PSYchology

Ndinorarama - asi zvakamira sei kwandiri? Chii chinoita kuti upenyu hukoshe? Ini chete pachangu ndinogona kuzvinzwa: munzvimbo ino, mumhuri ino, nemuviri uyu, neaya hunhu hunhu. Hukama hwangu nehupenyu hwakadii mazuva ese, awa yega yega? Existential psychotherapist Alfried Lenglet anogovera nesu manzwiro akadzama - rudo rwehupenyu.

Muna 2017, Alfried Lenglet akapa hurukuro muMoscow “Chii chinoita kuti upenyu hwedu hukoshe? Kukosha kwehunhu, manzwiro uye hukama kuitira kusimudzira rudo rwehupenyu. " Heano mamwe ezvinyorwa zvinonakidza kubva mairi.

1. Tinoumba hupenyu hwedu

Basa iri riri pamberi peumwe neumwe wedu. Isu takapiwa hupenyu, isu tine mutoro pahwo. Isu tinogara tichizvibvunza mubvunzo: chii chandichaita nehupenyu hwangu? Ndichaenda kuhurukuro here, ndichapedza manheru ndiri pamberi peTV, ndichasangana neshamwari dzangu here?

Kumwero mukuru, kunotsamira kwatiri kana upenyu hwedu huchava hwakanaka kana kuti kwete. Hupenyu hunobudirira chete kana tichihuda. Tinoda hukama hwakanaka nehupenyu kana kuti ticharasikirwa nahwo.

2. Ko miriyoni yaizochinja chii?

Hupenyu hwatinorarama haufe hwakakwana. Tichagara tichifungidzira chimwe chinhu chiri nani. Asi zvichanyatsoita nani kana tiine miriyoni yemadhora? Tingafunga kudaro.

Asi chii chaizochinja? Hongu, ndaigona kufamba zvakawanda, asi mukati hapana chaizochinja. Ndaigona kuzvitengera mbatya dzakanaka, asi ukama hwangu nevabereki vangu hwaizovandudzika here? Uye isu tinoda hukama uhu, hunotiumba, hunotikurudzira.

Pasina hukama hwakanaka, hatizove nehupenyu hwakanaka.

Tinogona kutenga mubhedha, asi kwete kurara. Tinogona kutenga bonde, asi kwete rudo. Uye zvinhu zvose zvinokosha muupenyu hazvigoni kutengwa.

3. Kunzwa kukosha kwezuva nezuva

Upenyu hunogona kuva hwakanaka pazuva rakajairika here? Inyaya yekunzwa, kufunga.

Ndakageza ndichidziya mangwanani aya. Hazvinakidze here kukwanisa kugeza, kunzwa rukova rwemvura inodziya? Ndakanwa coffee for breakfast. Zuva rose handina kutambura nenzara. Ndinofamba, ndinofema, ndiri mutano.

Zvinhu zvakawanda zvinopa hupenyu hwangu kukosha. Asi, sekutonga, tinoziva izvi chete mushure mekurasikirwa navo. Shamwari yangu yave nemwedzi mitanhatu ichigara kuKenya. Anoti ikoko ndipo paakadzidza kukosha kwekugeza nemvura inodziya.

Asi zviri musimba redu kupa ngwariro kuchinhu chiri chose chinokosha chinoita kuti upenyu hwedu huve nani, kuhubata nokungwarira zvikuru. Mira uzvitaurire: manje ndiri kuenda kunogeza. Uye paunenge uchigeza, teerera manzwiro ako.

4. Kana zviri nyore kuti nditi “hongu” kuupenyu

Maitiro ndiwo anosimbisa hukama hwangu hwakakosha nehupenyu, batsira pazviri. Kana ndikawana chimwe chinhu sechinhu chakakosha, zviri nyore kwandiri kuti "hongu" kuhupenyu.

Hunhu hunogona kunge huri zvinhu zvidiki uye chimwe chinhu chikuru. Kune vatendi, kukosha kukuru ndiMwari.

Tsika dzinotisimbisa. Nokudaro, tinofanira kutarisa kukosha mune zvose zvatinoita uye zvose zvakatipoteredza. Chii chiri pamusoro peizvi chinosimbisa hupenyu hwedu?

5. Nekupa chibayiro, tinoputsa symmetry

Vanhu vazhinji vanoita chimwe chinhu nekuda kwevamwe, vanoramba chimwe chinhu, vanozvibayira ivo pachavo: vana, shamwari, vabereki, shamwari.

Asi hazvina kukosha chete nekuda kwemudiwa kubika chikafu, kuita zvepabonde - kunofanira kufadza uye kukubatsira iwewo, kana zvisina kudaro pane kurasikirwa kwekukosha. Uku hakusi kuzvida, asi kuenzanisa kwehunhu.

