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Chinyorwa kubva muchitsauko 14. Kushushikana, kubata uye hutano
Chinyorwa chakanyorwa naNeil D. Weinstein, Rutgers University
Iwe unowedzera kana kushoma kudoro kupfuura vamwe vanhu here? Zvakadini nemikana yako yokubatira hosha inopfuudzwa muvatano kana kuti kuva nehosha yemwoyo? Havasi vanhu vazhinji vanobvunzwa mibvunzo iyi vanobvuma kuve nepamusoro-avhareji muzana yenjodzi. Kazhinji, 50-70% yeavo vakaongororwa vanoti mukana wavo wengozi uri pazasi peavhareji, imwe 30-50% inoti vane avhareji yengozi, uye isingasviki 10% vanobvuma kuti njodzi yavo iri pamusoro peavhareji.
Zvechokwadi, chaizvoizvo, zvinhu zvose hazvina kudaro zvachose. Iwe unogona kunge uine mukana wakaderera pane wepakati mukana wekuve nechirwere chemoyo, asi kune vanhu vakawandisa vanoti izvi ndizvo chaizvo. "Avhareji" munhu, netsanangudzo, ane "avhareji" dhigirii rengozi. Naizvozvo, kana paine vanhu vazhinji vanoshuma avhareji yengozi yavo pane avo vanoti nhanho yavo yengozi iri pamusoro peavhareji, zvinowanzoitika kuti vekare vane ongororo yenjodzi.
Humbowo hunoratidza kuti vanhu vazhinji vane zviito, nhoroondo yemhuri kana nharaunda iri manyuko enjodzi huru vangave vasingazvinzwisise kana kusambozvibvuma. Kazhinji kazhinji, zvinogona kutaurwa kuti vanhu vane tariro isiri yechokwadi pamusoro pengozi dzomunguva yemberi. Iyi tarisiro isingatarisirwi yakanyanya kusimba kana paine njodzi dzinenge dziri pasi pehutongi hwemunhu, dzakadai sedoro, kenza yemapapu uye zvirwere zvepabonde. Zviri pachena kuti tine chokwadi chokuti tichabudirira zvikuru kudzivisa matambudziko akadaro kupfuura vezera redu.
Kuva netariro kusiri kwechokwadi kunoratidza kuti hatigoni kusarura uye kuva nechinangwa kana totaura nezvengozi dzoutano. Tinoda kuziviswa uye kuita sarudzo dzakanaka, asi tichinzwa sekunge tave kutorarama hupenyu hune hutano, hapana shanduko inodiwa, uye hatifanirwe kunetseka. Zvinosuruvarisa, chido chekuona zvose mupiniki zvinogona kukonzera matambudziko akawanda. Kana zvinhu zvose zvakanaka, hatifaniri kutora matanho ekuzvidzivirira. Tinogona kuramba tichidhakwa neshamwari, kudya pizza yakawanda, nyama yakakangwa uye hamburger sezvatinoda, uye kushandisa makondomu chete nevanoita zvepabonde vatinoti vanoita hupombwe (zvinoshamisa, hatiwanzofunga kuti vose vakadaro). Kazhinji yenguva, maitiro ane njodzi haatikonzereri matambudziko, asi anonyanya kuitika. Mamirioni evadzidzi vepakoreji vanotapukirwa gore rimwe nerimwe kupfurikidza nokusangana pabonde kana kupinda mutsaona dzemotokari pashure pokunge vanwa doro rakawandisa mienzaniso yakajeka yevanhu vanoita zvinhu zvavanoziva kuti zvine ngozi. Asi vakasarudza kuti zvaizova zvakanaka. Uku hakusi kusaziva, uku kutarisira kusingaite.
Muenzaniso unosuruvarisa kuwedzera kwenhamba yevadzidzi vepakoreji vanosvuta. Mafungiro akasiyana-siyana anovabvumira kuti vanzwe vakasununguka. Vachasvuta kwemakore akati wandei uye vorega (vamwe vangave vakakochekerwa, asi kwete ivo). Pamwe havapute midzanga yakasimba kana kuti havafemedze. Ivo vari kushingaira kubatanidzwa mumitambo, iyo inobhadhara kukuvadza kubva pakusvuta. Vanosvuta havarambi kuti midzanga inokuvadza. Vanongotenda kuti fodya haina ngozi kwavari. Vanowanzotaura kuti njodzi yavo yekubatwa nechirwere chemwoyo, kenza yemapapu, kana kuti emphysema yakaderera pane vamwe vanoputa uye inongova yakakwirira zvishoma pane vasingasvuti.
Tarisiro ine zvayakanakira. Kana vanhu vachirwara zvakanyanya uye vachinetseka nechirwere chakaita segomarara kana AIDS, zvakakosha kuti ugare uine tariro. Zvinobatsira kushivirira kurapwa kusingafadzi, uye manzwiro akanaka anogona kubatsira muviri kurwisa chirwere. Asi kunyange tariro huru haigoni kuita kuti munhu ane chirwere chisingarapiki afunge kuti haasi kurwara, kana kuti kurega kurapwa. Zvisinei, ngozi ine chokuita netarisiro isiri yechokwadi inowedzera kana chinetso chacho chiri chokudzivirira kuvadziko. Kana iwe uchitenda kuti iwe unogona kutyaira motokari mushure meusiku hwekunwa, kana kuti hapana mumwe wevadiwa vako vepabonde akatapukirwa nehosha yepabonde, kana kuti, kusiyana nevaunodzidza navo, unogona kurega kusvuta chero nguva, tariro yako isina chokwadi inogona kuitika. kukugadzira matambudziko ehutano achaita kuti udembe maitiro ako.
Kuva netariro kusiri kwechokwadi kunogona kubatsira kuutano hwako
Kuva netariro kusiri kwechokwadi kwakaipa kuutano hwako here? Pakutanga kuona, zvinoratidzika kuti zvinofanira kukuvadza. Mushure mezvose, kana vanhu vachitenda kuti havakwanisi kutarisana nezvinetso kubva pakuora kwezino kusvika kuhosha yemwoyo, izvozvo hazvifaniri kuva chipingamupinyi kumararamiro ane utano here? Uchapupu hwakakwana hunoratidza kuti vanhu vakawanda vane tariro isiri iyoyi nezvoutano hwavo. Asi pasinei zvapo nokuti chii, tariro isiri yechokwadi inoratidzika kuva yakanaka nokuda kwoutano hwako. Ona →
Chapter 15
Muchitsauko chino tichatarisa nyaya dzevamwe vanhu vane hosha dzepfungwa dzakakomba, totarisa nezvevarwere vamwe navamwe vanorarama mararamiro anoparadza hunhu hwavo. Ona →