Nzira yekunyaradza troll yako yemukati

Mufambidzani uyu aikahadzika akagara mumusoro medu. Anoita kuti tidavire kuti ari kuitira kutinakira, nharidzano yake yakaziviswa ndeyokutidzivirira panhamo. Kutaura idi, vavariro yake haisati iri yakaisvonaka: anoshuva kutiita kuti tisafara, titye, tisuwe, tisurukirwe.

"Troll hakusi kutya kwako kana pfungwa dzisina kunaka, ndiye tsime razvo. Anoshandisa zvinorwadza zvakamboitika uye kukunyomba, achikuyeuchidza zvauri kutya zvakanyanya, uye kugadzira bhaisikopo rinotyisa nezveramangwana riri kutenderera mumusoro mako, "akadaro Rick Carson, munyori anotengesa zvakanyanya weThe Troll Tamer. Zvakaitika sei kuti troll yakaonekwa muhupenyu hwedu?

Ndiani troll?

Kubva mangwanani kusvika manheru, anotiudza maonero atinoita mumaziso evamwe, achidudzira nhanho dzedu dzose nenzira yake. Troll anotora maitiro akasiyana, asi ese ane chinhu chimwe chete akafanana: anoshandisa zviitiko zvedu zvekare kutinyengedza kuti tiise pasi hupenyu hwedu hwese kune kuzvimisa uye dzimwe nguva kutyisa generalizations pamusoro pezvatiri uye kuti hupenyu hwedu hunofanira kunge hwakaita sei.

Basa chete re troll nderekutitsausa kubva mumufaro wemukati, kubva kune isu vechokwadi - vataridzi vakadzikama, kubva kuhunhu hwedu. Pamusoro pazvo, chokwadi tiri “manyuko ekugutsikana kukuru, anowana uchenjeri uye anobvisa pasina tsitsi panhema.” Unonzwa mirayiridzo yake here? “Une zvimwe zvinhu zvinokosha zvokuita. Saka vachengetei!”, “Yeuka kuti tariro huru inopera sei? Ehe, kuodzwa mwoyo! Gara pasi usapfakanyike, mwana!»

"Ndinosunungurwa kwete pandinoedza kusununguka, asi pandinongoona kuti ndinozviisa mujeri," Rick Carson ane chokwadi. Kucherechedza mukati trolling chikamu chemushonga. Chii chimwe chingaitwa kubvisa fungidziro «mubatsiri» uye pakupedzisira kufema vakasununguka?

Favorite Troll Ngano

Kazhinji nziyo dzinoimbwa nevatambi vedu dzinovhara pfungwa. Hezvino zvimwe zvezvavanowanzo gadzira.

• Chiso chako chaicho chinosemesa.
• Kusuruvara kuratidzwa kwekushaya simba, ucheche, kusachengeteka, kuvimba.
• Kutambura kwakanaka.
• Iyo inokurumidza zviri nani.
• Vasikana vakanaka havadi bonde.
• Vechiduku vasingadzoreki chete ndivo vanoratidza kutsamwa.
• Kana iwe usingazive / kuratidza manzwiro, ivo vanopera vega.
• Kuratidza mufaro usingaoneki pabasa upenzi uye hakuna basa.
• Kana iwe usingaite nebhizinesi risina kupera, zvese zvinogadziriswa zvega.
• Varume vari nani pakutungamirira pane vakadzi.
• Mhosva inochenesa mweya.
• Kutarisira kurwadziwa kunoderedza.
• Rimwe zuva uchakwanisa kufanoona zvese.
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Munyori wenzira yekudzora matroll anosiya mitsetse mishoma isina chinhu kuti isu tipinde isu pachedu - izvo zvinozevezera kwatiri. Iri ndiro danho rekutanga rekutanga kuona maitiro ake.

Rusununguko kubva pakutsika-tsika: cherechedza uye kufema

Kuti udzore troll yako, unofanirwa kutora matanho matatu akareruka: ingoona zviri kuitika, ita sarudzo, tamba kuburikidza nesarudzo, uye ita!

Usazvishungurudze nemubvunzo wekuti sei zvese zvakaitika nenzira yazvakaita. Hazvina maturo uye hazvivaki. Zvichida mhinduro yacho pachayo ichawanikwa mushure mekunge wanyatsoongorora mamiriro acho ezvinhu. Kuti udzore troll, zvakakosha kuti ungoona zviri kuitika kwauri, uye kwete kufunga nezvekuti sei iwe uchinzwa manzwiro aunoita.

Kucherechedza kwakadzikama kunoshanda zvikuru kupfuura nhevedzano yemhedziso. Kuziva, sechiedza chechiedza, chinobvuta chipo chako kubva murima. Iwe unogona kuzvitungamira kumuviri wako, kune nyika yakakupoteredza, kana kune nyika yepfungwa. Cherechedza zviri kuitika kwauri, muviri wako, pano uye zvino.

Kudzora chiedza chekutsvaga chekuziva, tichakwanisa kunzwa kuzara kwehupenyu: pfungwa uye manzwiro acharega kubhururuka zvisingaite mumusoro, uye tichaona zvakajeka zviri kuitika kumativi ose. Iyo troll ichaerekana yamira kuzevezera zvekuita, uye isu tichadonha stereotypes yedu. Asi chenjera: iyo troll ichaita zvese kuti iwe utende zvakare kuti hupenyu chinhu chakaoma zvakanyanya.