Vabereki vanobayira upenyu hwavo nokuda kwevana vavo: vanorega mazororo avo kuti vavake imba kuitira kuti vana vavo vafambe. Asi gare gare ivo vachazvidza vana: “Takakuitirai chinhu chiri chose, uye imi hamuongi zvikuru.” Vanototi: “Bhadhara mari yacho. Nditende uye undiitire chimwe chinhu. "

Zvisinei, kana pane kumanikidzwa, kukosha kunorasika.

Tichinzwa mufaro wokuti tinogona kurega chimwe chinhu nokuda kwavana, tinoona ukoshi hwechiito chedu timene. Asi kana pasina kunzwa kwakadaro, tinonzwa tisina maturo, uye ipapo pane dikanwo yokuonga.

6. Kukosha kwakafanana nemagineti

Values ​​inokwezva, tiderere. Ndinoda kuenda ikoko, ndinoda kuverenga bhuku rino, ndinoda kudya keke iri, ndinoda kuona shamwari dzangu.

Zvibvunze mubvunzo: chii chinondikwezva panguva ino? Zvave kundiendesa kupi manje? Simba remagineti rinondiendesa kupi? Kana ndakaparadzaniswa nechimwe chinhu kana mumwe munhu kwenguva yakareba, kushuva kunomuka, ndinotanga kuda kudzokorora.

Kana ichi chiri kukosha kwatiri, tinozvipira kuenda kune kirabhu yekusimbisa muviri zvakare uye zvakare, kusangana neshamwari, kugara muhukama. Kana ukama nomumwe munhu hwakakosha, tinoda kupfuurira, ramangwana, maonero.

7. Manzwiro ndiwo anonyanya kukosha

Kana ndine manzwiro, zvinoreva kuti ndinobatwa nechimwe chinhu, simba rangu rehupenyu, nekuda kweumwe munhu kana chimwe chinhu, chapinda mukufamba.

Ndinobatwa nemimhanzi yaTchaikovsky kana Mozart, chiso chemwana wangu, maziso ake. Pane chiri kuitika pakati pedu.

Hupenyu hwangu hwaizova hwakaita sei dai pasina chimwe cheizvi chiripo? Murombo, kutonhora, bhizinesi.

Ndokusaka, kana tiri murudo, tichinzwa tiri vapenyu. Hupenyu hunofashaira, hunovira matiri.

8. Hupenyu hunoitika muhukama, zvikasadaro hazvipo.

Kuti utange hukama, unoda kushamwaridzana, kugadzirira kunzwa mumwe, kubatwa naye.

Ndichipinda muukama, ndinozviita ndinowanikwa kune mumwe, ndichikanda zambuko kwaari. Pazambuko iri tinoenda kune mumwe nemumwe. Pandinotanga hukama, ini ndinotova nefungidziro nezve kukosha kwaunomiririra.

Kana ndikasava nehanya nevamwe, ndingarasikirwa noukoshi hunokosha hwoukama hwangu navo.

9. Ndinogona kuva mutorwa kwandiri

Zvakakosha kuti uzvinzwe iwe zuva rose, kuti uzvibvunze mubvunzo zvakare uye zvakare: ndinonzwa sei ikozvino? Ndinonzwa sei? Manzwiro api anomuka pandinenge ndine vamwe?

Kana ndikasasimbisa hukama neni, ipapo ini ndicharasikirwa pachangu, ndive mutorwa kwandiri.

Hukama nevamwe hunogona kuva hwakanaka chete kana zvinhu zvese zvakarongeka muhukama newe pachako.

10. Ndinoda kurarama here?

Ndinorarama, zvinoreva kuti ndinokura, ndinokura, ndinosangana nechiitiko. Ndine manzwiro: akanaka, anorwadza. Ndine pfungwa, ndakabatikana nechimwe chinhu mukati mezuva, ndine chido chekupa hupenyu hwangu.

Ndakararama kwemakore akati kuti. Ndinofarira kurarama here? Pane chakanaka here muhupenyu hwangu? Kana kuti zvimwe inorema, izere nekurwadzisa? Sezvingabvira, kanenge nguva nenguva ndizvo. Asi kazhinji, ini pachangu ndinofara kuti ndinorarama. Ndinonzwa kuti hupenyu huri kundibata, pane imwe mhando ye resonance, kufamba, ndinofara pamusoro peizvi.

Hupenyu hwangu hauna kukwana, asi huchiri hwakanaka. Kofi inonaka, kugeza kunonaka, uye pane vanhu vandinoda uye vanondida.

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