Iwe une waunoshanda naye ane pfungwa huru yekuseka here? Uyo ane majee anoitika ipapo, ndiani anogona kufadza munhu wese kunyangwe panguva yenjodzi yakaipisisa kana kupotsa nguva dzekupedzisira, uyo ane kunyomba kusingagumburwe? Isu tinobheja waanoshanda naye uyu murume, kwete mukadzi. Uye ndipo panobva mhedziso idzi.
Panogona kunge paine vanhu vakadai munharaunda yako: vanooneka uye vanonyatso kudzikamisa mamiriro nemutsara mumwe. Iwe unogona kutotarisira kutanga kwezuva rekushanda, nekuti unoziva kuti hauzofinhwa muhofisi navo. Vakangwara vatinoshanda navo vanoita misangano inonetesa uye mabasa asingaperi ebasa anotsungirirwa. Uye kana mukuru wacho ane pfungwa yekuseka, zviri nani. Hazvibviri kusayemura vatungamiri vasingakoshese zvinhu, kusanganisira ivo pachavo.
A "asi" inofanira kuonekwa pano, uye heinoi. Munguva ichangopfuura, purofesa weYunivhesiti yeArizona, Jonathan B. Evans uye vaaishanda navo vakaona kuti kuseka kunogona kubatsira kugadzira nzvimbo yebasa inobudirira, asiwo zvine basa kuti ndiani ari kuseka. Masayendisiti akataura kuti majee echirume anosimudza chimiro chavo muchikwata, uye vakadzi vanongozvikuvadza ivo, uye stereotypes ndivo vane mhosva yeizvi. Kwenguva yakareba zvakatendwa kuti mukadzi haakwanisi kuseka - yeuka zvishoma matanho ekutanga pachikuva chemunhu mukuru weTV series The Incredible Mai Maisel. Uye hazvina basa kana jee racho richisetsa, mafungire kumukadzi ari muboka anogona kukanganisa zvinorehwa nezvakataurwa.
Sezvinoita, varume vanowanzowana "mapoinzi" nepo vakadzi vachirasikirwa
Unogona kunge wakazviwana uri mumusangano kana boka rekushanda umo mumwe wenhengo (murume) aigara achingwarisa. Kunyangwe iwe wanga uchiedza kutarisa pane basa rakakomba, pamwe waiseka nguva nenguva. Iwe wakafungei nezve joker? Hazvigoneki kuti maitiro kwaari akawedzera. Zvino fungidzira kuti basa iri rakaitwa nemukadzi. Unofunga kuti anganzi ane njere here kana kuti anotsamwisa?
A prankster anogona kunzwisiswa nenzira dzakasiyana: semumwe munhu anobatsira kudzikisira kusawirirana uye kudzikisira mamiriro acho ezvinhu, kana semumwe munhu anotsausa kubva kubasa - uye murume kana mukadzi anokanganisa maonero. Sezvinoita, varume vanowanzowana "mapoinzi" nepo vakadzi vachirasikirwa.
Mhedziso dzakakomba
Kuti asimbise kufungidzira, Jonathan B. Evans nevamwe vaaishanda navo vakaita zvidzidzo zviviri zvakatevedzana. Mukutanga, vatori vechikamu 96 vakakumbirwa kuti vatarise vhidhiyo uye kuyera majee anotaurwa nemukuru wechirume kana wechikadzi (majee aive akafanana). Chavaiziva pachine gamba ndechekuti aive munhu akabudirira uye ane tarenda. Sezvaitarisirwa, vatori vechikamu vakayera kuseka kwemutungamiri wechirume kumusoro.
Muchikamu chechipiri, vatori vechikamu 216 vakatarisa mavhidhiyo emurume kana mukadzi achitaura majee kana kusaseka zvachose. Zvidzidzo zvakakumbirwa kuti vaongorore mamiriro, maitiro uye hutungamiriri hwemagamba. Vatori vechikamu vaiona ma prankster echikadzi kunge akaderera muchimiro uye vakati ivo vakaderera kuita uye husina simba hwehutungamiriri hunhu.
Varume vanogona kuseka vavanoshanda navo, uye izvi zvinongosimudza chimiro chavo muchikwata.
Hatife takaita jee «muchimiro chayo chakachena»: hunhu hwemutauri hunonyanya kuona kana huchaita sehusemwa. "Zvinobvumirwa Jupiter hazvibvumirwi nenzombe": varume vanogona kuseka vavanoshanda navo uye kunyange kutaura mashoko ekunyomba, uye izvi zvinongosimudza chimiro chavo muboka, mukadzi anozvibvumira izvi zvinogona kuonekwa sezvisina maturo, zvisingabatsiri. Uye inova imwe sirin'i yegirazi yevatungamiriri vevakadzi.
Ndeipi nzira yekubuda mumamiriro ezvinhu aya? Evans ane chokwadi chekuti zvakafanira kubvisa prism ye stereotypes uye kwete kuongorora mazwi emunhu zvichienderana nehukadzi hwake. Tinofanira kupa vakadzi rusununguko rwakawanda, uye zvichida ipapo tichatanga kunzwisisa uye kuonga kuseka pachayo, uye kwete munyori.