Nei zvakaoma zvikuru kuti vamwe vedu vawane wokuroorana naye woupenyu? Zvichida pfungwa yacho inonzwa yakanyanyisa, iyo inovhiringidza isu nevadiwa vedu? Isu tinogovera mamwe matipi anoshanda ayo anozobatsira vanhu vane hanya kuwana kunzwisisana nemumwe nemumwe.
Iwe unofarira kuenda kumafirimu uye kuenda kuzororo wega here? Iwe unoda nzvimbo yako pachako kunyange muimba yekurara?
"Mukati mekudzidzira kwangu, ndakasangana nevanhu vakawanda vane ruzivo rwakanyanya - tsitsi dzepfungwa dzinosangana nematambudziko muhukama hwepedyo," anodaro nyanzvi yezvepfungwa Judith Orloff. "Ava vanhu vane mutsa, vane tsika, vakatendeseka vanoda kuwana mweya wavo wekuroorana naye, asi panguva imwe chete vanoramba vakasurukirwa kwemakore."
Mumamiriro erudo, tinonyura mune imwe pfungwa yekubatana uye kushamwaridzana nemumwe uye tinowana simba kubva kune izvi, asi kune tsitsi, zvakanyanya kubatana, pasina mukana wekusiya basa - uye iyi ndiyo nzira yavanodzosera nayo simba - yakaoma zvakanyanya.
Izvi hazvirevi kuti vanoda zvishoma. Pane zvinopesana, vanonzwisisa vadikani vavo pasina mazwi uye vanogara navo zvese nuances yezviitiko zvavo.
Kutaura nenzira yokufananidzira, vanhu ava vanoratidzika kuva vanobata chinhu neminwe makumi mashanu, nepo vamwe vose vachingoda mishanu bedzi. Nokudaro, vanoda nguva yakawanda yekudzorera kuenzana kwemukati.
Vakawanda vavo vanotya kuti havazonzwisiswi nemunhu wavanoda. Hongu, iyo yakawedzera kudiwa kwenzvimbo yakaparadzana dzimwe nguva inoverengwa nevamwe sedhipatimendi uye kusafarira hukama.
Uye kusanzwisisana uku injodzi kwavari nekune avo vangango fambidzana navo. Vanhu vane hanya vangadzidza sei kuvaka hukama?
Taura chokwadi
Iva akatendeseka uye tsanangura kuti kazhinji unoda kuva woga. Paunodzima foni yako uye uchisiya kwenguva pfupi ndima yekutaurirana, ichi hachisi chinhu chako. Izvi zvinokonzerwa nehunhu hwehunhu hwako, uye mumwe wako anongodiwawo kwauri panguva dzino. Maonero ako kwaari haana kuchinja.
Nguva yekurara
Vanhu vane tsitsi havagone kugara vakarara pamubhedha mumwechete nemumwe. Uye zvakare, hapana chinhu chega: ivo vanongonyanya kukosha nzvimbo yavo husiku. Kana zvisina kudaro, havazorari zvakakwana uye kurota pamwe chete nemudiwa kunoshanduka kuva kutambudzwa. Taura zvakatendeseka nezvazvo nemumwe wako uye kurukurai zvamungasarudza.
Territory of silence
Sarudzo yekugara pamwe chete inhanho yakakomba inoedza simba remibatanidzwa yakawanda. Kunyanya kana mumwe wevadyidzani achida zvakanyanya ndima yake. Funga nezve paungave wega uye kurukura nemumwe wako.
Zvichida ungada "kunyangarika" muimba yega kana garaji nguva nenguva.
Kana nzvimbo yefurati iri diki, iyi inogona kunge iri tafura yako, yakaparadzaniswa nechidzitiro. Kana pasina nzvimbo yakadaro, dzokera kuchimbuzi. Vhura mvura uye uzvipe nguva - kunyange maminitsi mashanu kusvika gumi achabatsira kudzorera simba. Zvakakosha kuti mudiwa agamuchire chishuwo chako ichi pasina chigumbu.
Pakufamba
Vanhu vanowanzoshamisika kuti mumwe munhu anosarudza kufamba ega. Vanhu vazhinji vanofarira kugovera zvinoonekwa uye zviitiko nemumwe munhu. Vanozvityaira vanowanzova vanonzwira tsitsi. Kufamba pamwe chete, kana mumwe munhu ari pedyo kwemaawa 24, kunyange kana achidiwa zvikuru, unova muedzo kwavari.
Edza kukurukura nemumwe wako kuti asakuchengetei chigumbu kana rimwe zuva uchida kudya kuseni wega. Kana kuti usamuchengeta pane imwe yenzendo. Muvakaroorana umo maitiro aya epfungwa anoremekedzwa, hukama hunofadza uye hurefu hunogadzirwa.