Makore echikoro anokanganisa sei hupenyu hwevanhu vakuru? Nyanzvi yepfungwa inoratidza pane izvo kubva muruzivo rwekuyaruka zvinotibatsira kukudziridza hunyanzvi hwehutungamiriri.
Ndinowanzokumbira vatengi vangu kuti vataure nezvemakore avo echikoro. Idzi ndangariro dzinobatsira kudzidza zvakawanda nezve interlocutor munguva pfupi. Mushure mezvose, nzira yedu yekuona nyika uye kuita inoumbwa pazera remakore 7-16. Ndechipi chikamu chezviitiko zvedu zvevechiri kuyaruka chinonyanya kukanganisa unhu hwedu? Hunhu hwehutungamiriri hunokudziridzwa sei? Ngatitarisei pane zvishoma zvakakosha zvinokanganisa kukura kwavo:
nzendo
Chido chezviitiko zvitsva chinokura mumwana ari pasi pemakore gumi nemashanu. Kana nezera rino pasina chido chekudzidza zvinhu zvitsva, saka mune ramangwana munhu acharamba achida kuziva, anochengetedza, ane pfungwa dzakamanikana.
Vabereki vanokudziridza kuda kuziva mumwana. Asi ruzivo rwechikoro zvakare rwakakosha zvikuru: nzendo, kufamba, kushanya kumamyuziyamu, matheater. Kune vazhinji vedu, izvi zvese zvakazova zvakakosha. Maonero akajeka aiita munhu mumakore ake echikoro, maonero ake akawedzera uye maonero ake anochinja. Izvi zvinoreva kuti zviri nyore kwaari kuita zvisarudzo zvisina mwero. Hunhu uhu ndihwo hunokosheswa muvatungamiri vemazuva ano.
Basa revanhu
Vakawanda, pavanenge vachitaura nezvemakore avo echikoro, vanosimbisa hutano hwavo hwemagariro evanhu: "Ndaiva mukuru", "Ndaiva piyona anoshingaira", "Ndaiva sachigaro wechikwata". Ivo vanotenda kuti kushingaira basa renharaunda chiratidzo chehutungamiriri vavariro nehunhu. Asi kutenda uku hakusi kwechokwadi nguva dzose.
Hutungamiri chaihwo hwakasimba munzvimbo dzisina kurongwa, kunze kwehurongwa hwechikoro. Mutungamiriri chaiye ndeuyo anounza vezera pamwe chete pazviitiko zvisina kurongwa, angave mabasa anobatsira kana matakwa.
Asi sabhuku anowanzo kugadzwa nevadzidzisi, vachitarisa kune avo vanogoneka. Kana vana vakapinda musarudzo, saka chirevo chavo chiri nyore: ngatisarudze kuti ndiani ari nyore kupa mhosva. Hongu, pane zvisizvo pano zvakare.
mutambo
Vanhu vazhinji vari muzvinzvimbo zveutungamiri vaiita zvemitambo zvakakomba mumakore avo echikoro. Zvinoitika kuti kutamba mitambo muhuduku inenge inosungirwa hunhu hwekubudirira mune ramangwana. Hazvishamisi: mutambo unodzidzisa mwana chirango, kutsungirira, kukwanisa kutsungirira, "kutora punch", kukwikwidza, kushandira pamwe.
Mukuwedzera, kutamba mitambo kunoita kuti mudzidzi aronge nguva yake, agare ari muchimiro chakanaka, achibatanidza kudzidza, basa rechikoro rinoitirwa kumba, kukurukura neshamwari uye kudzidziswa.
Ndinoziva izvi kubva pane zvakaitika kwandiri. Ndinoyeuka sei mushure mezvidzidzo, ndine nzara, ndakatsamwa, ndakamhanyira kuchikoro chemimhanzi. Uye zvino, achimedza apuro pakufamba, akakurumidza kuenda kune rumwe rutivi rweMoscow kune chikamu chekupfura. Ndichisvika kumba ndakaita basa rangu remumba. Uye saka katatu pavhiki. Kwemakore akawanda. Uye shure kwezvose, zvinhu zvose zvaiva nenguva uye hazvina kunyunyuta. Ndaiverenga mabhuku munjanji uye ndaifamba nevasikana vangu muchivanze. Kazhinji, ndakafara.
