Mukati
Hasha, kutya, kusuwa… Tinoziva kuti manzwiro aya anogona kutikurira sei. Uye izvi ndezvechokwadi kunyanya kumwana. Ndicho chikonzero nei zvakakosha kuti mubereki adzidzise mwana wake kudzora manzwiro ake zvakanaka, kwete kukundwa. Kugona uku kuchava kwaari, muhuduku hwake sehupenyu hwake hwemangwana, chinhu chikuru chekusimbisa hunhu hwake.
Chii chinonzi manzwiro?
Manzwiro maitiro ebhayoloji anozviratidza semanzwiro emuviri uye anoburitsa maitiro: ndiyo hwaro hwehunhu hwedu. Nemamwe mashoko, manzwiro anonzwa nemwana mudiki ndeapi kusarudza. Vanozadza hupenyu hwake hweramangwana nemuvara unokosha.
Mwana anogara pedyo naamai vake uye kunyura manzwiro ake. “Panguva yokuberekwa kwake, kana amai vake vachitya, mwana wacho achatya zvikuru,” anotsanangura kudaro Catherine Gueguen. Asi kana akaperekedzwa zvakanaka, akadzikama, iye achavawo. Kune vana vanonyemwerera pakuzvarwa! “
Mwedzi yekutanga, mwana achangoberekwa anotanga kusiyanisa. Uyo anongonzwa kuti ariko kuburikidza nemanzwiro ake emuviri, ari muhukama hwepedyo nemanzwiro ake. Anoratidza manzwiro ake. Nokunyatsoteerera, tinogona kusvika pakuinzwisisa.
Nzira yekutsanangura sei manzwiro?
Kutsanangura manzwiro, iyo etymology inotiisa munzira. Izwi rinobva kuLatin "movere", iro rinotanga kufamba. “Kutozosvikira muzana ramakore rechimakumi maviri, tairangarira mirangariro seinonyadzisa, anotsanangura kudaro Dr. Catherine Gueguen, chiremba wavana. Asi kubva pakusimuka kweanobatika uye nemagariro neuroscience, isu takanzwisisa kuti iwo akakosha mukukura kwedu: ivo vanosarudza nzira yatinofunga, kuita uye kuita. “
Kure nekuvharirwa mirangariro mikuru mishanu inowanzotaurwa (kutya, kusemeswa, mufaro, kusuwa, kutsamwa), manzwiro emunhu akakura zvakanyanya: kunzwa kwese kunoenderana nemanzwiro. Nokudaro, mucheche, kusagadzikana, kuneta, kunyange nzara, manzwiro pamwe chete nekutya kana kunzwa kusurukirwa. Kune vacheche, manzwiro ega ega ane ruvara rwemanzwiro ayo anoratidza kuburikidza nemisodzi, kuchema, kunyemwerera, kufamba, kumira, asi pamusoro pezvose kuburikidza nekutaura kwechiso chake. Meso ake chiratidzo chehupenyu hwake hwemukati.
"Mune makore 0-3 ekuzvarwa, manzwiro ndiyo chete nzira yekuratidza manzwiro emuviri, zvido uye pfungwa, saka chokwadi chekuti ivo varipo uye vanopinda panguva ino yehupenyu. Mazwi anonyaradza, kuzunungusa mumaoko, kukwizwa kwedumbu, kusunungura manzwiro aya zviri nyore ... "
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Mwana wose anonzwa manzwiro
Kana mubereki angofunga kuti aziva zviri kunzwa mucheche wake, anofanira kuzvitaura nomubvunzo uye ocherechedza zvaanoita mwana: “Unonzwa uri woga here? "," Unoda kuti tichinje diaper yako here? “. Chenjera kuti "usanamatira" dudziro yako pamwana, uye uichengete zvakanaka kuti ugadzirise maonero ake. Chiso chake chinovhurika, zorora here? Chiratidzo chakanaka. Kana mubereki angoziva kuti chii chinoshanda, paanoziva kutaura kwemanzwiro emwana mudiki, anoita zvinoenderana: mwana anobva anzwa anzwikwa, akachengeteka. Zvinotora nguva, asi zvakakosha pakukura kwayo.
Zvechokwadi, zvidzidzo pamusoro pekukanganiswa kwemanzwiro akaitwa mumamiriro ehutano uye hutano hwemagariro evanhu zvakaratidza kuti uropi huri pasi pekunetseka - semuenzaniso mumwana mudiki ane manzwiro asingazivikanwe kana kutorwa, asi kune watinoti "regai izvi zvishuvo." !” - inogadzira cortisol, hormone inovhara kukura kwenzvimbo dzinoverengeka dzehuropi, kusanganisira prefrontal cortex, chigaro chekuita sarudzo uye chiito, uye amygdala, nzvimbo yekugadzirisa manzwiro. Sezvineiwo, kunzwira tsitsi kunokurudzira kukura kwechero grey., inowedzera kuwanda kwehippocampus, nzvimbo inokosha pakudzidza, uye inogadzira muvana vaduku kugadzirwa kweoxytocin, hormone inovabatsira kugadzirisa manzwiro avo uye kukudziridza unyanzvi hwavo hwemagariro evanhu kuburikidza nekubatanidzwa nemanzwiro eavo vakamupoteredza. Kunzwira mwana tsitsi kunosimudzira kukura kwehuropi hwake uye kunomubvumira kuwana hwaro hwekuzviziva huchamuita munhu mukuru akadzikama.
Anosvika pakuzviziva
Vana sezvavanokura, vachakwanisa kubatanidza mifungo nomutauro nemanzwiro avo. Kana ruzivo rwake rwepfungwa rwakatorwa kubva pamazuva ake okutanga, kana akanzwa munhu mukuru achiisa mazwi kune zvaanonzwa, achaziva kuti angazviita sei munguva yake. Saka, kubva pamakore maviri, mudiki anogona kuona kana akasuwa, kushushikana kana kutsamwa… Chinhu chikuru chinoita kuti anzwisise!
Isu tinowanzo kufunga nezve "zvisingafadzi" manzwiro. Ngatipinde mutsika yekutaurawo izvo zvinofadza! Nokudaro, mwana anowedzera kunzwa vabereki vake vachiti: "Ndinokuwana uchifara / uchinakidzwa / wakagutsikana / unoda kuziva / kufara / kushingairira / misikanzwa / kushingaira / kufarira / etc. iye achakwanisa kubereka gare gare aya mavara akasiana-siana papalette yake amene yemirangariro.
Paunofunga nezvemanzwiro aanoita pasina kutonga kana kugumbuka, mwana anonzwa ane chivimbo. Kana tikamubatsira kuti ataure manzwiro ake, achaziva nzira yokuzviita nayo nokukurumidza, izvo zvichamubatsira kuti akure. Kune rumwe rutivi, haisi pamberi pemakore 6-7 - iyo yakakurumbira makore ekufunga! - kuti achadzidza kugadzirisa manzwiro ake (kudzikamisa kana kuzvisimbisa, somuenzaniso). Kusvika panguva iyoyo, anoda rubatsiro rwako kubata nekuvhiringidzika uye kutsamwa ...