Mukati
"Asexuals vanogara rudo mupfungwa asi pasina bonde"
zvepabonde
MaAsexuals anorarama rudo rwavo uye hukama hwavo nenzira yakadzama, asi pasina bonde, nekuti havanzwe sekudaro uye havanzwe kudiwa.
Kunyange zvazvo zvichifadza uye zvakanaka nokuda kwoutano sezvazviri, vakawanda vanokuwana kwakaoma kudavira izvozvo vamwe vanhu vanogara vasina bonde. Uye hatisi kutaura nezveavo vasina wekugovana navo 'nguva diki' idzodzo, asi nezveavo vasingaite hupombwe nekuzvisarudzira, vangave vaine vadikani kana vasina.
And the hunhu ipfungwa yakaremerwa kwazvo: kune rumwe rutivi, vanoongorora zvepabonde vanosimbisa kuti ndizvo uye zvinofanirwa kuzivikanwa sea zvepabonde zvakakosha, sezvakaita vanhukadzi, ungochani, uye bhizi. Pane kudaro, imwe musasa inozviona se 'yakaderera libido' kana yakajairika rudzi rwe hypoactive chishuwo chepabonde.
Asi chekutanga, sekukumbirwa nenyanzvi yepfungwa uye yezvepabonde Silvia Sanz, munyori webhuku reSexamor, zvinofanirwa kujekeswa kuti izwi rekuti asexual rinoreva avo vanhu vasina kukwezva pabonde uye. havafariri vakadzi kana varume. Izvozvo hazvirevi kuti havazogoverani upenyu hwavo nomumwe munhu. "Vanorarama rudo rwavo uye hukama hwavo nenzira yakasimba yemanzwiro, asi pasina zvepabonde, nokuti havanzwi sekuda uye havana chido. Vanogona kunzwa kukwezva uye kunyange kuita zvepabonde uye hazvina kufanana nekuva ne-low libido, uye hazvikonzerwi nekushungurudzika kana matambudziko ehutano, uye havadzoreri zvido zvavo zvepabonde ", inodaro nyanzvi.
Uye haifaniri kuvhiringidzwa nekurega kana kusaroora, apo pane chisarudzo cheune chekurega kuita zvepabonde munyaya yekutanga uye kusaita zvepabonde, kana kuroorana, kana hukama mune yechipiri.
Idambudziko?
Kuita zvepabonde hachisi chinhu chakagadziriswa uye kusiyanisa chinhu chechisikigo kana tasvika pakuita bonde, saka hazvifanirwe kunge chiri chinhu chaunotora pane chero zuva rakapihwa uye kunamatira nazvo zvachose. MaAsexuals anoshaya chishuwo chebonde, asi vanogona kuwana hunhu hwerudo. Izvi zvinoreva kuti vanogona kunge vasina manzwiro epabonde, asi vamwe vavo vanoda kutsvaga rudo.
Vanhu vanoita zvebonde vanogona kuita bonhora nebonyora kana nemudiwa. Ivo havangonzwi vachikwezvwa pabonde nevanhu, havanzwi chido. Inyaya yebonde kana kushaya. Panogona kuve neakasiyana madhigirii ekusavata, kubva kune iwo akazara kune avo vanoita bonde nerudo ”, anojekesa Silvia Sanz.
Nepo absolute asexuals vasina hanya uye vasingafarire nekuti havaione ichikwezva, vanhu vasina bonde vanoita bonde zviri nyore. vanonakidzwa nazvo zvine chirevo chepfungwa kune vaviri ava, chiito chemuviri chakafanana nemamwe ose. "Vanorarama sehukama hwerudo kwavari," anodaro chiremba wepfungwa.
Uye iwe unozvibvunza, haisi dambudziko here kana mumwe wedu achida bonde isu tisingadi? Silvia Sanz anotsanangura kuti harisi dambudziko chero bedzi zvabvumiranwa nemunhu watinodanana naye achiti: “Sezvo patinosangana pabonde, zvakakodzera kuti tiwirirane nemudiwa wedu kakawanda kacho chatinoda kudzidzira. kurara pabonde kana kuva ne libido yakafanana kuitira kuti urege kuwira mukusaenzana, mukati mehukama hwepabonde panofanira kuva nechibvumirano kana zvasvika pakugoverana rudo rwavo, kambani yavo, mapurojekiti avo nezvimwe zviitiko muupenyu hwavo pasina kuzvifadza kuburikidza nepabonde.
Kana nhengo mbiri dzevaviri vakagovana hukama, zvigamuchire uye usingazvione sekuvhiringidzika kana dambudziko, hukama hune hutano uye hwakadzikama. “Zvamazvirokwazvo, kuri nyore zvikuru kupfuura kana mumwe asina utano uye mumwe wacho asina,” anobvuma kudaro Silvia Sanz.
Zvechokwadi, kana chiyero ichi chikasaitika, chinogona kuunza kukakavara kana kusina kugamuchirwa kana kusabhadharwa nenzira ipi zvayo.
Kuti uwane kuenzana, maererano nenyanzvi, kukurukurirana kunokosha, kunzwisisa mumwe uye kuziva kuti ndeipi miganhu iyo mumwe nomumwe anogona kuuya kuzotora mukati mehukama. “Kana munhu asina bonde zvinoreva kuti panenge pasisina chido chekuda bonde, kwete kuti mumwe wevaviri vacho haanakidzi. Vazhinji vevanhu vasina hukama hwepabonde, vanosiyanisa uye vanoparadzanisa zvepabonde nerudo, "anopedzisa.