Dzimwe nguva panguva yekurwiswa kwetroll, mweya wedu unorasika. Izvo zvakakosha kufema zvakadzika uye mweya wakachena, Rick Carson anogutsikana. Dumbu rinofanirwa kutenderera kana uchifema uye kudzoreka kana uchifemesa. Izvi ndizvo chaizvo zvinoitika kune avo vasina troll. Asi kune vazhinji vedu vanopfeka troll yedu kumashure kwemutsipa kana mumuviri, zvakanyatsopesana zvinoitika: patinofema, dumbu rinokweverwa mukati uye mapapu anongozadzwa zvishoma.

Ona kufema kwaunoita uri wega paunosangana nemunhu waunoda kana kuti mumwe munhu wausingavimbi naye. Edza kufema zvakanaka mumamiriro ezvinhu akasiyana, uye iwe uchanzwa kuchinja.

Unonyara kubvuma kurumbidzwa here? Tamba mamwe maitiro. Nguva inotevera apo mumwe munhu anoti anofara kusangana newe, tura befu uye unakirwe nenguva yacho. Benzi kumativi. Diversify your life with a game.

Sunungura manzwiro ako

Kangani kaunozvibvumira kuratidza mufaro, kutsamwa, kana kusuruvara? Ose anogara mumuviri wedu. Mufaro wechokwadi usingadzoreki kunzwa kunopenya, kwakanaka uye kunotapukira. Paunonyanya kusimuka kubva pane yako troll, iwe unowedzera kufara. Manzwiro anofanirwa kuratidzwa nemoyo wese uye zvakadzama, psychotherapist anotenda.

“Hasha hadzina kutongova dzakaipa chose chose, kusuruvara hakurevi kuora mwoyo, chishuvo chevatano hachibereki chipfambi, mufaro hauna kufanana nokusava nomutoro kana kuti upenzi, uye kutya hakuna kufanana noumbwende. Manzwiro anova nengozi chete kana tikaavharira kana kuputika nekukasika, pasina ruremekedzo kune zvimwe zvipenyu. Nokuteerera manzwiro, iwe uchaona kuti hapana chinhu chine ngozi mavari. Chete troll inotya manzwiro: anoziva kuti kana iwe ukavapa mahara, iwe unonzwa kusimba kwakasimba kwesimba, uye ichi ndicho kiyi yekunakidzwa zvizere nechipo chehupenyu.

Manzwiro haakwanisi kuvharirwa, akavanzwa - zvakadaro, nokukurumidza kana kuti gare gare ivo vachakambaira kunze kwemuviri kana kunze - nenzira yekuputika kusingatarisirwi iwe pachako uye kune avo vakakupoteredza. Saka pamwe inguva yekuedza kurega manzwiro pamadiro?

Kana iwe wakajaira kuvanza kutsamwa kwako mukati mekurwa, tarisa kutya kwako muziso uye zvibvunze kuti: Chii chakaipisisa chichaitika? Edza kuva akatendeseka pamusoro pezviitiko zvako. Taura zvakadai:

• “Ndinoda kukuudza chimwe chinhu, asi ndinotya kuti ungazopopota. Unoda kunditeerera here?"
• “Ndakakutsamwira zvikuru, asi ndinoremekedza uye ndinokoshesa ukama hwedu.”
• “Ndinozeza kutaura newe nezvenyaya imwe chete yakaoma… Asi ndinonzwa kusagadzikana uye ndinoda kujekesa mamiriro acho ezvinhu. Wagadzirira kutaura pachena here?
• “Ichange iri hurukuro yakaoma: Handigoni kutaura zvakanaka, uye iwe unotoda kunyomba. Ngatiedzei kubata mumwe nemumwe zvine rukudzo."

Kana kuti tora kutya kwedu. Iyo troll inonyatso kunakidzwa kuti iwe unorarama zvichienderana nekufungidzira. Nyika yepfungwa ndiyo mushonga. Edza kunyatso gadzira pfungwa dzako - izvi zvinokubvisa kubva munjodzi yekunyepedzera kuita chokwadi. Somuenzaniso, unofunga kuti mukuru wako acharamba pfungwa yako. Ah, iyo troll yakatenderedza zvakare, wazviona here?

Wotora bepa wonyora kuti:

Kana ndiri ____________________ (chiito #1 chaunotya kutora), saka ndinofungidzira ndiri _____________________________ (mhedzisiro #1).

Kana ini ___________________________________ (ndinoisa mhinduro kubva munhevedzano #1), ndofunga ______________________________________ (chikamu #2).

Kana ini ___________________________________ (ndinoisa mhinduro kubva pachikamu #2), ndofunga _____________________________ (chikamu #3).

Uye zvakadaro.

Iwe unogona kuita chiitiko ichi kakawanda sezvaunoda uye kunyura kune zvakadzama izvo isu pachedu tinoona sezvingabvira. Pakutendeuka kwechitatu kana kwechina, zvechokwadi tichatanga kuona kuti kutya kwedu hakuna musoro uye kuti pamwero wakadzama isu takajaira kuisa zviito zvedu kune kutya kurwadziwa, kurambwa, kana kufa. Tichaona kuti troll yedu inyanzvi huru, uye patinonyatsoongorora mamiriro acho ezvinhu, tichaona kuti hapana migumisiro chaiyo kwatiri mairi.

NezveMunyori: Rick Carson ndiye muvambi weTroll Taming Method, munyori wemabhuku, muvambi uye mutungamiriri weTroll Taming Institute, mudzidzisi wega uye murairidzi wevashandi vehutano hwepfungwa, uye nhengo uye mutarisiri wepamutemo weAmerican Association for Marriage and Family. Therapy.