Vanoita zvinhu zvose pamwe chete: pane imwe, pane imwe. Upenyu huri kure newavakaroorana naye hahuna musoro kwavari. Zvinoita sechinhu chakanaka chinoshuviwa nevakawanda. Asi idyll yakadaro yakazara nengozi.
Katerina ane makore 26 anoti: “Tinopedza nguva yedu yose yokutandara tiri pamwe chete, tinogara tichienda tose kunoshanyira shamwari uye vatinozivana navo, tinoenda kuzororo tiri vaviri chete,” anodaro Katerina ane makore XNUMX.
“Ini handipo pasina imi” ndiwo chirevo chevakaroorana vasingaparadzanisiki. Maria naYegor vanoshanda pamwe chete. "Vakaita sechisikwa chimwe - vanoda chinhu chimwe chete, vanopfeka zvine ruvara rumwe chete, vanotopedza mazwi emumwe nemumwe," anodaro nyanzvi yepfungwa Saverio Tomasella, munyori weThe Merge Relationship.
General ruzivo, kutya uye tsika
The psychoanalyst anotenda kuti vakaroorana vasingaparadzanisiki vanogona kuiswa mumhando nhatu.
Rudzi rwekutanga - uhwu hukama hwakamuka kare, apo vadiwa vachiri kuona kuumbwa kwavo. Vanogona kuva shamwari dzokuchikoro, zvichida kunyange dzokupuraimari. Chiitiko chekukura pamwe chete chinosimbisa hukama hwavo - munguva yese yehupenyu hwavo vaionana kune rumwe rutivi, sechiratidzo mugirazi.
Rudzi rwechipiri - apo mumwe wevabatsiri, uye zvichida vose vari vaviri, havagoni kutakura kusurukirwa. Kana musanangurwa wake akasarudza kupedza manheru oga oga, anonzwa akasiyiwa uye asingakoshi. Kudiwa kwekubatanidza muvanhu vakadaro kunokurudzirwa nekutya kuti vachasara vari voga. Hukama hwakadaro hunowanzo zvarwa patsva, huchive hunoenderana.
Rudzi rwechitatu - avo vakakurira mumhuri umo hukama hwaive hwakadaro. Vanhu ava vari kungotevedzera zvagara zviri pamberi pemeso avo.
Fragile idyll
Naivo pachavo, hukama umo hupenyu hwevakaroorana hwakanyatsopindirana haugone kunzi hunotyisa. Sezvimwe nezvimwe zvese, inyaya yemwero.
"Mune zvimwe zviitiko, shiri dzerudo dzichiri kuchengetedza humwe huwandu hwekuzvimiririra, uye izvi hazviite dambudziko," anodaro Saverio Tomasella. - Mune vamwe, kubatanidzwa kunove kwakakwana: imwe isina imwe inonzwa yakakanganisika, yakaderera. Pane chete "isu", kwete "ini". Muchiitiko chekupedzisira, kunetseka kunowanzomuka muhukama, vanobatana vanogona kuva negodo uye vanoedza kudzora mumwe nomumwe.
Kutsamira papfungwa kune njodzi nekuti kunosanganisira kutsamira muhungwaru uye kunyangwe mune zveupfumi.
Kana miganhu yedu pachedu yadzima, tinorega kuzviparadzanisa isu kubva kune mumwe munhu. Zvinosvika pakuti tinoona kusawirirana kudiki sekutyisidzira kugara zvakanaka. Kana zvakapesana, kunyungudika mune imwe, tinomira kuzviteerera uye nekudaro - muchiitiko chekuzorora - tinosangana nedambudziko rakanyanya remunhu.
“Kutsamira mupfungwa kune ngozi nokuti kunosanganisira kutsamira paungwaru uye kunyange mune zvoupfumi,” nyanzvi inotsanangura kudaro. "Mumwe wevadyidzani anowanzo rarama sekunge vaviri, nepo mumwe achiramba asina kukura uye asingakwanisi kuita sarudzo dzakazvimirira."
Ukama hwekutsamirana hunowanzotanga pakati pevanhu vakanga vasina ukama hwakachengeteka, hwokuvimba nevabereki vavo vachiri vana. "Ichi chatove chechirwere cheumwe munhu chinova nzira - nhamo, isingabudiriri - yekuzadza kusavapo kwepfungwa," anotsanangura Saverio Tomasella.
Kubva pakusangana kusvika pakutambura
Kutsamira kunozviratidza muzviratidzo zvakasiyana-siyana. Izvi zvinogona kuva kuzvidya mwoyo kunyange nekuda kwekuparadzana kwenguva pfupi kubva kune wawakaroorana naye, chido chekutevera nhanho dzake dzose, kuziva zvaari kuita pane imwe nguva.
Chimwe chiratidzo ndiko kuvharwa kwepairi pachayo. Vashandi vanoderedza nhamba yevanoshamwaridzana, kuita shamwari shomanana, vanozviparadzanisa nenyika nemadziro asingaoneki. Vese vanozvibvumira kukahadzika sarudzo yavo vanova vavengi uye vanogurwa. Kuzviparadzanisa nevamwe kwakadaro kungatokonzera kunetsana uye kukanganisa ukama nehama neshamwari.
Kana iwe ukacherekedza zviratidzo izvi muhukama hwako, zvakakodzera kubvunza murapi nekukurumidza sezvinobvira.
"Kana kutsamira kukava pachena, rudo rwunobva rwava kutambura, asi kunyangwe pfungwa yekurambana inoita seisingadaviriki kune vakaroorana," Saverio Tomasella anodaro. - Kuti vatarise mamiriro ezvinhu, vadyidzani vanofanirwa kutanga vazviona sevanhu, kudzidza kuteerera kune zvavanoda uye zvavanoda. Zvichida ivo vachasarudza kugara pamwe chete - asi pamatemu matsva anozofunga nezvezvido zveumwe neumwe.