Hukama nevadzidzisi
Chiremera chemudzidzisi chakakosha kumwana wese. Uyu ndiye wechipiri akakosha nhamba mushure mevabereki. Nzira iyo mwana anovaka nayo ukama nomudzidzisi inotaura zvakawanda pamusoro pokukwanisa kwake kuteerera chiremera uye kudzivirira zvaanofunga.
Chiyero chinonzwisisika chehunyanzvi uhu mune ramangwana chinobatsira munhu kuti ave mushandi anoshanda, akavimbika, ane nheyo uye akatsunga.
Vanhu vakadai havagone kubvumirana chete nehutungamiriri, asiwo kukakavadzana nahwo apo zvido zvenyaya yacho zvinoda.
Mumwe wevatengi vangu akataura kuti kuchikoro chepakati aitya kutaura chero maonero asina kupindirana nemudzidzisi, uye akasarudza kutora "kukanganisa" nzvimbo. Rimwe zuva akaenda kukamuri romudzidzisi nokuda kwemagazini yekirasi. Bhera rakarira, zvidzidzo zvave kutoenderera mberi, mudzidzisi wechemistry akagara ega mumba memudzidzisi achichema. Zvakaitika izvi zvakamuvhundutsa. Akaona kuti "chemist" yakasimba ndeye munhuwo zvake, anotambura, achichema uye dzimwe nguva asingabatsiri.
Nyaya iyi yakazova yakasimba: kubva ipapo, jaya rakarega kutya kukakavadzana nevakuru vake. Apo mumwe munhu anokosha akamukurudzira nekutya, akabva ayeuka kuchema kwe "chemist" uye noushingi akapinda mune chero nhaurirano dzakaoma. Hapana chiremera chakanga chisisazununguki kwaari.
Kumukira vanhu vakuru
Kupandukira kwevechiri kuyaruka vachipesana ne "vakuru" idanho rechisikigo rekukura. Mushure mezvinonzi "positive symbiosis", apo mwana "ndeye" wevabereki, anoteerera maonero avo uye anotevera mazano, wechidiki anopinda munguva ye "negative symbiosis". Ino inguva yekurwa, kutsvaga zvirevo zvitsva, maitiro emunhu, maonero, sarudzo.
Muzviitiko zvakawanda, wechidiki akabudirira kupfuura iyi nhanho yekukura: anowana ruzivo rwekubudirira kupikisa kudzvinyirirwa kwevakuru, anokunda kodzero yekuzvimiririra kutonga, zvisarudzo uye zviito. Uye anoenderera mberi kune imwe nhanho ye "kuzvimirira": kupedza chikoro, kuparadzana kwechokwadi kubva kumhuri yevabereki.
Asi zvinoitika kuti wechidiki, uyezve munhu mukuru, mukati "anonamatira" panguva yekupandukira.
Munhu mukuru akadaro, mune mamwe mamiriro ezvinhu ehupenyu anotanga "kutanga kwake kwevechiri kuyaruka", anova asingashiviriri, asingafungi, anokanganisa, asingakwanisi kudzora manzwiro ake uye kutungamirirwa nekufunga. Zvino kumukira kunova nzira yake yaanofarira yekuratidza kuvakuru vake (semuenzaniso, manejimendi) kukosha kwake, simba, kugona kwake.
Ndinoziva nezvenyaya dzakawanda dzinoshamisa apo vanhu vanoita sevakakwana uye vane hunyanzvi, vawana basa, mushure mechinguva vakatanga kugadzirisa matambudziko ese kuburikidza nemakakatanwa, kumukirana, nekuramba kwakasimba kumirairo yese kubva kuvakuru vavo. Zvinopera nemisodzi - vangave "vanorovera gonhi" vobva vaenda vega, kana kuti vanodzingwa nekunyomba.