kuti izvi hazvifanire kukunetsa zvakanyanya, uye kuti inzira yekuti mwana wako anzwe zviri nani panguva iyi yakasarudzika yaari kusangana nayo.
Zvichengetedze zviri nyore, pasina kufuratira kana kurumbidza maitiro avo. Zvakakosha kuwana chinhambwe chakakodzera, nekutarisa muchidimbu pairi.
Kutaura idi, kumurega ataure pamusoro peiyi “shamwari” kuri kumubvumira kutaura pamusoro pake amene, uye ikoku kunogona bedzi kuva kunobetsera kuziva zvishomanene pamusoro pemirangariro yake yakavanzwa, pamusoro pokunzwa kwake, muchidimbu, ukama hwake hwepedyo.
Saka kukosha kwekuziva nzira yekuenzanisa kufarira kwako munyika ino chaiyo, pasina kunyanya kupindira.
Pakati peiyo chaiyo uye chaiyo
Nekune rumwe rutivi, hatifanire kupinda mumutambo wakatsveyama izvo zvingareva kuti muganhu pakati pechokwadi kana chenhema hapachina. Vana vezera rino vanoda mabhenji akasimba uye kuti vanzwisise kuburikidza nevakuru kuti chii chaicho.
Saka kukosha kwekusataurira shamwari iri mubvunzo zvakananga. Iwe unogona kutomuudza kuti hausi kuona shamwari iyi uye kuti chishuwo chake kuwana nzvimbo yega, "shamwari", inoita kuti atende kuti iripo.
Hapana chikonzero chekukakavara kana kuranga mwana wako nokuti anotsigira zvakasimba kuvapo kwake. Muyeuchidze kuti ari kuita zvakaipa izvi uye kuti munguva pfupi haazozvidi. Kazhinji, shamwari chaiyo inonyangarika nekukurumidza sezvaakasvika.
Pakupedzisira, inguva yakajairika, (asi kwete inosungirwa), iyo inogona kuva yakanaka kumwana kana ikaramba ichibata nguva uye isingarambidzi.
Idzi shamwari dzemanyepo ndiwo mucherechedzo wehupenyu hwemukati hwakapfuma uye kunyangwe vanhu vakuru vasina shamwari chaidzo, dzimwe nguva vanofarira kuve nebindu ravo rakavanzika, sediki.
Kubvunza:
Movies
"Kelly-Anne's Secret", 2006 (firimu revana)
"Mutambo wedambudziko" 2005 (firimu revakuru)
"Sixth Sense" 2000 (firimu revakuru)
Books
“Mwana pakati pevamwe, kuzvivaka muushamwaridzani”
Milan, A. Beaumatin naC. Laterrasse
“Taura nevana vako”
Odile Jacob, Dr Antoine Alameda