Iye zvino ane makore 46 ekuberekwa, ndine mukomana ane makore 29 okuberekwa, izvo zvinoratidza kuti ndakaita mwana wangu ndiine makore 17 okuberekwa. Ndakabata pamuviri nekuda kwekuramba ndichidanana nemukomana wangu kwegore. Ndakatya nekuti ndakanga ndisinganyatsonzwisisa zvaiitika mumuviri wangu uye ndaisaona mhirizhonga yaiva nechokuita nechiitiko ichi.
Vabereki vangu vakabva varonga kuonana nachiremba wemadzimai vaine chinangwa chokubvisa pamuviri. Ramangwana racho raida kuti "ndiwire" kuna chiremba "anochengetedza" uyo, pachivande, akanditsanangurira njodzi dzandinomhanya (kunyanya njodzi yekushaya mbereko). Mushure mebvunzurudzo iyi, ndakasimuka nevabereki vangu ndikavapa chido changu chekuchengeta mwana.
Mwanakomana wangu kudada kwangu, kurwa kwehupenyu hwangu uye mwana akadzikama kwazvo, anoshamwaridzana… Zvisineyi, pakutanga, hazvina kuhwinwa. Ndichisundwa nemhaka huru (iyo amai vangu vakabetsera zvikuru kuchengeta), ndakarega chikoro nokukurumidza pashure pechiziviso chomugariro wangu. Tai“sungirwa” kuroora. Saka ndakazviwana ndava amai vemba, ndichigara mumusha, ndine imba yangu neshanyo dzemazuva ose dzandaiita kuvabereki vangu nokuda kwemabasa bedzi.
"Handina kumbobvira ndasiya mwana wangu"
Pfungwa yekurambana yakauya kwandiri nekukurumidza, nechishuwo chekuwana chiitiko. Ndakadzidza zvakawanda, zvichida kukanganwa kuti ndakanga ndisingakwanisi kurera mwana wangu ndoga, sezvandakanga ndaudzwa naamai vangu kwemakore. Asi handina kumbobva kumwana wangu kusvika pari zvino: kumuchengeta zuva nezuva aive iye, asi dzidzo yake yaive ini. Ndakachengetawo zvaaida, zvaaifarira, kushanya kwachiremba, zororo, chikoro…
Pasinei neizvi, ndinodavira kuti mwanakomana wangu aiva nouduku hunofadza, ane rudo rukuru, kunyange zvazvo dzimwe nguva ndaigona kunge ndakafenda. Aive akadzikama kuyaruka uye aive nedzidzo inoremekedzeka: bac S, koreji uye zvino ava physiotherapist. Ndine hukama hwakanaka naye nhasi.
Kana ndirini, ndakanga ndine dambudziko guru rekuwana mari yangu. Mushure memakore akawanda e psychoanalysis, ini zvino ndiri mukadzi akazadzikiswa, akapedza kudzidza (DESS), chikamu chebasa revanhu munharaunda, asi nemutengo wekushanda nesimba uye kusingakundike pugnacity.
Ndichitarira shure, kuzvidemba kwangu hakusi pamusoro pechisarudzo chandakaita chokuva nomwana ndine makore 17. Aiwa, nhasi ndine ndangariro dzinorwadza dzeroorano yangu uye ukama hwandaiva nahwo panguva iyoyo naamai vangu. Kudzikisirwa kwandainge ndaita uye kuomerwa kwandainge ndaita kuti ndibude mazviri zvakandipawo simba rekurarama randingadai ndisina.
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