Patinowedzera kukura, ndipo patinozowedzera kuva nehungwaru: chirevo hachisi chiratidzo chechokwadi. Kukura zera rezvakaberekwa hakuwanzo kuvimbisa kukura. Vamwe vanhu vakuru vacharamba vasina kukura kwehupenyu kana vana vachikura hunhu hwakakura pakutanga. Nyanzvi mumubvunzo dzinosiyanisa mhando mbiri dzekusagadzikana: kusachenjera kwepfungwa uye kusagadzikana kwepfungwa-kunokanganisa, kunonziwo "infantilism" kusvika pakutanga kwezana ramakore reXNUMX. Kuva mwana hupenyu hwako hwese kunonziwo Peter Pan syndrome.

Kuti uone kusakura, zvinodikanwa kuve nechinhu chekuenzanisa nehunhu hwemunhu akataura pane zvinopesana "akura". Asi kukura kunoshandura sei? Zvakaoma kuyera, iko kuonga kunowanzo kukonzerwa nekutaridzika kwechinangwa.

Peter Blos, psychoanalyst, akatarisa kutsvagisa kwake pamusoro penzira kubva pakuyaruka kusvika pakuva munhu mukuru uye mubvunzo wekuwana mamiriro ekukura aya. Zvinoenderana nezvaakawana, akatsanangura kukura se:

• kugona kuzvidzora;
• kudzora zvishuwo nezvisikwa;
• kugona kutora uye kugadzirisa kunetsana kwemukati nekuzvidya mwoyo zvine mwero uye kuzvikunda;
• iko kugona kwekuumba hukama nevamwe mukati meboka uku uchichengetedza yakakosha kugona.

Kukura saka zvinoenderana nemagariro anoonekwa pazera rega rega remunhu. Kune mwana mudiki ane makore mashanu ekuberekwa, kuva akura zvinoreva kusiya jira rako kumba kuti uende kuchikoro, semuenzaniso. Kune mukomana ane makore gumi nerimwe ekuberekwa, zvichange zvichikwanisa kusatakurwa mukurwa kuchikoro. Uye kune wechidiki, zvinofungidzirwa kuti anogona kuita basa rake rechikoro pasina mumwe wevabereki vake anopindira kumuratidza kuti inguva.

Iwe unogona kuve usina kukura hupenyu hwako hwese. Kusakura kwemunhu mukuru kunogona kuganhurirwa kune dzimwe nharaunda: vamwe vanogona kunge vaine hunhu hwehunhu asi hunhu hwepfungwa.

Muchokwadi, vamwe varume vanofunga vakadzi vavo saamai vechipiri, vamwe havana kuenda kupfuura oedipal tata: vanowira mukushushikana kwepfungwa uye pabonde.

Kusazvibata zvine hunyanzvi kunotsanangurwa naPeter Blos se: "kunonoka mukuvandudzika kwehukama hune hukama, hune tsika yekutsamira uye kufunga kwekufungidzira kunokonzeresa kushomeka kwevacheche, kusiyanisa muvanhu vakuru nedanho rekuvandudza mabasa ehungwaru. . "

Ungwaru kana kutonga kwekusakura ndiko kushomeka kwakanyanya kana kushoma kwekufunga kwakakomba uye kuziva kwetsika kwehunhu hwakakosha hunodiwa chero nesarudzo. Muchokwadi, munhu wacho haakwanise kuita yemahara uye zvine mutoro sarudzo.

Kushushikana kusagadzikana uye kusaziva kwehungwaru zvakabatana zvakanyanya nekuti iyo inokanganisa nzvimbo iri mukugara uchidyidzana nenzvimbo yekuziva.

Vanhu vane nyaya dzekukura vanonyara kupindira. Vanoverengera nguva dzakatarwa dzavanosarudza. Nekudaro, ivo vanogona kumuka vari makumi matatu nemashanu kana makumi mana kuti vabude muhuhwana: kuve nemwana, kuroora kuti vagadzikane uye varege kuzungaira pabonde.

Zviratidzo zvakasiyana

Kusakwana haisi chirwere asi zviratidzo zvinoverengeka kana maitiro anogona kuchenjerera avo vakakupoteredza:

• kuwedzeredza kugadzirisa pamifananidzo yevabereki;
• kudiwa kwekudzivirira: unyoro chiratidzo chekuda kuchengetedzwa;
• kushushikana mupfungwa;
• kukamurwa kwekuzvida-wega;
• pane kunyanya kusazvibata pamwe nekuomesa musoro, narcissism;
• kutadza kukunda kusawirirana;
• kusashivirira kushushikana;
• Kusakura pabonde, kushaya simba, kutonhora hazvishamise: havana kupinda mukuchinja kwekuchinja. Tinogona zvakare kucherechedza kumwe kukanganisa kwepabonde kana kukanganisa (pedophilia, nezvimwewo);
• ita semwana: vanoda kuwana zvese zvavanoda pakarepo sevana;
• kusagadzikana: hapana kudzora kwemanzwiro uye pfungwa dzekukurumidza dzinobuda zvine chisimba;
• kuramba kuzvipira: kurarama munguva, kukurumidza, iro rejista rezvechigarire ruzivo.

Mune munhu asina kusimba mupfungwa, munhu anogona kuona kuti vatambi veTV uye nyeredzi dzebhizinesi dzakakosha kupfuura vanhu vezuva nezuva. Izvo zvakasikwa zvakasikwa zvediki skrini kana komputa zvinotsiva chokwadi.

Iko kushandiswa kwakasimba uye kusasarura kwemitambo yemakomputa, Indaneti nemakomputa zvinobvumidza vanhu ava kuti vazvicheke kubva kune chaiye kuti vapinde mune chaiyo, inova yavo nyowani nyowani, pasina zvipingamupinyi uye chisungo chekutora makodhi ekukura ayo anoda chokwadi.

Kusanzwisisika kwekusaziva kana kusasimba kwekutonga kunoguma nekushaikwa kwekufunga kwakakomba kana hana yetsika yekugona kuita sarudzo yehupenyu. Munhu wacho haakwanise kuzvisarudzira iye kana vamwe.

Kusagadzikana kwepfungwa kunoonekwa sekudzora kwepfungwa kunogona kudzika, kwepakati kana kupfava.

Ita chirwere

Kugadzira kuongororwa uye kutsanangura kusasimba kwemurwere saka iri basa rakaoma nekuda kwekuwanda kwezvikonzero uye zviratidzo.

Izvo zvakakosha kuti varapi vemhuri vakumbire hwakadzika-hunyanzvi hwepfungwa. Chiremba wepfungwa achakwanisa kudoma kuti:

• kushomeka kwemurwere kwekufambira mberi kuri kwekutambudzika kwakatangira uye kwakadzikiswa kana kuchinjwa nechinoitika chekunze panguva yehucheche hwake kana kuyaruka;
• kana kuti kusakura uku kunobva mukushomeka kwehunyanzvi hwekuziva, hunogona kukonzerwa nechirwere, kana nehurema hwemagene.

Muzviitiko zvese izvi, kana hurema hwehungwaru hwagadzwa, munhu wacho haakwanise kushandisa mutongo wakanaka unomuisa muhupenyu hwese. Saka inofanirwa kukurumidza kutarisirwa chero muchimiro chakatsaurwa kana nemhuri.